Comments on: I married a Muslim – do I throw my Christianity away?

By: Hope

Hope — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:51:47 +0000

Hi Laura,

A nice scripture is 1 Peter 3:1-4. What do you think?

Has the Lord given you any specific scripture about your husband, by the way?

By: Hope

Hope — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:34:40 +0000

Hi dear Helen,

Helen, if you feel that way, the Lord has convicted you and warned you. This union would have been from the Lord ONLY if you had perfect peace and a specific word from the Lord – and if you had confirmation from other believing friends/family.

In the absence of that, and in the light of the conviction you have that it would be wrong to marry the man you love, while he remains a Muslim, it would indeed be disobeying the Lord to enter into the marriage covenant with him.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

I pray for strength and courage for you – and for salvation for the man you love.

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 10:06:46 +0000

Helen, i feel for your struggle. I also had to make the decision. Should I marry him or not which was does God prefer? I do believe that God put my fiance in my life for me. I read the Bible for answers and I feel that God strongly encourages us to Love and have a close relationship with him. I have dated Christian men before and relationships i have had with Christians as in friends, family and partners put more strain on my relationship with God than my fiance. And this man I have chosen to marry has only helped me go to God more than ever. I can honestly say that he has made me a better Christian and a person. This is what I want in a relationship and I believe God provided. People have told me before that our marriage wont be in front of God. I think what funny choice of words. Everything is in front of God. He is in everything and as a Christian I believe that God is with us always surrounding us with Love and guidance. I hope you find peace with your difficult decision, keep the word close with you in your time of struggle.

By: helen

helen — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 09:21:27 +0000

Lord made provision for me with His teachings and the Apostoles’ teachings as well. And I shouldn’t marry an non-believer coz my union with him will not be in God’s eyes. This is what I believe as a Christian. My boyfriend believes that our marriage will be in front of God, he doesn’t want me to convert and he doesn’t mind if our children are raised as christians. However, it’s my personal belief that if I marry him I will disobey to my Lord’s rules and one of them is not to marry non Christians.

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 09:01:40 +0000

Wow, Liz, it seems as if your are in a muslim culture to have to do things in secret or is this is secret from your husband? I have talked with my husband about our kids and he is quite depressed when I mention about the western culture so influenced by Christianity much more than Islam. He’ll be without his family’s influence or Islamic schools and a few mosque when we raise our children. I feel quite awful to think that this wont be a fair fight and I would feel that if I were to change my desires in raising my children in church. Both of us will be quite heartbroken with our children to be of different faiths. I will raise my children in church every Sunday and he’ll be taking them for prayer every Friday and as long as I stay on the right path myself and be supportive of this, I fully believe that my children will find a relationship with God through the Son. Now, does this go against the verse of wives being submissive to their husbands?

By: Gulli

Gulli — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 00:25:50 +0000

Dear helen so sorry to read of your predicament,i am muslim born in a cristian country england by the way i love the land i was born in !anyway you love a muslim,your afraid to lose your family your religion your idenity, fear not our lord has made provision for you and me.
marry the muslim and tell him of your rights,if he does not except that you have every right to keep your religion tell him your lord has made provision for you and him,tell your love that his children will be bought up as muslim”inshallah” and that your lord has made provision for you and him.
So be happy Helen our lord has made provision for you and me !

By: helen

helen — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:49:06 +0000

I would like to add my personal knowledge here. Faith is something deep inside us which can be maintained even if we enter an inter-faith marriage. However, as Christians how do we maintain our loyalty to Christianity if we get married to a Muslim or any other unbeliever? I am Orthodox and if I marry the man I love (he is muslim) I will never be allowed to take the Holy Communion, my marriage will not be blessed in the eyes of Christ and I will be committing adultery for the rest of my life. How can someone be a true Christian if he doesn’t follow the rules of Jesus Christ as we inherited from Him through the Apostoles? All Christians who are in love with unbelievers should be really careful, because in the end it is not only about faith, what matters is if we choose Jesus Christ over a man or a woman….

By: Hope

Hope — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:41:17 +0000

Hi, the only thing I can think of is to connect with the Holy Spirit and see where to from here. It’s already done, you’re married and who knows what God’s plan for the future is, but God Himself?

Two verses spring to mind: 1 Peter 3:1-4 and 1Corinthians 7:13-14. Please read them, I don’t think space allows me to type them here.

How you handle things now are critical. If you are not in any danger, you indeed have no choice but to stay in the marriage – and the way you conduct yourself will either speak for Christ or against Him.. If there is any abuse, however, you do need to seek help and even leave the marriage (how were you married, what vows did you exchange – if any?).

The most important thing to remember is your eternal destiny – and His, so a lot of prayer is needed. You need to connect with the Lord and seek His wisdom in this difficult matter. Your husband, whom you love, is also a soul Christ died for.

By: s

Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:02:48 +0000

I have married a muslim man and am finding him the most selfish, short-tempered, lazy individual I have ever met. Though I love him, he is impossible to live with and quite crazy. As a Christian woman I would love to be free of him now, but it is not possible. How do I live with this creature?

By: Pieter

Pieter — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 07:24:10 +0000

Caring about you … Thank you for really caring and sharing your heart. PtL for true wisdom from you.