Everyday I wake up next to the man that I married. He is a Muslim and I am a follower of Jesus. When we decided to get married, neither of us was practicing our faiths, so it was an easy decision. In fact, our faiths looked quite similar in many ways and he had convinced me that they were indeed very similar.
Married 1 Peter 3:1-2
Even though I knew I had married a Muslim, his decision to start practicing (just one year after getting married) came as a huge surprise to me. It totally upset the balance that we had as two people, each living out our faiths in a very nominal way. Along with anger at him for changing (as we all do!!), I also felt a growing resentment towards this religion that was stealing my loving, caring husband and replacing him with someone who was so focused on rules, regulations and merciless rituals. Our romantic relationship took a serious turn for the worse.
The fact that he keeps the rules affects my life a lot. For example, if we have to be somewhere at a certain time (especially it is something for me, it seems), he’ll want to wait just a little longer before leaving so that he can get the next prayer in. During Ramadan it is especially challenging because he will basically not touch me all day – and definitely will not kiss me. This is hard for me, not because I want to kiss him all day (or maybe I do! 
), but because I see marriage as an open, living, breathing expression of love and commitment to each other. Sometimes, physical expression is needed to say what words cannot. I do think that he errs on the side of caution, especially during Ramadan, in hopes that he will make up for all the other days of the year that he is not following everything to the letter. I have to rely on God’s grace and wisdom to know how to respond to some of these things that my husband throws at me.
Lately, I’ve been grappling with how I will respond when he wants our daughter to start praying. This probably won’t happen for a while, but I fear the day that it does. I try to put things into perspective by weighing what is actually right and wrong. There is nothing wrong with washing, definitely nothing wrong with praying, or even praying at a certain time (this tradition, I believe, actually came from the Christian church a long, long time ago). The problem I will have is with our daughter having to state that Mohammed is a prophet and denying the divinity of Jesus. I keep praying that my husband will come to know Christ before this becomes an issue.
At the same time, there are many things that I can take from Islam and transfer to my own faith. Their view of God, His omnipotence, His omnipresence, and His sovereignty, is very core to how they see God. (If we could just throw in the knowledge of God’s love for us all, that would be great!!). I’ve learned to treat our Scriptures with more reverence. The goal I strive for is to find a balance between knowing God as a holy, pure and powerful God as well as knowing Him personally, as my Saviour, my friend and the One who loves me more than I could ever imagine!
Ironically, it was this sudden fervour of his that drove me back to my roots – my relationship with Jesus. Surprisingly, I am actually from a Christian family, grew up attending Sunday School , DVBS, Bible Camp, and even Bible College. I was a leader in my church and looked up to by many people, as a role model in the faith. What was the problem? In one short word … Pride. I never thought it could happen to me… I was firmly against marrying a non-believer but put in the right circumstances we are capable of anything.
Within a couple months of his awakened faith, I was invited to my friend’s church at Christmas. I went only because I thought it was the least I could do, being a nominal Christian and all. God had plans for me though. I don’t remember what the message was that day, but it made me want to return. So I did. The next Sunday, the message was about God’s all-encompassing love and His forgiveness, no matter how deep the sin. I sat in the front row with my dear friend. I wept. God had taken my heart of stone and softened it – miraculously; instantly. Words really cannot explain what happened in this short moment.
Here I am today, a follower of Jesus. There are many verses that encourage me, one that I think of almost every day is this one: “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” (1 Peter 3:1-2, NIV). I am challenged to look at my marriage, not as a mistake, but as a sign of God’s forgiveness, grace and love.
Prayer Requests for (Christian) women married to Muslim men:
- - That our love for Jesus would grow daily, through time in the Word and on our knees.
- - That we would be led by Spirit in how we live and share Christ – choosing words carefully.
- - That we would be well connected to a church body – and sought to be understood and supported.
- - Unity, wisdom and discernment in child-rearing.
- - A deep steadfastness in the knowledge of God’s love, knowing that God loves our husbands even more than we do.
- - The courage to stand in prayer for our beloved husbands. God has allowed us to become married (whether by disobedience or subsequent conversion) and will give us what we need to live as an example of Jesus in our homes, so that our beloveds would meet Jesus.
- - Pray against fear – the future is unknown and that can be very scary for a woman married to a Muslim – pray for increased faith and trust that He who holds our lives has good plans for them.
Editors Note: we have the offer of a Christian women wanting to help other women married to Muslim men. Feel free to leave comments and questions below in the comment section for now. We can always start a Marriage forum if we get enough replies.
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A friend of mine pointed out to our high school youth group the hazards of dating a non-believer.
You are a believer on the top bunk of bunk beds. Your unbelieving friend is in the bottom bunk. As you pull on each other, will you both end up in the top bunk or the bottom bunk?
This should be all a believer needs to know about dating an unbeliever.
Joe
Hi Joe,
Thanks for your message – yes it is true. We pull at each other. And this message should be all that a believer needs to know, you’re right. The danger comes when we see it as simple and logical… and PRIDE starts to say that we would never play the bunk bed game by dating a non-believer.
I never planned to date a non-believer. I definitely didn’t think I’d marry one. It was in thinking that I would never do it, that I did it. Anyone is capable of making mistakes. Attraction does not diminish when you logically say that you should not date a certain person.
Young people need good solid support when faced with making decisions like this. Flat out condemnation is not usually going to cause a person to turn away from a relationship that is wrong… but love can. And even more powerful is prayer. You don’t have to even tell them you’re praying… God moves in spite of it all!
I hope you are never faced with such a choice (of whether or not to date a non-believer) but if you are, I pray that you would have the strength and support to do the right thing in the eyes of the Lord.
While dating, I actually broke up with my husband for a few months. That was God. But then we saw each other again and didn’t want it to end. That was Self. It’s always a battle.
Thanks for sharing the analogy! It is a good one.
Blessings to you, Joe!
~Emily
are u calling muslims nonbelivers if so your wrong. my experience with my muslim husband and been no different than another beliver, he is for sure a believer.
A lot of women date unbelievers because they feel they aren’t completed without a man. It’s basically a form of female pride, you could say.
I basically don’t date, because I refuse to date anyone who is not a committed Christian man living a spiritual lifestyle – and to be honest, there aren’t many. But I’m waiting on God.
I’d rather never get married than deal with all the heartache that women have to go through who are married to unbelievers. Frankly, it’s not worth it to me. I’d rather be alone with God than with a man who is ungodly and makes my life miserable.
Muslims have no appeal for me – I can’t stand their views towards women and I have no desire to date any of them.
Wow, I thought i was reading my life story….lol As you i married a muslim man. I am a Christian. I also have so much angry now for his religion and him. I am thinking of divorce. I cannot over come the angry i have for him and his religions now after we married, before ther was none. but now that he is here and we married. wowo the angry i have. I have such a hard time being “Christ like” to him. I hate my marriage now. I do not know what to do anymore. I love Jesus and always will, but i do not think i can go on in this marriage.
Hi
bail out of your marriage now….he is out to destroy your faith in Jesus.
i will find you a good christian man to take care of you…i am available and I love the Lord Jesus dearly
for me, it is not a good moved to divorce your husband and marry another one, just be a blessing to your husband so that he will see the truth,nothing is imposible to the lord, keep on reading the bible and the lord will tell you what you must do,rely on him and bear in your mind that he has a purpose of everything….keep on your faith to the Lord Jesus!
The right move is not only take divorce from muslim person but educate other people belong to any religion that do not allow MUSLIM religion in their country.
Why Muslims are expect everything in Non -muslim country any non-muslim can expect every thing in MUSLIM countries.
Muslim religion is good but the EVIL IS IN THE HEART OF PERSONS WHO DONOT FOLLOW PROPERLY WHAT IS WRITTEN IN QURAN.
If any muslim deny JESUS this is not becuse of holy QURAN or Muslim religion this is becuse of evil IMAMS who do not teach good things to muslims.
LORD JESUS and MOTHER MARY AND JOHN this all the prophets are given so respect in HOLY QURAN that if u read quran then only u understand
Please read QURAN 3:30 TO 3:55.
JESUS WILL RETURN ON JUDGEMENT DAY THAT IS WRITTEN IN QURAN .
IT IS NOT WRITEEN THAT MOHAMMED WILL RETURN ON JUDGEMENT DAY .
the bible tells those married to non-believers that they are to stay in the marriage, that the one who is lost may be witnessed to and may also be saved, the best advice to any women married to a non-believer is that found in 1 Peter chapter 3 – win them without a word, that said after 23 years of marriage to a turkish muslim i am still praying for him – i have been saved for 17 years. i have had a lot of help and support from the loving a muslim group accessed through answering-islam.org
lol
OMG is this a dating site………..lol
dearly beloved,
your sins, including all mistakes are forgiven and your husbands as well. the fact that he has not come to claim his forgiveness does not negate it. your anger and hatred both for your forgiven sins and his religion will only do you more harm. be sure that the Lord wants you to leave the marriage and be sure to deal with the hatred and anger. God’s grace to you and the others!
Mbah
That is what i experienced, the Forgiveness of our Lord Jesus, it is true that people make mistakes but because he loves us, he will accept us again if we really recommit our life unto him and continue serving him no matter what our situations…tru the grace of our Lord Jesus, my muslim husband allowed me to practice my faith because he saw how really christians are,he was blessed and i do believe that sooner,he will accept the Lord jesus as his Lord and savior. and my whole family will be following Jesus!
sisters in christ, keep on your faith and be a blessing,as
mbah says,deal with your hatred and anger because it will really affect you,LOVE your Husband as the Lord Loves you…
Our situation is soo hard but that will make us more closer to the Lord, let us lift up each other so that we will become strong in our faith..keep in touch her always,read what will make you more closer to the Lord…..God bless!
anyway,im in a place where the muslim faith started,and all around me is a muslim….but Praise the Lord,inside of my house, i can freely practice my faith!
wow i thought i was the only 1 with this problem i have never been baptist but am am a spanish 20yr old girl who has been raised with christians my whole family is christian so i love jesus i married a muslim man 24yr from turkey at the beginning he was not religious at all everything was fine all of a sudden the day of our wedding his fat ass aunt that i hate actually gave me a head scarf u know the type they use i could believe ok i let that slide its been a year and i have grown to not only hate this religion but also my husband and his family he thinks he could controll me and that i should eat for there holiday once i argued with him locked myself in the room and screamed to him I LOVE JESUS !! it just came out of me ive heard they beat women i have let him know that he would get locked up if he ever touches me i think this would end in a divorse
Hi Susie,
Thanks for sharing a bit of your story. I’m sorry to hear that you are having a hard time loving your husband right now. I understand, but do pray that God would show you just how much He loves your husband. I will pray for you that your heart would be softened towards your husband and vice versa. I will also pray for God’s discernment for you.
I do feel I need to comment about the idea that all Muslim men beat their wives… it is not true. I’m sure that some do (as they do in every country and culture), but I have been with my BH (beloved husband) for almost 7 years and he has never even come close to hitting me. He is very gentle and does not see physical force as being a good response to anything.
In His sovereignty, God has allowed your marriage to take place. Your priorities (and mine!!) should be first to seek God’s heart (if you don’t desire that right now, ask God to put that desire in your heart – He will!). Second is to love and respect your husband. While this can be very challenging and look different in every relationship, it is important – see 1 Peter 3:1-2.
Susie, I do pray that God would help you and your BH to find the things that drew you together in the first place. I pray that your relationship would be strengthened and that your BH would see the love of Jesus shining through you!
Feel free to come back and let us know how it is going or if you have specific things we can pray about. God love you, Susie! He wants the very best for you and wants to shower His love and blessings in your life. Keep seeking Him, worshiping Him and loving Him with all your soul, mind and strength!
Much love,
Emily
susie dear, me too,im a christian but i married a muslim…..i don’t want to justify the sin that i commited by marrying a non muslim, but thru that, i really experienced how the Lord forgives me and how he loves me and my children and my husband too…I do believe that the lord has a plan for each in everyone of us, sometimes we don’t understand it but,he put you where you are to become a blessing to your husband so that he will come to know Jesus christ …if you are in a difficult situation right now, go to the Lord, never never give up, that is your ministry and your calling, pray hard and he will answer you…divorse is not the answer, as the Lord promise,your husband and your kids are sanctified, they are separated, so continue serving the Lord Jesus,show the Love of the Lord to them, and ask the Lord what you should do….
im so happy to see this site that i can share also with somebody … im your sister susie,cry out to the Lord, i know how you feel but stand up and keep you faith in Jesus christ burning…
you are not alone susie, we are with you as a sister,let us pray for each other..
Susie, I think you were too immature to be married in the first place. Second, you should divorce in order to get on with your life and your husband with his. The whole falicy that Muslim men beat their wives is crazy. It happens across all races, creeds, social and economic classes. My ex-husband was a Christian and delighted nothing more than beating me whenever he could. It was because of his personality and how he viewed women based on what he saw at home with his own father. A person like that will never be happy and never be able to have a healthy relationship. You most definately need to move on and marry someone of your own faith.
omg I gues your husband doesn’t love you at all. If he did hewouldn’t be doing those things to you. Islam does not preach that.lolhahaha too funny
Hi Cindy,
Thanks for sharing here about the struggle you are having right now. I understand.
Sometimes, the anger I feel towards my husband at times has me wondering how I ever loved him in the first place!! The one thing that has helped me to stay positive is that the battle we wage is not against our husbands as people… but against the evil forces of Islam that we can not see. Ephesians 6:12 (New Living Translation) says this,”For we are not fighting against people made of flesh and blood, but against the evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against those mighty powers of darkness who rule this world, and against wicked spirits in the heavenly realms.”
So this means that when the spirit of legalism grips my beloved husband, I need to see that it is not HIM but the Evil One working through and in him. This is not to say that I don’t hold him responsible for his actions (I definitely do!!), but for those things that just don’t make sense in my grace-filled paradigm, I have to remember where the battle is.
Most Christians, when they read this verse, do not think of a battle waging in their own home, in their marriage, in the one relationship that is supposed to be safe and secure. This makes it even harder for people not in our situation to understand.
I believe this battle is going on 24/7 – sometimes we have more strength, but trust me, when God is moving, Satan is counter-attacking. I’ve seen it time and time again. Even as I share through the ministry at 30-Days, I sense a stronger battle. I would not be surprised if my hubby, who hasn’t pulled out his prayer mat in weeks, pulls it out today, in an attempt to be a better Muslim.
Cindy, you (and I and any other believer in this situation) need to be especially well connected to the body of Christ. Are you connected to a church or a body of believers? Being connected does not have to imply that you go to church on Sunday (though being part of a church is a wonderful blessing if you are able to attend). Do you have someone, a female friend, you can meet with regularly to pray and intercede, not only for your husband, but for the strength of your own faith?
A wise friend once shared with me that the most important thing is not to focus on saving my husband — that is the work of the Holy Spirit. My most important task is to stay well connected to the true source of Life, Truth and Love – our Lord Jesus. This is hard. I struggle daily with this part. It does not happen naturally. But the key is that I need to keep struggling and challenging myself to stay in the Word and to be on my knees (at least figuratively, though bending every once in a while does a soul good!).
Cindy, I encourage you to keep pressing on. I’d love to hear more from you and welcome a response to my words here. You are so precious to God and He loves your beloved husband even more than you do! His desire for your husband’s salvation is stronger than yours. And HE IS ABLE!
I will pray for you and ask that you do the same for me and other women in our situation. We are not alone. God loves you and wants to walk with you through this difficult time. If you haven’t done this already, meditate on 1 Peter 3:1-2 – these are verses that have inspired me and encouraged me. God is sovereign – if He wanted to, He could have prevented us from marrying the men we did, but He didn’t. He has amazing plans to use us in the lives of our beloveds.
Cindy, I truly look forward to hearing from you again! And anyone else out there who is thinking they are totally alone – you’re not! And this website is a great way to connect with others who are struggling as well.
(This ended up being much longer than I anticipated… but I’m very passionate about the Hope that Christ has given us!!)
** Note: Abuse is a real thing and should not be tolerated in any relationship. If your husband is abusing you, you need to get help. God does not want us to be abused, nor does He ask us to tolerate it for His sake within the marriage context.
As a Muslim im surprise that you people actually got married to a Muslim and didint convert while doing so.
This show only one thing. The person you married is not a proper Muslim as he or she did not uphold the rule of Muslim marriage. In my opinion, it’s better to get a divorce as it will only drag him or her (the Muslim) to the hell fire as the marriage is not legal in Allah’s eyes.
Thus it dosent really matter if you divorce or not as in his eyes, you people haven’t got married just yet. I just dont know what culture you are from but nevertheless Islam rules is Islam rules there is no exceptions . For thousands of years it has been the same. The quran has never been edited nor touch.
Islam has only 1 book and one holy book only. We used to follow the bible(the real jesus) after his time is up. It’s all about the quran.
I’m sorry to get away from the topic, but i hope it helps you realise something about Islam that is often overlooked.
In your case, i am sorry. As long as you did not convert to Islam during marriage to a Muslim man or women it’s never accepted in Allah’s eyes.
If before the marriage the Muslim man or women said it is okay to practice each other faith and live in one house. It just show how much he lacks of basic knowledge about his Islam. Thus i am happy that he or she finally repent and hopefully you people do not argue as god has plan for everybody.We just follow it and have good faith that god gives us the good things in life and after life.
I want to share something deep and i know many will not understand but for those who does im happy for you.
Allah has written your whole life plan before you even got born, we follow that plan, we have no rights what so ever in it. We could pray to change something, but in the plan he already written and knows that you will pray to him about that something. That’s why we call him the all mighty as he has no features, no face no form nothing. But he’s there. There must be a force greater that creates his earth. A human can never create the sky the space or a life. It’s extremely logical that something stronger that is needed to create this universe.
It is nothing deep really. I got no issues with Christians or other faith. As long as they do not say something that is not true about Islam its okay. The media is the root to all evil, they brand us as being terrorist becasue that’s all they got to bring us down. If you really find out, who is behind all the media you will know why that’s happening.
I pray and hope you guys settle your matter quickly as you don’t want to pull each other to hell do you ? Resolve it as soon as possible.
I hope my post do not hurt any one, it might be tough on some people but fact is facts and i don’t wish to hide the truth. I wish you all the best and best of health and faith.
Regards,
Iman
It is so hard to find a good Muslim man that I do not believe that non-Muslim women (especially Christian women) should marry Muslim men. I think this is because of the brainwashing by Christianity and the effect of Christianity in the USA. The Prophet Muhammad (swt) married a Christian woman and a Jewish woman and that was fine for them, however, I don’t understand in the present day why a so-called Christian woman would marry a Muslim man, whether he was practicing or not since there was the possiblity that he would reenter his faith at some point during the marriage.
I am an American Christian woman married to a Pakistani Muslim. I am so lucky to have such a supporting church family, family and friends. We have been together for 3 years, he is religious as I am. MUslims and Christians can get married in God’s eyes. He doesn’t forbid it, but he doesn’t encourage it. Except in my case. I am so happy to live a Christian life with a man from a different religion and different culture that is so misunderstood and falsely accused of wrong doings by the West (esp. America). Because the culture is so influenced by islam it is easily confused to mix the two up. Even my my husband does at times. He says something (belief, judgement,…) based on what he thinks is from God, but then learns to find out that its his culture. I have done the exact same thing with my own wrongly outspoken beliefs. But what we do is learn and adapt and become stronger in our own faiths and in our relationship. I have had “Christian” boyfriends in the past. I will never again. I have had AMerican boyfriends in the past and really happy to say, I will never again. My situation is not uncommon, but only posts that our posted are about abuse, homicide and militant organizations that are so wrongly accused of being from Islam. But the islamic religion doesn’t allow the followers to question or disagree with other “muslims”. I have about 2,000 muslim friends among me who will not questions Gadhafi’s actions, not because they agree, but because they fear to do so for being such devoted followers of their God. I have learned a lot from them. As my husband has from me.
Laura, I will be very surprised if you are not living in a Western country. May you continue to have the support of your church family, family and friends. My prayer is that the light of Jesus will shine on your husband so that the Truth will set him free.
Western China, far from Beijing, Shanghai and Hong Kong.
Iman, I’m sorry, but I must correct you. A Muslim man can marry a Christian or Jewish woman. Only a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim man. I don’t want anyone to be confused about the status of their marriage.
Bettina is absolutely correct. I just wanted to reiterate so that people don’t start thinking their marriages are “invalid.” Truly, a marriage built on “forced/coerced” conversion at the time of marriage is more invalid than an interfaith marriage where both faiths are acknowledged and respected. According to Islam a Muslim man CAN marry a Christian or a Jewish woman. Forcing conversion at the time of marriage is unIslamic (there is no compulsion in religion) and the belief that that this type of “mixed” marriage is not allowed is only a personal or cultural practice that has no basis in the Qur’an. For some reason, it is readily accepted that a Muslim woman cannot marry one of another faith, but truly in my reading of the Qur’an I never saw a distinction made between ‘rules for men’ and ‘rules for women.’ Mainstream Islam does teach, though, that a Muslim man may marry a Christian or Jewish woman and a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim.
TOOOOOO funny and you call yourself an Imam. I am married to a muslim man. I have not converted nor have I ever said I would. After 19 years together I have never heard anything funnier than you. hahahaha lol and I think I have hurt you now. Islam is a religion of respect and you are not respecting us.
Islam has only 1 book and one holy book only. We used to follow the bible(the real jesus) after his time is up. It’s all about the quran.
I mean jesus. Not the real Jesus, in Islam we also believed in one Nabi Isa (Jesus) . Here’s something we believe too.
Jesus is not dead Allah taken him to the sky, one day he will come back down. Just a fun fact.
Anyhow i wish all the best in faith and life.
(and sorry for the typo)
i agree with you iman but one point “Jesus is not dead Allah taken him to the sky, one day he will come back down. Just a fun fact ”
this is not fun fact this is written in QURAN ” JESUS WILL RETURN BACK IN JUDGMENT DAY “.
Pls read 3:20 to 3:55 of HOLY QURAN anyone have any doubt will remove .
My husband talks about how Jesus never died. The whole christianity belief is based on the fact that God sacrificed his son for our sins making him, the way, the truth and the light for all. It is his covenent with everyone, no longer is it for the decedents of Abraham. THis is something that we both have to understand and accept from the other religion. To deny that he died is to deny our faith. But interesting how similar are the religions. Jesus is coming back. For all we need to be prepared.
I have a dear Muslim friend who adamantly denies that Jesus died on the cross. When he sayas that, it is like a dagger piercing my heart. Every year at Easter we talk about this and he has never changed his viewpoint, because this is what the Quran says. But the bottomline is that both the Quran and the Bible cannot be right. Now the Muslims opt to accuse the Christians of changing the Bible. But have you noticed the agony of Jesus in the events building up to his arrest and crucifixion?
There is only one solution to know the Truth. Read the Bible. Read the Quran. Ask God for Guidance- and He will show you the Truth…
I did that three years ago and it changed my life…
Could separate fact from fiction- and it’s right before your eyes…
We depend on third party interpretations from priests and imams, which cloud our judgement… We choose to believe what pleases us… We justify our beliefs based on hearsay…
Break free and seek the Truth, Firsthand!
God Bless!
Dear Askin
When I read the Injil, I read the words recorded that Jesus said: “I am the Truth, the Way and the Life, nobody comes to the Father except through me”. I had an encounter with Jesus when I was 18 years old, so these words resonate in my heart. If a person has not had an encounter with Jesus, these will just be empty words. These words of Jesus also confirms to me what is written elsewhere in the Bible: “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him – but God has revealed it to us by his Spirit”.
I agree with you in one way, but I think in the last analysis the answer is not found merely in a book. Jesus invited us: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Do that and you will have an encounter with Jesus.
Salaam.
Thank you all for your commenting back to me. It is in God’s hands now. There are alot of differances between us besides religion, there is culture,age. I give it to God .
thank you for this add, becouse i want advice, i have a boyfriend muslim and im christian. Im stay in house my boyfriend, but i dont understand what he want, before im happy to our relationship, but now i dont know what he want, becouse my boyfriend not have time for me as of now, everyday he go outside and come back early in the morning. Everytime he tell to me, dont think to much about me, becouse i love you. You dont understand anything. He tell me before, he want to marry with me. Why now he change,i dont know if give only for me challenge or not love me. Please i want advice, becouse i dont know what i do. I love to much my boyfriend. I want to now only why he make for me this. Im only in the house im not go outside. I take care of him. I want only to know what i do. Thanks.
Clare, love and marriage must be built on mutual respect. It is hard to see any respect from him for you. However, I do not see the way he acts toward you in person. His actions you describe tell me that he has very little respect for you.
Why do you stay at his house? Is this necessary? Are you alone with him there or is this his parents house?
What do you love about your boyfriend? What does he love about you? Do you love HIM?…or just some things about him? And ask these questions of him about you. So many men want girls for only one thing.
There is a very true saying that is important to remember.
Girls play at sex to get love.
Guys play at love to get sex.
These two motivations in a relationship will lead to much heartache in the future.
Are you familiar with the term “unequally yoked”?
joe
Hi Clare,
I have to say that I agree with Joe. Living with and/or being married to a person who does not respect you or treat you well is not good. Your email is a bit vague – can you answer the questions that Joe asked?
Relationships are tough at the best of times and take two people working at them equally as hard to be good.
It would be good to hear more from you!
Prayerfully,
Emily
HOLA CLARA,ME LLAMO LA ATENCION TU INQUIETUD POR ESO TRATARE DE RESPONDERLE.SI ALLAH LO PERMITE,EN PRIMER LUGAR LO MOJOR PARA USTED ES APRENDER UN POCO DEL ISLAM,DE ESE MODO PODRA DIFERENCIAR MEJOR SI SU NIOVIO ASI COMO LE LLAMA ES MUSLIM,LE COMENTARE PARA Q ME ENTIENDA UN POCO,EN PRINCIPIO EN EL ISLAM NO HAY NOVIASGOS,NO INTIMIDAD,NI ESTAR A SOLAS EL HOMBRE CON UNA MUJER NI A LA INVERZA,POR LO QUE COENTA DE ESA PERSONA PODRIA SOLO DECIRLE QUE EN EL MUNDO AHI DE TODO,MUSULMAN SIGNIFICA VIVIR SOMETIDO A LA VOLUNTAD DE ALLAH(DIOS)EL ISLAM ES UN MODO DE VIDA,ESTO QUIERE DECIR QUE EL BUEN MUSLIM CUMPLE CON LOS MANDATOS DE ALLAH Y LAS ENCEÑANSAS DEL PROFETA MOHAMED(SAWAS)ES NECERIA QUE SI LES INTEREZA UN MUSLIM SEPAN DE LA RELIGION DEL ISLAM,PARA QUE QUEDE MAS CLARO TE DOY UN EGEMPLO SIMPLE,SI TIENES UN ELECTRODOMESTICO NUEBO ESTE LLEGA CON UN MANUAL,SI NO LO UTILIZAS COMO DICE EN EL MANUAL NO FUNCIONA O SE DAÑA.EL MANUAL(GUIA)DEL MUSULMAN ES EL SAGRADO QURAN Y LAS ENCEÑANZAS DEL PROFETA(SAWAS)SI TU APRENDES UN POCO SABRAS SI ESA PERSONA ES BUEN MUSLIM O SI NO LO ES,NO PODEMOS LO SMUSULMANES ELEGIR LO QUE QUEREMOS Y EL RESTO DE LA LEY DE ALLAH NO CUMPLIRLAS,EL MUSLIM CUMPLE CON TODO EL QURAN Y LAS ENCEÑANZAS DEL PROFETA MOHAMED(SAWAS)EL QUE NO CUMPLE ,ES IPOCRITA NO MUSULMAN Y ESA PERSONA SABE QUE TENDRA UN MAL FIN EL DIA DE JUICIO FINAL…SERIA INTELIGENTE DE TU PARTE QUE ESTUDIES UN POCO LOS MODALES DEL BUEN MUSULMAN.BUSCALO ASI,AHI MUCHO EN GOOGLES,O PON ISLAM HAUSE, TAMBIEN TENDRAS MUCHO PARA LEER Y ESCUHAR AHI,DE ESE MODO PUEDES CORREGIR A TU PROMETIDO PARA Q RERECE AL CAMINO CORRECTO Y SE COMPORTE REALMENTE COMO BUEN MUSULMAN, SERA TU BENEFICIADA COMO MUJER Y MAS AUN SI TU HACEPTAS EL ISLAM.ALLAH QQUIERA Q PUEDAS COMPRENDER LO QUE TRATO DE EXPLICARTE Y PUEDAS APRENDER DEL ISLAM PARA QUE SE AYUDEN ENTRE USTEDES DOS,PERO SI EL PREFIERE SER IPOCRITA(EL ENTIENDE ESA PALABRA QUE SIGNIFICA EN EL ISLAM,) ENTONCES ES MEJOR ALEJARTE DE EL,PERO MI RECOMENDACION ES APRENDE,LEE Y ASI NO SE REPITA UN MAL MOMENTO O PUEDAS SER FELIZ CON EL.”QUE LA PAZ Y LA GUIA DE ALLAH ESTE CON USTEDES”
That good. Cause Islam means , full submission. And if you are a christian and fully submit your self to your god. It’s really an act of faith.
Just remember that, to me it is Allah who have plan everything, from the leave drops from the tree to the snail walking to the great collapse of Lehman Brothers to everything. He has the reasons behind it, only we don’t know and we will know some day.
and for you Cindy, age , culture is not a problem. My prophet Muhammad, first wide is 42 years old when he married her. He is only 20. It’s the love and the time spend with each other that makes it all worth while.
Keep on the faith and everything will be fine.
Regards,
iman
I’m suprised at you Imam. You said Emily is not married before Allah because she was not converted before the marriage and now you say it’s good for Clare, who is not converted to Islam to be abused by her Islamic boyfriend who is married to her? You obviously would want her to marry the boyfirend “unconverted” so long as she submits to the dehumanisation of your Pudah. what does Allah say about this live-in relationship? Christ says its wrong!
Mbah
I mean “boyfriend who is NOT married to her”
Mbah
is it really these muslims guys fault that the Christian religion is relaxed ? i cant see the logic of what im reading here.
it seems like you women where ok when your men said they where muslims but never paritied it, but now that they are priating the religion you have problems with it,
So to a read like myself it would sound true that you don’t love or repect these men for being muslims as you just liked them when they had the Badge,
if you put more effort in understanding and talking to your husbands then you (Emily) put in this site you may find some true common ground.
I’m muslim myself, and im so open minded my mindset merged with the milky way when listening to a scientologist, if you can listen to them you can take on Any type of talk,
But anyways if you want to be stubborn about it carry on a fill a divorce,
and on a off note this website maywell be a cooked up storytime,
I just can’t see someone leaving their husband or wife just because they are following their religion.
I think a person’s faith is very important, it is the reason why we do the things we do. You cannot understand a person, as in know them, until you know their religion. Especially when planning the rest of your lives together. I will never leave my husband for him being a muslim, but I will so quickly if he ever puts up a barrier between me and Christ. The Holy Bible tells us that God is love, there are many things that are written in the Quran that goes against that statement. I try to do what is right by God and if my husband tells me to something that goest against that I will leave.
I just want to make it clear that religion is not something to take lightly and for someone to leave their wife or husband it isn’t because of an organized church but something that is part of them.
that is exactly my stoy, i love my husband, he is a muslam, but my love for jesus is bigger he is my savior, i have a 2 year old son and i always pray for him to accept jesus in his heart, i know there is nothing impossible for jesus, he said ASK and i Will give, so im very faithful i know he will open my husband’s eyes and he will understant that jesus is his savior. he is really nice and let me put on a chistmans tree, he celebrates with me and my family, but im afraid that as he gets older he will start to practice his religion.. i just leave everything on God’s hands.. and i will keep asking and i Will receive
i just wanted to say i married to a muslim woman and i have no religion really. i was grown up christian but i dont beleive in any religion becuz i believe in science. all i have to say is we have a daughter and our life is great. yes her family flipped out but if your sayin that “allah” says dont marry anyone whose not muslim your mistaken. why would god put muslims over me or my daughter or my family or anyone i know not muslim. muslims are not above anyone, neither am i. i hate that muslims say that but say there not prejudice you think your better than everyone yet your messenger was raping a 7 year old girl. god would not let his messenger do that. muhammad was a sick perv who was crazy. if i said god sent me messages would you beleive me no. im not just hating on muslims all religions teach to be prejudice. we need to stop this and let people beleive what they beleive.
Thanks for sharing your story, Elena! I am praying with you for your husband’s salvation. One thing that has been impressed upon more and more, the longer I’m in this relationship is that it is not up to me to “convert” my beloved husband. That is the work of the Holy Spirit. The more time I spend getting fed in the Word and in prayer, listening to Him and sharing my heart with Abba Father, the more His light shines from me into the world.
The more we know God, the more He works through us! Praying that continue to shine bright in your family and with your friends. God is working, all the time!
There are still struggles though, that cannot be denied. And I pray for you during the struggles as well, that your faith would be strong, that you would have the courage to trust God. I’ve been challenged a lot with that lately. I’m overwhelmed by the magnitude of it all, but I’m continually reminded that God is bigger than it all. He can move mountains and I’m asking Him do that that, in my life, in your life. No heart is too far that He can’t reach it!
Thanks for sharing, Elena!
Thanks Emely,this really help us to grow more…am so happy that i found this web site…God is so
I answered the lie about Rasulullah, peace be upon him, being a pervert to another commenter on this article.
This whole website is a crock. I think sects who aggresively seek out to convert people have really big issues and just want to prove that they are right. I think they should let others do as they will. It holds no harm to anybody to have diversity in the world. The way some of these people talk they it seems they want to eradicate the world of anyone who doesn’t think like them or refuses to change to be like them.
The advice on here is so sick. Omitting things about christianity like the son of god relevance in the bible because it would “confuse” muslims. That is highly offensive. The majority of muslims understand exactly what christianity is and what they believe. My husband (who is muslim) knows more about the bible than some christians do.
And… if these women purposely married muslims… they should have researched a bit more into the background of the religion and the culture they were to become attached to. If you don’t like it, leave. The man does not deserve to be detested by practicing his faith. Faith is a very personal thing and if you love someonee you should also respect their decision. As far as children are concerned in mixed marriages it should be left to the child to decide, as long as they are being taught to be good persons it doesnt matter.
I think it is a weak or desperate person who marries someone so different from themselves and doesnt have the intelligence to think about the consequences.
The comments about “evil” being in the husband is bs. Please show it to your husband and see how long he wants to be with you still. You are lying to yourself and lying to him. What kind of marriage is that anyways?
The whole thing makes me sick.
Hi Emily,
I would just try to correct a small misconception that you have about the “loving” part of Allah.
You wrote:
“…Their view of God, His omnipotence, His omnipresence, and His sovereignty, is very core to how they see God. (If we could just throw in the knowledge of God’s love for us all, that would be great!!)…..”
As far as I understand, you tried to imply that Muslims do not think that God loves his creations. That is not correct. One of Allah’s names is Al-Wadud, which means The Most Loving, The Most Affectionate.
There is a saying from our Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) that Allah’s love for us is 70 times more than our mother’s love for us.
The 70 is of course not a rigid number – but rather a symbolic.
Also, in Islam, it has been stressed again and again that Allah is most forgiving and he loves to forgive. No matter how big a sinner you are, as long as you ask for forgiveness honestly (which means that at least at that moment you are determined not to commit those sins again), Allah will pardon you.
Hi Rajib,
I apologize for making such a blanket statement, it was not fair or true. But in Islam, the nature of the love that is expressed by Allah is different than the love expressed by God in Christianity. I encourage you to read the following article: http://www.30-days.net/shop/download/love_god_quran.pdf.
To summarize, the love of God in the Koran is conditional. In order to gain God’s love in Islam, one must obey God. But in the Bible, God’s love is proven to be unconditional. God loves us first so that we might love Him. Even when we sin, the love of Jesus does not fail. This does not give us license to sin, oh no! But it does free us from wondering if we are being “good enough” to be loved by God. The article explains it better than I do – I encourage you to read it!
Again, I apologize for the way that I spoke. It was inappropriate and not fair at all. I do pray that God’s love would fill each and every person who reads these words!
if God’s love in the Bible is so unconditional then why will I go to hell if I reject Jesus as God?
doesn’t that put a condition?
no, hell is the consequence of blatant rejection.
So I can stay Muslim and go to heaven, according to Christianity? Sweet!
hi Emily,
I wonder what kind of Islam your husband is following.
From the Islam that I have studied, that too from mystics in the deserts of Yemen, there is nothing in this religion that prevents a husband from not showing love and affection towards his family. Infact we are encouraged to show affection and eat away our anger.
our prophet said “The best of you is the one who is best with his family”. Unfortunately your husband’s Islam is a dry version of Islam that stems from Wahabism or its offshoots.
in centrality Islam’s message is love of God… existence is nothing other than a manifestation of God’s attributes and all of his attributes ultimately point out to 4 basic ones
The Omnipotent, The All-Wise, The Benevolent, The Gracious
and these 4 ultimately boil down to 1… “The Love” al-Wudood.
we believe in prophets as manifesation of these attributes. especially of the attribute of “The Gracious”
hence our love for them is intertwined with our love of God.
because for every action of mercy that we see in them we see God’s mercy and for every action of love in them we see God’s love… hence the more we know them, the more we know God and the more we love them the more we love God.
Jesus is a great prophet of God and we love him dearly…and our love for him is not an indebtedly or guilt love as Christians might have.
a love that roots from the idea of “oh we are eternally and inherently sinful and nothing can redeem us of our eternal sins except an eternal sacrifice”
for Muslims this is inconceivable
we believe God is ALL forgiving.
and a question for you would be; If forgiveness demands sacrifice and redemption then can we really call God merciful or forgiving?????
if my neighbor owes me a 1000 $ and then the next day he comes to me saying He’s sorry and he’s broke
i can do three things
1. demand him to pay 1000$ back
2. demand him to pay just a portion of it back
3. tell him it’s okay… since you genuinly feel sorry i forgive you and I still love you.
obviously the 3rd is forgivness… 1st and 2nd aren’t Forgiveness and they are not Mercy
if God was so merciful then why did he make us all inherently sinful?
why can’t he simply forgive us if we go to him broken heartedly in acceptance of our short-comings?
why does he have put himself in flesh and then sacrifice himself for our sins?
why is it that the prophets of the OT or rather all the prophets prior to Jesus would find the trinitarian doctrine heretical?
how do you reconcile with such diametrically opposing doctrinal differences between the Prophets of the OT and Paul’s interpretation of his inspiration of what Jesus said?
on top of that how do you digest modern archeological findings about the Mythraic religion, which was the dominent religion of Rome at the time of Jesus… , that it has startling similarities with Christianity?
how do you digest the fact that they too had a belief in a figure called Mithra who was the son of god, a sun god, and he died on the cross to redeem man of his sins? he had the same number of disciples and then was raised from the dead? and you goto Church on ”SUN”day not SONday
does the thought ever occur to you that Paul or the Romans made up Christianity just to fit in with their already existing religion?
finally, why would you judge Islam based on modern times? shouldn’t you put things in context? have you ever visited a Muslim country or the least studied their history?
should we forget Colonialism, WWI, the formation of tyrannical Muslim states that are supported by foriegn nations? how the populations are opposed to these rulers but these rulers are aided and abetted by countries mainly the US. they squelch dissent , control religious authority and education.
why not read abit on Ottomon dervishes and the Sufi tradition of Islam that the majority of the Muslims still follow instead of focusing on a hand full of people that are shown on the TV and blown out of proportion to make the viewers think as if all Muslims are like those radical lunatics.
why not hear what some of the Muslim scholars in US have to say about Islam… try listening to Hamza Yusuf Hanson for instance, or Abdul Hakim Murad… or Nuh Keller
atleast you build some frame of reference… you’ll find their talks on Youtube
just a few questions I thought you should ask yourself.
Dear Maghi,
you seem to have some nice examples and questions nearly outside Emily’s problem. Let’s follow your examples! your neighbour owes the money to your company but you let him owe so much to teach him that he cannot pay because you have a huge account to draw the debts of all who realise they cant pay. Christ was chosen before the foundation of the worl as the Lamb of God that takes away the sins of the world and revealed at the right time.
you see Maghi85, God’s plan id biger than the human mind and so he reveals it bit by bit progrssively. He used the skin of an animal to cover human nakedness but man did not realise then that He had used the blood to cover his sin. latter he gave animal blood to cover sin leading us to the perfect sacrifice planned before the foundation of the world. when your neighbour realises truely that he cannot pay and does not have the ability to live without getting more debt, he comes in humility not just to get debt relief but to recieve ability to live without debt. of course he will have to struggle but aided to gain financial freedom and then lead others through the same process.
This is so because God created him with a free will. his first parents made the wrong choice leading to generational inherent sinfulness. if this is difficult for you to understand ask those who have studied common medicine. if you get a virus and dont get rid of it, it runs through your linage or is not true in Islam? the death of the offender is God’s decree and we cannot explain why it is so but it seems Muslims even arrogate that to themselves in some of their Law. however our first parents were properly warned – not that the warning would have prevented it, it was bound to happen for God had already chosen the eternal sacrifice then – so for God to justly punish satan, He had to punish man’s sin but take the punishment himself because he loves man.
you see Maghi, Satan is a very powerful counterfitter (I hope the wor exists). Through all ages, he has continued to counterfit God’s plan. the difference that worry you is as I have tried to explain due to progressive revelation. God was progressively revealing his plans through the prophets and some of them did not even understand what they were saying when they spoke that was why they would go back to search “intently” about what they had spoken about salvation.
you see Maghi85, God wants to be known in every culture for it was He who founded culture by confusing the language of the earth. The Roman impositions should not be a problem for any people as God is working at causing the gospel to be entrenched in the mannerism of all peoples. Christians live a life of worship and worship everyday but especially on the first day of the week because of the historical meeting after the resurrection but that is not a rule. Tou may worship on Friday or Saturday if it is more convenient for your culture, it just that the Romans were in power then and so they determined the Calendar. this reply is getting too lenghty but I believe that if you are sincere, these would help you.
Mbah
read the story…i have a few things to pen…first of all it is said that bible and quran are scriptures from allah god whatever u want to call him.bible is said to be only for people of that particular age and quran is for entire humanity.bilble and quran if read properly have many similaritiies.whatever u r going through….why dont u face it with a positive approach rather than have such a pesimistic attitude towards it.why dont u realise that probably ur husband lately realised that not practicing his faith earlier was worng on his side and now he is trying to make up for it….why dont u give him asupporting hand and try to understand his side of story rather than messing up ur marriage….dont forget he is the man u loved and married….a man getting closer to allah is not bad….maybe u r not thinking for his point of view….why dont u lend him a supporoting hand…..and yes to top it all…remmber one thing…muslims definitely bleive that muhammed is the last messenger and he tops the list but do make a not of this…we r not muslims if we dont belive in jesus as a meesenger too.our respect for jesus is totally unquestionable.we have tremendous love for jesus and mary and do keep this in mind that allah has also said that the most pious women is no one but “MARY” “MARIAM” AS WE CALL HER.ther are certain misconception in ur mind.talk it out wit ur huband .coz when u dont have knowledge of a certain issue u need to discuss before commenting on it.i advice u have a positive approach to the entire situation…. believ me u will have a wonderful married life.all the best.
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Vikram
To be clear, I love my husband dearly and wouldn’t trade him for anyone! I am extremely thankful for him and I do not believe leaving is even an option:
“1 In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives.” 1Peter 3:1-2, NLT
God works with our imperfections, our bad decisions and makes good of them. It has been a tough road, for sure, but God’s presence in our relationship is what makes it work. He is my Redeemer.
-Emily
Praise God, Emily! You are on the right track. God told me I’d learn obedience to Him by obeying my husband, who was difficult to live with the first few years of our marriage. God showed me by James 2:10 and 3:16 that I was guilty before the One True Holy God of every sin that I hated in my husband. That was very upsetting to me, but I received a love for TRUTH from above, and God showed me I was guilty of every sin. The Precious, Perfect blood of the Lamb of God was applied to me, more fully than every before, and I was 100% cleansed by faith as in 1 John 1:9, so I could be filled with God’s Holy Spirit, in His Righteousness, Peace and Joy! All by faith in the Wonderful Gospel of Jesus Christ! So when I submitted to God first with all my heart, soul, mind and body, and then unto my husband as unto the LORD, I could believe all my husband’s sins onto the cross with Jesus, and then my own sins, too, and I could look at my husband as clean and pure as the LORD Jesus Himself! I could honor and obey my husband as unto our LORD, because He is always WORTHY of utmost obedience. Praising, honoring and obeying my husband became an act of worship and faith to our GOD. Even if my husband didn’t turn fully to God, I was still glad to obey as unto the LORD. Eventually, though, he did submit fully to God. Bless the LORD, who is blessed forever more! ALL FOR JESUS! Jeanie
Wow Jeanie what wonderful and true words. You really lifted my spirit up today. I am learning the same thing thru my muslim husband. It is so hard because he is so immature in soooooooo many area’s. But I am praying God helps me to repect my husbands position. What a great testomony you have. We over come by the Blood of the Lamb and the Word of our testomony. Thank you Jesus!
What is so great about enduring an immature husband? Women really need to get out of the “I show my love by putting up with all kinds of nonsense from a man” rut, thinking it’s the same as showing obedience or love for God. I left an immature, abusive man for a kind, loving, sweet and gentle man who is easy to love/easy to understand. What a great decision! I wish I’d made it sooner.
Just keep your faith burning! as the Lord says, commit your way to the Lord:trust in him and he will do this psalms 375(means,roll your way onto the Lord and trust unto him,and He works) just praise the Lord for your familys’salvation…He is bigger than our situation…love you my dear friend..
consider it all joy,my brethren,when you encounter variuos trials,knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance and let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete,lacking in nothing.But if any of you lacks wisdom,let him ask God,who gives to all men in generously and with out reproach,and it will be given to him.But let him ask in faith without any doubting,for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea driven and tossed by the wind…james 1:2-6
Jesus is the only way the truth and the life,no man comes unto the father except tru him, the day will come that he will reveal himself to everybody and proved that what we are serving is the true God!
this message is for IMAN.. I have a lot of respect for your religion (Islam), but I also respect all peoples’ religions… BUT… do you actually believe that God, the all mighty, the all wonderful, the all loving and caring, will actually throw someone in eternal fire (basically contradicting everything He is) just because that person fell in love with someone of the opposite religion, when that other person was also created by the SAME God???!! Our mentality is nowhere on the level of Allah’s, and an act like that seems to be something the mentality of a human being would come up with, selfishness… God is Love… and when 2 people fall in love, it is an act from God, since God does have everyone’s lives written out.. AND if God does have everyone’s lives written out and 2 people of the opposite religion got married, lived, and died together, then isn’t that God basically saying that its ok!!!! I don’t believe that God (the all loving and caring) will look at two people HAPPILY inlove and say “NO, you two are NOT allowed to love each other”
P.S since Both religions are focused on the SAME God, and both are a positive guide to life, then what is the big deal for the two to be together.. when one goes to the Church and one goes to the Mosque, they’re going for the same reason.. just different ways to practice their love for God (same idea)…. NO harm in that what so ever… people need to be more open minded.. God is probably laughing at our ignorance. God is too great to draw an image of him, BUT we can place him in a particular group???
just some food for thought……… no disrespect to anyone or their religion… I have read much of the Bible and the Qur’an and have much respect for both but slowly became disgusted with the human behavior and closed minded people… peace to alllllllllllll for we are ALL God’s people…
Upon reading the many replies to letters, I notice that the writers use small letters when mentioning God, Jesus. This is disrespectful towards the Almighty. I’m sure it’s not done on purpose by any of
the writers, but God/Jesus is awesome and deserves this respect.
Dom Wynne
While I do not aspire to become Muslim, as a Catholic/Christian I do admire some of the Muslim
religious teachings, yet, there is much lacking in this belief compared to Christianity. Since nothing is IMPOSSIBLE with God, and He sent prophets to earth time and time again to warn the people of their sinful behaviour. Because the people were stubborn and turned to false gods, God decided he would send his Beloved Son, Jesus through the Immaculate Heart of Mary by the working of The Holy Spirit
through Mary’s virginal birth when the Angel Gabriel appeared to Her. Didn’t this same Angel Gabriel appear to Mohammed? Man continued to sin, and God’s only Begotten Son preached the message from His Heavenly Father, appointed the twelve apostles to carry out His message, but the so-called religious plotted agains’t JESUS, and He did die on the cross to redeem all sinners. Nothing is IMPOSSIBLE WIth GOD ! He loves the ordinary people rather than the learned. A Great Friend to Have
It does not matter what religon your mate comes from,it is wheather you love them.Would you be with a chirstian that hates you or a muslim that loves you?You are not loving that persons religon you are loving them.
The space allotted for comments and replies is too narrow. However, I’m back again to continue where I left off. If two people love one another, no matter what religion, as long as they respect each other, there is no place in a marriage, or partnership for violence, jealousy, resentments, suspicions, etc, etc, for this would not be true love in the sight of God. Love is a wonderful gift from God, and parents should not interfere with a marriage, advice yes, but good advice since they, the parents have lived throough lifes experiences. Parents should not have rows in front of their children, but have theirsay in private without yelling and shouting. Children need to feel secure in the home. Look around society to see the result of broken homes due to the selfhness of parents. There should be no such thing as ‘partners’ because this was not in God’s plans for marriage, it’s not a business, but a commitment that is blessed by God. Yes, God/Jesus is a true friend whom we will all meet one day.
I agree with what Rays said above. We must respect others, no matter whatever religion our convictions are. Interfaith dialogue is also helpful if we are open minded, and respect each other.
For all three of ‘Abrahamic’ religions Judaism, Christianity and Islam considered human race are from one parent – i.e Adam and Eve. Therefore we are counsins and brothers in that sense.
My story goes a bit differently. I married a Muslim, as a Christian who had only ever missed church on 3 or 4 Sunday’s since birth (not exaggerating). I questioned whether our relationship was right in God’s eyes, but it caused both of us to become more religious, and we both loved and respected each other, so it seemed good. I prayed and prayed that he would come to Christ. Then our son was born. We had previously agreed to teach our son about both faiths with him being allowed to choose when he was of age. This broke my heart, though, as it did my husbands, because we both truly felt it wasn’t a choice of culture, but of salvation.
For this reason, I set out to prove Islam wrong. I researched and researched, looking for the evil in Muhammed, and what his true motives were, because the Qu’ran could not be from God!
When my research turned away from propaganda sites set on painting Islam as ugly and Satanic, and turned to actual valid Islamic sources, I was so surprised by what I found.
For months I read everything I could on Islam and Christianity…from “The Case for Christ” to “Prophet Muhammed: A Mercy to the World.” And again and again, it was Christianity which came up short! This was NOT what I wanted to find. Christianity was my life, I taught VBS, counseled at church camp, was the daugther to two Sunday school teachers, played Christmas music NONSTOP starting the day after Thanksgiving, etc. (alright, so Christmas music doesn’t make you religious….but still)
But it happened. I found Muhammed to be a true prophet of God. The Qu’ran is revelation from God, and the Bible holds wisdom and inspiration from God, but ultimately, it’s a book written by man. What’s more, were the Bible to be 100% accurate, it still never paints the picture of the trinity that the Christian church is based on today. It broke my heart to find that I’ve spent my life following man made doctrine, but now alhumdu lilah I’ve found the direct path to God.
Now I view my marriage as truly from God. I always suspected…and wrongly assumed my husband would be the one to benefit by “seeing the light.” God is much greater than we could ever imagine, though, and although it was hard for me to come to terms with the truth I had found, I was and will always be grateful to God for leading me past the propaganda and media portrayal to the true beauty of a relationship with God through the revelation sent to Muhammad (pbuh).
I do not feel I have “denied” Christ. I feel I’m finally following the monotheism he truly preached. I feel Jesus would be proud of me for seeing past my comfortable circumstances and become even more like Jesus. I loved teaching Bible School, and still wish to spread the love of God, although this time I hope to do it by teaching at the Islamic School I plan on sending my son to.
i did a 180, and I’ve been where you ladies are, and I know what you will think of my decision. Do your research, though. Read Christian sources on Christianity and Islamic sources on Islam. What you find may surprise you.
May God bless you all.
Ma’alsalamah
Necole, read your Bible and you will know the truth!
Jesus is the only way the truth and the life,no man comes unto the father except tru him…the Bible comes first so, read it and ask the Holy spirit to reveal to you what’s the truth! God bless!!!
Thank you for your concern, ylrihs. As I said, I’ve been on the other side of things and know the feeling of wanting to “save” Muslims. But that being said, I have read the Bible, cover to cover. Now whenever I read the Bible it’s glaringly obvious to me that Jesus continually talked about the oneness of God, and the greatness and goodness of the Father – he never talked about himself in such respects, quite the contrary!
If Jesus prayed to God, and Jesus IS God…..? What? If Jesus is the ultimate intermediary between we sinners and God, and Jesus IS God, …we’re using God to get to God, which just doesn’t make sense. And finally if Jesus IS God, and Jesus was crucified on the cross…God was crucified. I don’t know about you, but I cannot say that comfortably. If you truly believe in the trinity, then anytime you talk about Jesus, ultimately you could substitute it with the word God. But that does not work! God did not die, God did not eat, God did not cry, and God was certainly not born….if you can sit comfortably with these statements (omitting the ‘not’) then I commend you for your faith in the incomprehensible. I, though, choose to put my faith in the logical monotheism that gives God the due respect as well as views Jesus in a very favorable light as a great prophet and MAN of God.
Even if no man comes to the father, but through Jesus, I’d like to believe I’m still covered. The verse doesn’t state that no one comes to the father but by believing Jesus is divine and ultimately is one with the father….
Again, I thank you for your kindness and concern. I think I’m beyond the point of ever seeing the truth in Christianity again, though. I’ve often thought, “if something happens to my husband, what would become of my newfound Muslim faith?” Obviously, it’d be so much easier to go back to Christianity. Easier due to family support, and easier because obviously remarriage would be easier to accomplish with a Christian man (not a lot of Muslims where I live). But even if my husband were not in the picture, I can no longer accept the idea of a triune man-God-spirit, and a necessary human/God sacrifice in order for me to be saved. Christianity made sense to me when it was all that I knew…because there are many truths in it….but now that I’ve been exposed to TRUE monotheism (i’ve studied Judaism, as well) i cannot turn away.
Sorry for rambling on and on. I’ve just come to terms with all of this myself, and my family doesn’t yet know. I’ve got a long, hard road ahead of me, but were I to put pleasing man (i.e. my family/the rest of society) above pleasing God, then I would truly be lost.
I suggest reading the Qu’ran, I know you’re not searching, but at least familiarize yourself with what the people you are praying for truly believe. You may be surprised.
God Bless you, as well.
HI,
Greetings in the name of Jesus christ!
God the father send his son Jesus Christ to show us the way. He came here on earth to show us how we will glorify the father aboved. He suffered,He was tempted by satan,and the time that he is near to be crusified,he prayed until he sweat with blood,and he said,not my will but your will be done,it all turns to God.Jesus christ did everything what the Fathers’ will….God the father,the son and the holy spirit is one because they have the one purpose..that is what we call trinity, and God the father gave all the authority to the Son Jesus christ here on earth that who ever recieves Jesus Christ as his Lord and savior,he will have eternal life. He he has the power to forgive sins,and who can forgive sin? God, so they are one…he is I Am!
let me tell you about Jesus christ,in islam,he is only viewed as a prophet,only a prophet…Mohammed is bigger than him inspite of all the miracles that he did,He was born in a vergin,when he was still young,he preached,when he was baptised by john,the heavens were opened and a he saw the spirit of God descending as a dove coming upon him and behold a voice out of the heavens,saying, This is my beloved son whom i am will pleased (mathew 3:16-17), he was tempted,but refused to give in, he raised up the dead,he heals,feeds a thousand with a small basket of bread and fish, he was stoned crusified and died and after 3 days,he rise and went to the father( read mathew 27 about the miracle happened when he draw his last breath)…all this thing shows who he is…
who else we will follow….are you going to deny the teaching of a man who did all these things to an ordinary man who did not do any miracles in his life…….. I know necole that you are still searching,i know that the Lord Jesus is talking in your heart, he died because of you, He loves you so much and he don’t want you to go away from him..listen to your heart,turn to the lord Jesus and ask the Holy spirit to work into your heart.
in our situation, it is really very hard, it is easy to give up and compromise or turn away totally from the Lord Jesus, but at the end….are you assured where you will be going?Did islam assured you that you will go to heaven if you will die? ask from your heart, don’t lie to yourself, do you have peace and Joy in your situation right now?
Dear Nicole and any readers of this article,
I don’t want to say Christianity or Islam is the way to go because I don’t know or even feel I am on the right path to Heaven. What I want to say is you can be a Christian and not believe in the Trinity concept. Maybe the Quran is a false work from a false profit, but is the “Holy Bible” corrupted? It is said that GOD will protect “his” book. Maybe the Quran is true, but Muhammad swayed from GOD’s teachings. Is it wrong to go to hold your day of rest on Sunday? Biblically speaking, no, but it is wrong to believe it is the LORD’s day. Unless by “LORD’s day”, you mean the day you set aside for him?
Another thing I would like to question is for the so-called Christians, if you think you are Christian, why follow so many pagan rituals?
Well of course the Bible is corrupted. There is so much violence and abuse in the Old Testament, and the Gospels contradict each other (e.g. did Jesus, alayhi’ salaam defend himself or not when tried by the Pharisees?)
Do you have any proof that Rasulullah, peace be upon him, swayed from God’s teachings?
you ladies are funny….too funny. my husband is muslim and I am christian…somehow our marriage works. 2 children later and we are still happy after almost 20 years but we love eachother and our marriage must have been for a reason from God.
We have choices…we made ours and we deal with it. and we make it work.
Hi Nicole,
I have sat on this for a while, but just wanted to write a note and thank you for sharing your heart and journey with us here. I really do believe we are on a journey and we learn as we go. I too considered Islam very seriously for a while, but could not see how sin was atoned for. I found no assurance of complete and total forgiveness in Islam. I see, in the Muslims I know, a need to do good for the sake of tipping the scale. While I strive to live a godly life, I know that no matter how much I mess up, I have complete and total forgiveness through Jesus Christ, my Lord, my Savior.
When I read the Old Testament and see the countless prophecies of One who would come to fulfill the Law and then hear the story of Jesus, a man without sin who became that atonement, I know in my heart that He is the one I want to follow. (The book of Isaiah is especially powerful and accurate!).
I appreciate your story and pray that God would continue to reveal Himself to you in very real and powerful ways… not only you, but everyone who visits this site (myself included!!). God desires us to want to know Him more, to spend all our days seeking to know Him more and have Him more and more involved in our lives. What an amazing God we serve!
Blessings to you and your family!
~Emily
I only came upon this blog subject now, but would like to point out something really crucial in the whole discussion.
The issue is not which religion is right and which is wrong. Am I correct in saying that in religion the focus is on what we can/ must do to please God? There are different ways of doing this and who is to say which way is correct.
When Emily got married she was nominally involved in the Christian religion, but then something happened to her. She had an encounter with God which caused her to become a follower of Jesus. The Christian faith is all about having a relationship with the living God.
Emily cannot just leave her husband because his religious ways are burdensome to her. She wants to please THE love of her life and therefore asks what Jesus wants her to do. He is one for relationships therefore He will not just say divorce the husband. She can trust Jesus to be with her on this road and enable her to do the right thing.
Emily’s heart desire is that her husband must also have an encounter with Jesus and enter into a life changing relationship with Him (sorry for picking on you, but I think you will understand). God bless you in this endeavour Emily. You are a blessing to me.
Yes and amen. Thanks Pieter. You’ve said it well.
~Emily
I meant to reply long ago, but got involved in other things.
I want to thank you for your kind reply. I respect your faith in Christianity, just as I respect all Christians. Some truly have a relationship with God and long to live Godly lives. I believe that God’s plan is bigger than me, and I believe that he knows our hearts and will know who to accept into Heaven, regardless of what title one chose for their walk with Him. With that being said, as you can see in my other posts, I truly do think that Islam is the “straight path” and a direct link to God. I trust that God has a plan for your family, and for mine, that He will reveal over time.
I would love to welcome you as my sister in Islam, but I know that your journey is your own and respect your decisions.
God Bless You and Yours!
Ma’alsalamah,
Nicole
I taught VBS, counseled at church camp, was the daugther to two Sunday school teachers, played Christmas music NONSTOP starting the day after Thanksgiving, etc.
All this is works……. it’s all about a relationship with jesus ……..
A wise friend once told me “the more you study the truth, the more discerning you will become of anything false”. I have no desire to study the Coran, i have no need i know The Truth dying on the And The Truth gives me wisdom, grace, strength, joy. love, and so much more. I am not going to doubt Him..He is where my faith lies.
I have been married 30 years to a muslim and have known the Lord 20 years. After seeking the Lord (shortly after i became a christian) on the marriage and whether to go or not He told me
I am free to go and free to stay whatever i choose He is with me”.and He is faithful. So we do have choices that is our freedom in Christ..and you chose to convert to Islam. However, muslims havn’t been given that freedom, islam doesn’t allow a muslim woman to convert to christianity .. if she does it would bring great persecution upon her. I thank God for my freedom in Christ and His grace.
You should never have to ask this question. If you guys truly love eachother then make it work.
I have been married to my man my muslim man for almost 20 years. Its been tough but its been worth it. I love him more now than the day I married him. I have not converted nor have I ever said I would and he has never pressed me to convert.
His family has met me, and i have been backhome with him to know where he comes from. If he wanted me to convert and insisted he would not be with me, nor would we have j2 children together. Maybe we are the modern family from different cultures and religion, but somehow we make it work.
Why haven’t you read the Quran yet. I have, and in some ways i know more about his religion than he does. but just because I’ve read it, doesn’t mean I have studied it, nor have I converted. Each religion is flawed. Islam happenes to be a religion of respect and understanding.
I was raised a catholic and many of my friends have not agreed with my choices, but they are mine.My own family has not embraced my marriage either. Everyone has choices.
I have made mine.
Upon reading all the comments here and knowing I care about all people regardless of race, creed and religion, I know I am blessed in believing in Jesus Christ, the Son of God , and nothing is im- possible with Him. Jesus loves Muslims, Jews, Hindus and all others who do not believe in His Sacred Name, but respect Him as a Prophet! God was wonderful in that His angel appeared to poor
shepherds to announce the good News to the world of the birth of His beloved Son born in a stable in Bethlehem. The three Kings, following the star, came later. Jesus called the twelve apostles, poor unlearned fishermen to spread the news of His being The Son of God. It was the learned and so called wise religious leaders in the ‘old laws’ at that time, who contadictedChrist’s word, and He warned them time and time again for their ignorance. The Bible is the one and only true source of the Word of God. God/Christ so loved the poor and had great pity and Mercy on all sinners.
a reading from the Gospel according to Matthew21:33-43
Jesus said to the chief priests and the elders of the people, ‘Listen to another parable’. There was a man, a landowner, who planted a vineyard; he fenced it round, dug a winepressin it and built a tower; then he leased it to the tenants and went abroad. When vintage time drew near he sent his servants to the tenants to collect his produce.(God’s Prophets). But the tenants seized his servants, thrashed one and killed another and stoned a third. Next he sent more servants (Prophets), this time a larger number, and they dealt with them the same way. Finally he sent his son (Jesus) to them. ‘They will have reverance on my son’ he said. But when the tenants saw the son, they said to each other, ‘This is the heir, Come on, let us kill him and take over his inheritance’ So they seized him and threw him out of the vineyard and killed him. Now when the owner of the vineyard comes, what will he do to those tenants? They answered, He will bring those wretches to a wretched end, and lease the vineyard to other tenants who will deliver produce to him when the season arrives’ Jusus said to them, ‘Have you never read in the scriptures: ‘It was the Stone rejected by the builders that became the corner-stone. This was the Lord’s doing and it is wonderful to see. ‘I tell you then, that the Kingdom of God will be taken from you and given to people who will produce its fruit’ The Gospel of the Lord.
for Nicole… it seems to me that there’s things in both religions that just don’t make sense… like what you said about Christianity, “we’re using God to get to God, which just doesn’t make sense”.. which IS confusing, DEPENDING on how you look at it… I’ve heard from others about how things in Islam don’t make sense either, like how one must be completely clean physically in order to pray, since many people believe that praying is a “spiritual” connection between you and God no matter what you look like on the outside… I guess in the end, what I’m trying to say is, follow what you feel comfortable following… just like we all entered this life the same way, I believe we’re all going to leave this life the same way… I believe God judges people on their actions and intentions rather than their beliefs… stay a good person and you’ll be just fine… good luck with your husband and your kids…
Good work will not save people,believing in Jesus Christ does!
John 3:16 for God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son that whosoever BELIEVES in him should not perish but have an eternal life.17 for God did not send the Son into the world to JUDGE the world but that the world should be SAVED tru Him.18 He who BELIEVES on Him is not judged:he who does not believe has been judged already,because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
john3:35-36The Father loves the Son,and has given all things in His hand.He who BELIEVES in the Son has eternal life;but he who does not obey the Son shall not see life,but the wrat of God abides in him.
Christians, don’t be ignorant or go away from the truth! it is true that RELIGION will not save a person,but having a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the Son of God does!…..and If you have a relationship with Him, then we should believe in Him!……What ever we will write in here/advises to other people who are seeking, we will be accountable to God! Take care!
I am a 20-year old former Christian who converted to Islam after reading the Qur’an with an open mind. I am now a devout Muslim. I write this letter to you so that you might consider converting to Islam and becoming a Muslim. Peace be upon he who follows the right path, to those obedient to Allah (God) and His Prophet, to those who believe in Allah’s Oneness and to those who worship Allah.
Truly I call upon you to obey Allah’s command and convert to Islam. Muhammad was sent as Allah’s Messenger to the entire world so that sleeping hearts will be awakened and dark hearts illuminated and so that non-Muslims will have no excuses. Submit to Islam so that you will be safe and immune from His punishment and His wrath. If you disobey Allah and reject His Religion, you will be responsible for your own sins and you will burn in Hell for eternity.
Allah means God. Islam means the peace that results from submission to God. A Muslim means a person who submits to God.
Even when I was a Christian I tried to follow the teachings of Jesus as purely as possible. I have always abhored paganism and idolatry. This is why even as a Christian I rejected pagan holidays such as Xmas, Halloween, Easter, Valentines and others that have no basis in the Bible. At the time, I was studying to become a missionary to the Muslim world, which is why I began reading the Qur’an in order to refute the religion of Islam.
However, it wasn’t until later that I came to realize that the concept of the “Trinity” itself was pagan and that Jesus Christ (peace be upon him) never preached such an idolatrous concept. Jesus, on the other hand, taught Pure Monotheism which is Tawheed (The Oneness of God):
One of the teachers of the Law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, THE LORD IS ONE. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’
[Mark 12:28-30]
In the Bible in Hebrew, it is:
שמע ישראל יהוה אלהינו יהוה אחד
Shema’ Yisrael Adhonoy Aloheinu Adhonoy AHAD (Hear oh Israel, our Lord is God, our Lord is ONE.)
In the Qur’an in Arabic, it is:
قل هو الله أحد
Qul Huwa Allahu AHAD (Say: He, God, is ONE.)
In Islam, the most important concept of all is “Tawheed” (The Oneness of God).
We Muslims believe that the Virgin Mary (peace be upon her) is one of the greatest woman who ever lived. She is the greatest female role model and noble example for all Muslim women as well. The Virgin Mary veiled her hair and dressed modestly. Muslim women still follow this tradition today and veil their hair the same way she did.
God says in the Qur’an:
And (remember) when the angels said: “O Mary! Verily, Allah has chosen you, purified you, and chosen you above the women of all nations.”
[The Qur'an 3:42]
Jesus Christ (peace be upon him) is considered to be amongst the greatest Prophets in Islam. The only difference is we don’t believe he is divine nor do we believe he is the son of God. We believe he is the Messiah born from the Virgin Mary. Just as God created Adam without a father or mother, God created Jesus without a father and said “Be” and he was. We Muslims believe that Jesus (peace be upon him) never died on the cross but that he is still alive in Heaven with God. Once the Antichrist appears, Jesus (peace be upon him) will return to the earth to come slay him. He will be wearing a beautiful saffron robe and water beads will drop from his hair like scattered pearls. When Gog and Magog appears, he will pray to God for the destruction of them. They will all die then the earth will be cleansed like a polish mirror. Jesus (peace be upon him) will then lead the Muslims, marry, live out the rest of his natural life, and finally pass away. He will be buried next to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) until he is resurrected on the Day of Judgment.
P.S
Here is a video of Verses from the Qur’an being recited about Jesus Christ (peace be upon him).
youtube.com/watch?v=20A8tg8ZlJM
May Allah guide you to the Straight Path or may He give you what you deserve.
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Be carefull christian seekers of what you read and believe…..
in 1 john 2:18-29 children,it is the last hour and just as you heard that antichrist is coming,even now many antichrists have arisen;from this we know that it is the last hour;they went out from us,but they were not really of us;for if they had been of us;they would have remained with us;but they went out,in order that they might be shown that they all are not of us.But you have anointing from the Holy One,and you all know.I have not written to you because you do not know the truth, but because no lie is of the truth.Who is the liar but the one who denies that Jesus is the Christ? this is the antichrist,the one who denies the Father and the Son. Whoever denies the Son does not have the father,the one who confesses the Son has the Father also. As for you,let that abide in you which you have heard from the beginning.If what you heard from the beginning abides in you,you also abide in the Son and in the Father. and this is the promise which He himself made to us: eternal life. These things I have written to you concerning those who are trying to deceive you. And as for you,the anointing which you recieved from Him abides in you,and you have no need for anyone to teach you; but as His anointing teaches you about all things and is true and is not a lie,and just as it has taught you, you abide in Him. and now little children, abide in Him, so that when He appears,we may have confidence and not shrinkaway from Him in shame at His coming.
Muslims do not deny that Jesus is the Christ (i.e. anointed one). With regards to the rest of the passage A) I don’t know of any Christian who believes the onlly teacher you need is the holy spirit. I was baptized over 8 years ago…if the holy spirit has been my teacher since then why did it allow me to be led to Islam? and B) I am much more concerned with the actual teachings of Jesus which were monotheistic, glorified God, and did not point to himself as divine, as opposed to those of the author of John. (who we cannot be certain ever actually encountered Jesus (pbuh).)
nicole, do you believe in the Bible?
If yes,I suggest that you read it again but this time pray to the Lord that he will guide you!
If not,well, I pity you!
i suggest you read it too. The Ten Commandments say not to worship anyone but God and not to worship any earthly form. Jesus, alayhi’ salaam, lived on Earth. Therefore, we cannot worship him.
Hi, David. Insh’allah I am in the process of converting myself, although I have not recited shahada yet. I was just wondering how long you had been a Muslim and if perhaps you had advice to share with a 21 year old who’s trying to find the courage to take this literal ‘leap of faith.’ Also, coming from a Christian background, what did you encounter from friends and family members? My family is extremely religious (Christian), and although I know pleasing God needs to come before pleasing my family, I’m still terrified of what will happen when they find out.
Maybe your experiences were nothing like mine. I’m just seeking advice/encouragement. Whether you have anything more to tell or not, I thank you for sharing the above letter.
Ma’alsalamah
People have been making sooo many good points on Christianity, which draws me closer and closer to it, but then again there’s those who have made such good points on Islam, which slowly draws my attention to that path… Then I start to get confused when I compared the prophets. Jesus never got with any women but Mohammad married several…. Jesus never harmed anyone (nobody can take the life of another, such an act can only be done by God), but Mohammad ordered many people to be killed… Jesus preached His word by showing love for his enemies in order to show them another path/another way/a brighter side to life… Mohammad preached his word by fighting those in disbelief…. can someone correct me if I’m wrong and help me understand all of this so I can pick a path in life and move on with it…????
As one who has just chosen Islam, I don’t know how much of a position I am in to answer your question, but I thought I’d try to help since you’ve yet to receive a reply. It’s true that Jesus (pbuh) never married and was certainly never with a woman out of wedlock. That being said, God never implies that it is a sin to marry in either the Bible or the Qu’ran. Also, it cannot be said that Mohammad (pbuh), was the first prophet to take a wife, or even the first prophet to have more than one wife. The Old Testament even says that Solomon had something like 700 wives! I personally don’t believe this is true, because it also says Solomon (pbuh) worshipped false gods, and I cannot believe that a prophet of God would do such a thing, especially a prophet of God that was granted wisdom. Abraham(pbuh) is another example, he had two wives (Keturah and sarah) as well as a concubine (hagar). These are well accepted facts by Jews and Christians, yet you don’t see anyone arguing about Abraham’s prophethood. What could this be…a double standard? It’s okay for Abraham(pbuh), but not for Mohammad (pbuh)?
It seems the area of wives is not the only area where Mohammed is held to a double standard. Sure, Jesus didn’t fight wars, but did his three year ministry (according to Christianity, some Muslims propose a longer ministry) really lend itself to such tactics? Hmm, let’s go back to Abraham, Abraham formed an army! Abraham even fought an offensive (as opposed to defensive) war, and God was pleased with him! So, Abraham can fight wars, but Mohammad cannot? Mohammad was coming from an area dominated by polytheism, Jesus was preaching to his own people (i.e. Jews) and was just elaborating/correcting what they already believed. Mohammad was placed in a different situation, thus, he had to respond in a different way. If you need more examples, you can look into David (pbuh). And if God is all love without consequences for misdeeds, what are Christians to do with the story of Noah?
While I may be arguing for the prophethood of Mohammad, I’m not saying Jesus wasn’t great! There is so much beauty in the teachings and actions of Jesus and I DO consider myself a follower of Christ, as do all Muslims. If all prophets must be compared to Jesus to obtain a stamp of approval, though, we are left with, well, basically no one.
To gain a better understanding of the prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and his character I suggest reading “The Prophet Muhammad a Mercy to the World” by Imam Muhammad Al-Husainy. It’s not the most in depth reference, but that’s why I was able to get through it.
If you’re interested in the history of Christianity and how Jesus’ (pbuh) own words pointed to the monotheism found in Islam, I suggest you read “MisGod’ed” by Dr, Laurence B. Brown. I’m currently reading his follow-up book “God’ed” which presents a case for the divine origins of the Qu’ran as well as a case for Muhammad’s prophethood.
If you research and come to another conclusion, I’d be interested to hear your case. From one looking for the truth to another, God bless and I pray you’ll find the right path.
“If all prophets must be compared to Jesus to obtain a stamp of approval, though, we are left with, well, basically no one”, Nicole….. If your basically saying Jesus is above all, I wonder sometimes why we’d need another prophet after we’ve already seen the greatest… Sure Abraham did many of the same things Mohammad did, but Abraham was not the final prophet, which means he never got to witness the teachings and inspiration of Jesus. Jesus showed a better way to live and Mohammad goes back to the way of Abraham?
Try to understand your hubby why he is behave as he is.
Must be something that he really believe in.
Probe deeper and please open up your heart.
For marriage to work,there must be give and take .
Try to work it out.
Everything has a purpouse.
Your married to him must be destiny..and have purpose
Think of your children.
If you still love them ,pray to Allah and ask for guidence.
Hi i need advice my boyfriend is a Muslim we are together a year now but after 6 months he asked me if he could have a second wife but a month after i accepted it and week after i told him to break up wth her which he did(they were having problems) now he’s found someone else he claims that he loves her and wants to be with her and me what should i do?
Sasha,
If you have followed the responses even in this series alone and you think with your head before your heart (I dont mean any insult but some people think with their heart, at least, before their head), then you ought to know what to do. In brief, your boy-friend (whatever you mean by that)’s religion or “Faith” allows him to have you and any three other women at one time. This means that he is at liberty to divorce any or all at any point and choose another set of not more than four women. Contrarily, that same “Faith” does not not permit you to as much as show your face to any other man – so you ought to be “masquraded” (veiled). I read that you may now show only your face (without the ears) in some places. The choice is yours.
However, and most importantly Sasha, it looks to me as if you have been living with a man who is not married to you and that’s wrong globally. God’s grace Sasha. Christ loves you!
where does it say in the Islamic book that God allows muslims to have four wives? I would like to know the context and understand the situation that was going on at that time. Thanks.
Hiall first of all Islam is not religion ,the korish or the Arbic war History in the name of religion as well as there expand themselves by force or by marrege many wives haveing many childern in onec at time and all must be muslim. Apolitico religion seeking power and against the weast. there is no love in muslim love is one spacialy for marrege there is no many love for marrege ,God created for one Adame one Eve not many Eve ,so islam is out of the oreder of nature. muammed has power than Allah ,ISLAM IS totaly false and fabrication . is there any one love FALS?
Wow. Your spelling and grammar are impressive. Anyway, Islam teaches that there was Adam and eve, and that men love and respect their wives. In fact, Surah al Nisa teaches men that they have rights over their wives AND their wives have rights over them. Also, Islam doesn’t really say anything about what religion the children must be. Islam doesn’t call for forcing the religion onto others as seen in Surah al Kaffirun and Qur’an 2:256 (“There is no compulsion in religion”). Islam also doesn’t say a man MUST marry 4 wives. Surah al Nisa, verse 3 says that a man can marry up to 4 wives, BUT if he cannot treat them equally and be good to all four of them, then he MUST marry only 1 wife. Islam is the only religion that teaches you MUST marry one wife. Can you bring me a single verse in the Bible that calls for monogamy? No, you can’t. But there are multiple precedents for polygamy as seen in the lives of the Old Testament prophets. Lastly, Islam doesn’t teach that Muhammad, peace be upon him, is greater than God. In fact, during prayer we say “I bear witness that there is no god but God, and that Muhammad is his SLAVE and his messenger”, so I’m not sure where you get your crazy ideas from. Lastly Islam is not a political religion, any more than Judaism is (google “halacha law”), and Islam doesn’t call for war against the West. Most Muslims do not hate the West. In fact, Iranians love Americans. Candle light vigils were held in Iran for the victims of 9/11. Pew polls (go to their site) indicate that Lebanese Muslims do not hate Americans. The same goes for Egyptian Muslims, and Muslims in many other countries. However, Muslims are opposed to the actions of the U.S. government. The U.S. in 1953 overthrew Iran’s democratically elected prime minister and installed a dictator. After the Iranian Revolution, the U.S. government gave Iraq supplies and encouraged it to invade Iran. The U.S. supplied weapons to militants who later formed the Taliban who terrorized…
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Marhaba Emily
I’m sure the following thoughts would’ve crossed your mind at some point but hey- I’m gonna say it anyway!
1. Your marriage wasn’t a mistake- mistakes never happen.. not with God around!
This is God’s way of calling to you:
(a) I mean your husband deciding to practice Islam shows that he has been having an internal struggle or he’s been guided to do so.. you don’t just wake up one day and decide to practice.. there’s something beyond that- an inspiration. You wouldn’t have had your faith rekindled in Christ if it weren’t for him becoming serious with Islam. Thank God for that!
(b) God is preparing you all- your whole family actually! First he calls on a believer so she can be an example for the rest.. A man is the head of the house, yes, but a woman is its neck
Your prayers are heard and everything is in accordance to God’s plan.. You’ll gently guide him to the right direction with the help of God. Your husband has to feel and see for himself, the difference. He’s logical, he’s all that. He’s getting to understand how Islam is about struggling and oppressing (no offense to any muslims here) and how Christianity is about embracing.. He needs to see and feel the difference for himself and that he’ll do soon.. keep praying and have faith! God works in mysterious ways and thats the fun of it all! Thank God for preparing you and your family.. thank Him, knowing that everything is in accordance to His plan and ask Him to reveal Himself to your husband 
(c) Don’t worry about your daughter.. everything is in accordance to God’s divine plan for you all
Know and trust that in your heart.. Peace isn’t the absence of war- it is living in the presence of God 
You keep well now and do continue praying.. I’ll pray for y’all too
Salaam Elmassieh7 Ma3aake!
- Maya
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I know you may have meant no offense to Muslims…but how can I not be offended when someone in ignorance calls my religion oppressive? I was raised Christian so I am a convert to Islam….would I have chosen an oppressive religion for myself? Again, I know you mean no offense, but don’t talk about things that you have no authority to talk about. Have you ever lived as a Muslim? If so, then I apologize and you are allowed your opinions, but if not, then please let those of us with firsthand experience share about our religion. What do you find so oppressive? Our modest clothing? Our right to own property? Our right to stay home and raise our children and have our husbands be the sole provider of the family? Our right to forgo this previous right and work outside of the home if we view it as a want or a necessity? Our right to an education?
I’ve been a Christian. And although Christians don’t often practice the Bible word for word, if they did, you’d probably find yourself oppressed.
Old Testament
“And a man will choose…any wickedness, but the wickedness of a woman…Sin began with a woman and thanks to her we all must die” Ecclesiastes, 25:18, 19 & 33.
“And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.” Ecclesiastes 7:26
New Testament
1 Timothy 2:11-15:”A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent…”
Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife…wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
1 Corinthians 14:34-35: “…women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the Law says, If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.”
1 Corinthians 11:7-9:”For a man…is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man. For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; neither was man created for woman but woman for man. For this reason, and because of the angels, the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her head.” (Christian women are supposed to cover their hair as well. have you ever seen a depiction of Mary without her veil?)
I don’t like to make Islam and Christianity an “us versus them” type of deal. My family is Christian, I love them very much, and I pray that God will accept them into Heaven. But to tell this woman that the husband that she loves practices a religion of struggle and oppression is wrong. Her husband can teach her about the religion he practices. Also, to tell her that he’ll see the logic of Christianity is wrong, because only God knows the outcome of this marriage. I once thought that it was my place to make my husband see the “difference.” Make him see how Christianity was far superior….but instead I found that I was at fault!
And also, you said Islam is about struggle like that is a bad thing? Islam is about struggling in the sense that if we are given a struggle in life, we are to accept it as Allah’s will and use it to improve our faith; I don’t see how this is any different than Christianity, though, and can’t figure out why this would be seen negatively.
Nicole,
You say you have made a study of Islam. Then perhaps you can help me answering the following question as men can’t give an answer to it.
For the men the virgins await him in paradise when he dies, if Allah accepts him, but what are there for the women?
Thank you.
I don’t know why people think this ‘virgins in paradise’ argument proves Islam false. For one thing, the ’72 virgins’ we often hear about in the media is not found anywhere in authentic Islamic sources. You can read about this discrepancy in the following two links:
http://ramadan4u.blogspot.com/2007/09/72-virgins-myth.html
I suggest you read the Qur’an for yourself if you really want to know what is said about paradise.
For your convenience, though, here’s a link to an Islamic source discussing what can be found in Paradise. Who better to ask about Islamic Heaven than a Muslim, right? Please stop believe everything you read or hear. America is full of Islamaphobes.
sorry…i forgot the link: http://www.islamreligion.com/category/60/
Nicole
You are the first person who directed me to references in the Qur’an re paradise. Don’t assume that everything that is said is Americanisms, the idea about the virgins I got from Muslim men, that is why I said the men can’t answer my question. I wasn’t trying to prove Islam false. Elsewhere in this post I commented on different religions.
The verses you quoted about women in the Bible is one way of looking at it. (I could not find your reference on Ecclesiastes, 25:18, 19 & 33). Jesus came and showed us a different approach to women without making an issue out of it.
In John 8:1-11 the Religious leaders brought a woman to Jesus caught in adultery. They quote the Law of Moses but leave out the part that says both the man and the woman must be stoned. Jesus avoids the trap of unjustly condemning her together with the religious leaders. In the end he says, “Then neither do I condemn you. Go now and leave your life of sin.”
Luke 10:38-42 To appreciate what Jesus did here, e must take note that women were not allowed to be taught religious matters, only the men. Paul sat at the feet of Gamaliel learning to be a Pharisee. Here we find Mary sitting at the feet of Jesus. Martha’s reaction tells us that she expected her sister to help her in the kitchen. That was the woman’s place! Jesus was (quietly) doing an exceptional thing here. Later when the brother of the two sisters die (John 11:1-44), Jesus uses the opportunity to teach the industrious Martha a deep theological truth (not Mary). He doesn’t write Martha off as the kitchen worker, but honour’s her in a special way.
Jesus wants a love relationship with us (John 15:9-17). We can read what Jesus is saying here in a legalistic way as rules and laws that we need to obey, but I think that is not what Jesus meant. In verse 15 he says that he shared his Father’s heart with us. He treats us as friends not as servants who merely obey their master’s orders. Friends stick together, help one another to do what is right (most times). I thin this is what Jesus is inviting us to do, to be loyal to him.
Nicole, this is what I wish for you, to discover Jesus’ love for you personally.
Nicole
You are the first person who directed me to references in the Qur’an re paradise. Don’t assume that everything that is said is Americanisms, the idea about the virgins I got from Muslim men, that is why I said the men can’t answer my question. I wasn’t trying to prove Islam false. Elsewhere in this post I commented on different religions.
The verses you quoted about women in the Bible is one way of looking at it. (I could not find your reference on Ecclesiastes, 25:18, 19 & 33). Jesus came and showed us a different approach to women without making an issue out of it.
In John 8:1-11 the Religious leaders brought a woman to Jesus caught in adultery. They quote the Law of Moses but leave out the part that says both the man and the woman must be stoned. Jesus avoids the trap of unjustly condemning her together with the religious leaders. In the end he says, “Then neither do I condemn you. Go now and leave your life of sin.”
Luke 10:38-42 To appreciate what Jesus did here, e must take note that women were not allowed to be taught religious matters, only the men. Paul sat at the feet of Gamaliel learning to be a Pharisee. Here we find Mary sitting at the feet of Jesus. Martha’s reaction tells us that she expected her sister to help her in the kitchen. That was the woman’s place! Jesus was (quietly) doing an exceptional thing here. Later when the brother of the two sisters die (John 11:1-44), Jesus uses the opportunity to teach the industrious Martha a deep theological truth (not Mary). He doesn’t write Martha off as the kitchen worker, but honour’s her in a special way.
Jesus wants a love relationship with us (John 15:9-17). We can read what Jesus is saying here in a legalistic way as rules and laws that we need to obey, but I think that is not what Jesus meant. In verse 15 he says that he shared his Father’s heart with us. He treats us as friends not as servants who merely obey their master’s orders. Friends stick together, help one another to do what is right (most times). I think this is what Jesus is inviting us to do, to be loyal to him.
Nicole, this is what I wish for you, to discover Jesus’ love for you personally.
good question Peter,
quite surprisingly; one of the female companions of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh asked him this very question. He said, after noticing a lack of proper understanding of the woman, that they will get what whatever they desire and what no eyes have seen, no ears have heard and no imagination can grasp.
this answer, ultimately, even explains the 72 virgins. The Prophet pbuh has also said many times that paradise, hell, the hereafter, God, are things that can not occur in to the human mind. They are beyond perception.
In traditional Islamic theology, the only similarity between fruits, virgins, trees, houses in heaven and in earth is just in the name.
similarly with hell, the torture, the hot fire, the liquids… the only similarity is in the name
so why God uses these terms?
well to make relations for the minds of believers. Since there is no similarity between this world and the hereafter; God mentions things that are the closest in relation
like a child who can not understand sexual pleasure because it transcends his biological maturity. so we would explain giving a similarity… i.e. it is more pleasureful than the chocolate you love most. or when you hug your mommy.
similarly with heaven and hell..
i hope this helps and you can then expand on the issue
Hi Nicole,
May I point out that you have cherry picked scripture to reinforce your stand point and used scripture out of context . When one is reading scriptures they must read the whole portion of scripture to get the full picture.
May I also remind you Nicole that many people who call themselves Christian actually are not true believers.
I for one cover my head when in prayer and do not believe that a woman should teach a man. A woman is to teach only woman and children.If Christian woman where more in subject to their husband there would be less divorces etc.. I think staying at home to raise a family is the best way to keep house and home under God’s guidance. We TRUE Christian women are to seek holiness and die to the self life. that is the world, the flesh and the devil. I find keeping to the scriptures a joy and delight. The Holy Spirit is the one who convicts me of sin and who leads me in the right path. We are against worshipping the TV or any sort of entertainment. or money etc… so you see Nicole if you ever were a true Christian you would never have left the Lord Jesus as He is so gentle and loving. I think you may have only experienced nominal Christianity that really is Christian in name only but not in spirit.
So the very thing you said to another is what you are guilty of yourself because how can you judge or compare Christianity with Islam when you never were truly born again in the first place?
I trust that you and your husband will be blessed and that both you and he will seek God with all of your heart because the lovely thing is that God is no respector of persons and He is the One who judges the heart . He sees beyond Islam and its fear or terror. He also sees beyond the comprimise of some Christians and the heart of those who are born of the spirit
…what God demands is our full commitment to Him and Him alone and to have no other Gods before Him and to love our neighbour as ourselves. I wish you no harm but every blessing.
When the time comes in your life and you need a healing for some sickness ask Jesus to heal you or your loved one and you will see what I mean. Jesus is alive for evermore. He will answer your prayers. I know because I was unable to walk properly and I was healed in my home. God bless, Joni
Islam does not call for “fear” or “terror”. Are you delusional?
To Nicole
With all due respect to muslims, all i want to say from my heart is this- Jesus Christ, the Son of the Living God loves you…just as much as He loves the muslims. Please do not turn your heart away from the One true God.
I pray that Shalom-which means the perfect peace of God be with you and your husband.
God’s blessings be with you and may you draw closer to the heart of God-who loves you more than you can ever imagine!!
With much love,
Elizabeth Low
convert to islam and see what life is like then if u to get along better then u know its the right religion for u if not convert back i know alot of christian women who married muslim men then they converted to islam and has never looked back or look soooooooo happy to be a muslim but just rember if ur muslim COVERRRRRRRRRR and make your husband cover to
Hamza, You may be impressed, but I am not. A western lady married a Muslim man. Christians met up with her and shared the Good News about eternal life with her. She decided to commit her life to Jesus, but the Immam found out about it. They took her to a church building where they circumcised her and left her in a puddle of blood. They phoned the Pastor of the church and informed him that she will be nothing else but a Muslim and informed him where he could find her. The Pastor found her in a dazed condition reciting the shahada. Once you enter into Islam, there is no turning back.
The Bible reveals to us that God is love. His love is not determined by our actions. So the remarkable thing is that still God loves these people who treated this lady so atrociously.
I doubt that you’re here to discuss any issues peter,
I don’t buy that story one bit… you can leave Islam… the Quran says, “There is no coercion in religion”… some of the companions of the Prophet, who immigrated to Ethiopia, even became Christians but the Prophet didn’t do anything to them…
Hi Maghi85,
Greetings to you. I only wish what you are saying is true but unfortunately, even though the Quran says there is no coercion in religion, Im afraid your fellow man in Islam do not go by your good book; if they did they would think differently and cease from killing and harming Christians.
Let’s pray for peace upon all mankind where people can live and breath God’s good air and make right choices according to the leading of the Holy Spirit. I am sure kindness and harmony would work wonders . We can learn from one another and have respect for the individuals faith.
After all we all belong to the human family.
So what your’re saying is because those “Muslims” do not follow Islam, Islam is not to blame, right? Therefore it is perfectly acceptable that they remain Muslim, right?
I like how you didn’t leave any names our sources. Your story seems SOOOO reliable. Please forget the fact that most Muslims don’t even engage in female circumcision. Those who do are usually Muslims living in Africa, following the African pagan traditions that call for female circumcision, as there is no Islamic precedent for female circumcision.
People are allowed to apostasize from islam. In fact, the ahadith say only to kill apostates (or anyone for that matter) if they try to kill you.
“His love is not determined by our actions”
So I could be a serial murderer AND a pedophilic rapist and still go to heaven?
Thank you for this. It is very close to my heart as my daughter converted to Islam earlier this year, one month after she met and married a Muslim boy whom she did not know.
It is a very violent marriage which she will not leave.
I asked God to help me fast and pray then your booklet came through my door. Thank you
Louise, My heart goes out to you as I am also a parent. The Church father Augustine was a wayward young man, giving himself over to the ways of the world and he became involved in all sorts of cults. His mother, Monica, a Christian, kept on praying for him. She prayed twenty years! Shortly before her death he committed his life to the Lord Jesus and was used mightily by the Lord to impact the church in a great way. She saw the fruit of her prayers.
Don’t give up. Keep on praying, we serve the living Lord.
Louise, I am married too to a muslim but i know,the Lord allows things so that you’re daughter will reach out to the muslim people which the Lord loves too….keep on praying and She will be used to His glory, romans 8:28, everything works together for good to those who loves him..
my husband is being blessed and now knows how christians are…i am claiming for his salvation and i know and do believe that the Lord will save him as He promised…be a blessing to your son in law…and Glorify the Lord Jesus!
Hi Louise,
Thank you for sharing your daughter’s situation here – it enables us to pray. I can’t say I agree with Joni’s conclusion that the marriage is not recognized by God – it may not be His desire, but He gives us all free choice, whether those are good or bad decisions. He also allows us to live with the consequences.
BUT, more importantly, in your daughter’s, situation is the fact that relationship is violent. There is absolutely no tolerance for violence. I would look into local community resources that might help you in helping her through this situation.
Violence is never the answer, but she needs to somehow come to see that on her own – pray, pray and pray some more! God can do amazing things! Seek counsel for yourself in figuring out how to broach the subject with her.
I will pray with you, not only for that, but also for revelation for her AND her husband. Feel free to post more on here if things change or if you need support. I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you.
Blessings!
~Emily
I would seriously injure and (if necessary) kill a man who was violent to my daughter(s). Why don’t you (and your daughter’s father!) go to your son-in-law’s house and put the fear of Hell-on-earth into him? I would literally drag my daughter(s) out of that situation – yes – and chain them in my house, if necessary, for their own safety. What will you do when your daughter gets pregnant??? Leave your grandchild in a dangerous home? I think it’s time for some really tough love.
My Dear Louise,
I too am a parent. I have seven girls Your daughter has made a choice which sounds like the wrong choice. Marriage outside of God’s will is not a marriage at all. Scripture tells us Not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Muslims do not believe in Jesus Christ as we do. Also it says that What God has joined together let no one put asunder. Well Louise, I’m afraid that God does not contradict His word. God would not join a Christian woman to a Muslim man when they are both going opposite directions. They should be of the one faith and not unequally yoked. So if God has not joined them together in the first place then putting the marriage asunder does not apply to such marriages.I think your daughter is (Biblically) free to divorce this man. She should not stay in a violent marriage.
Marraige built on fear is hell on earth and your daughter should not have to suffer. God will make a way for her if she turns her heart to the Living Loving Saviour. Fast & Pray with all of your heart. Blessings to you.
Let me share of my testimony,I am a catholic and i became to know and receive Jesus as my lord and my savior when i was at teen age. I was baptized and so I am a born again christian and my family too…..maybe because I am young that time and not so totally committed to the Lord…I came to know this man when I went to another country to work, he is an arab and a muslim, we went home in my country and got married, and of course our pastor didn’t agree to marry us,so just had civil marriage, got pregnant so we have to go back to his place,but we had problem of my visa he can’t get visa for me so he decided to get my baby with him and me was left behind,that time it is really hard for me to be away from my son which is only 4 months old and people are talking about me telling that my husband just left me and took my baby away and laughing at me,for one year that i was alone,i really cried to the Lord and became more commited to him and asked Him that if not His will that I married my husband,then He will make a way for me…for one year,i really trust in the Lord that let His will be done, I give to him everytjing… but the Lord answered my prayers,exactly one year of waiting and trusting Him,He gave me my visa and I’m reunited with my son….
So i am here in the arab country and really decided to serve the Lord.By the grace of the Lord,my Husband was blessed by my family and now see how true christians are, because as they see and thinks here,Christians doesn’t pray,they love night life,like going to disco,bars and drinks and easy people that they will just have sex with their boyfriends so when I show him that true christians are not like that and set an example and tell him about the teaching of Jesus,,He allows me to read my Bible,and pray with my kids… ..So i know,God allows things to happen so that other people will know the truth
ma’am nicole,i don’t know the situation of your daughter,but only one thing,tell her to go back to the Lord.
Dear Joni,
With all due respect I beg to disagree a little with you even as I pray for your seven daughters that the Good Lord will spare them such very costly mistake. Joni, you cannot talk of “yoked” but not “joined” as you tried to argue because a yoke is one stick used to bind two animals to one task. God’s ideal is to as much as possible eliminate the inequality and the consequencies of such in the task – this time it is marriage, with its cumbersome responsibilities.
The violence is a consequence of the inequality in the yoke that this child of God allowed the devil to put on her neck. unfortunately. God honours that yoke, so they are joined by God or better put, the joining is allowed and honoured by God as Paul tries to explain to the Corinthians. I, therefore, do not quite agree with you that she is free to walk out of the union for God even punished Isreal for breaking the covenant she made with Babylon. May the Lord help those about to commit like blunders!
Hi Mbah,
Thanks for your response. May God help us to understand His will.
In Nehemiah 13 v 23- 31 and Ezra 10;10-44 it mentions the sin of marrying strange wives, (or husbands) if you read this chapter you will see a list of men who had to put their wives away,even some who had children by them. Also remember that it is in the old testament where God says,’ What God has joined together let no man put asunder’. And it is also in the old testament where God puts asunder what He has not joined together.
Regarding Paul in 1 Corinthians chapter 7 relating to marriage, look closely at verse 12 where Paul states that what he is saying is not from the Lord but from himself. I think Paul was talking to couples that were already married where one converted to Christianity while the other was still unconverted. Paul was advising them to stay together as the converted partner could have a saving effect on the unsaved one. The difference being these two were already joined together by God prior to salvation.
Paul reminds us in verse 23 that ‘we are bought with a price and not to be servants of men’. He also says, ‘ Brethren let every man wherein he is called therein abide with God. ‘ I honestly cannot see that God nor Paul would agree to joining two people who are unequally yoked together. What fellowship has light with darkness? Or how can two walk together lest they be agreed?
Why would God want his daughter to remain in an unholy and abusive situation.?
I cannot quote on what you mention about Israel. Please give me chapter and verse. May God bless us all as His human family and give us wisdom , patience and insight into His Holy will.
God bless you,Joni
Mbah & Joni, I am afraid our opinions count for little as Louise’s daughter apparently does not want to leave this violent relationship. I agree with Emily, we can only pray for both the daughter and her husband. Only an intervention by God will bring about a change in that situation.
Pieter,
I agree with you, Emily and the girl who should not leave that marriage. I agree 100% with the prayer option but we are also learning from all this, especially to prevent further heartaches. Keep Christ’s love flag flying!
amen for that! instead of suggesting things that came from our own understanding,let us join together in prayer that the will of the Lord will happen for Louise’s daughter. May she recommit her life to the Lord…that the blessing of the Lord will be with her..
GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
Dear Joni,
I reply to this (I believe) out of love for the Church of Christ. Unfortunately, but for the sacrifice of Calvary, she would have been worse than Israel and even the Moslems that most of her membership critisize and possibly hate. Our problems stem from the wrong ideas handed down by teachers and pastors who had not had time eneough to understand the God they zealously serve. Like Jonah, they would be angry with God for allowing worms to eat shelters (he was not interested in the tree more than the shelter it afforded him) but would want Him to destroy nations because of their perverted understanding. to be direct with you Joni, read Ezk chapter 17.
You quote Ezra chapter 10 but fail to read verse 2 to see whose programme Ezra was implementing or did Nehemiah at any time claim that God sent him to slay them? What answer do the crussaders have? Nehemiah refers to his interpretation of Solomons sin but did not show that God asked Solomon to divorce those wives as prove for his action. Why did God allow the marriage of Naomi’s children and even put the linage of the messiah, King David (the man after God’s own heart), and Solomon who proceeded from a marriage smeared by murder. Why did God tell the prophet to take a harlot as wife and refuse that he divorce her? surely we do not need to go on with this! if you need to know more write me through blembah [Email address: blembah #AT# yahoo.com - replace #AT# with @ ]
God’s ideal is for a marriage where both partners are vibrant christians. You however will have to choose your partner and if you make thw wrong choice, He expects you to use your choice to glorify Him by presenting Christ to the world in moment by moment decisions. The God who confused the language of the world at Babel, gave the key to these languages to the Church on the day of Pentecost (when the Church spoke the languages of the world) intending that, empowered by His Spirit, we should learn the “languages” of the world to present Christ in reciever comprehendable terms.
No one should stay in a violent relationship!
1 corinthians 13-14
and a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her,let her not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife,and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean,but now they are holy!
that is how the Lord loves those who go back to him and serve him… He is a forgiving and a loving God!…. So let us go back to the Lord and claim his forgiveness…and he will restore our lives! PRAISE THE LORD!
That’s quite interesting and funny at the same time. When we will reach the conclusion that the difference between our religions in superficial? I see Christians picking Quran verses to accuse Islam, where almost about the same verses exist in the testament, and Christians defend it by saying it was taken out of context, but again, the Quran verses Christians brought were taken out of context.
What I want to say is leave this poor woman handle her life with her husband instead of throwing accusations and marketing your shitty religions.
ISLAM is the only religion on earth.. which urge people to worship ONE GOD who created whole universe and whatever exist in it…
ISLAM is the only religion which follows the teachings of All the prophets,, who called people to worship one GOD..
All the prophets From ADAM to .. Noh, Ebrahaam, Moses, David, Jesu and Muhamed all brought the same message that is to ” Worship one true GOD ” and not to make equal partners to him..
But unfortunately..
The message brought by Jesus (pbuh) was completely miswritten by POUL, who even opposed the Jesus at his presence.. It is very sad,, The Good Deciples of Jesus followed him correctly could not over power the POUL, who plotted agains to Jesus with Romans and later became the write of many pages on BIBLE.
Oh my christian brothers,,
If you can read what really Jesus (son of mary ) brought to you… you will be a follower of all prophets.. Unfortunately you are following POUL who was really against to the teachings and Jesus and who changed the BIBLE with own hands.
Christianity is a personal relationship with God as He has chosen to reveal Himself, not a religion. In religion, man seeks God but in Christianity God is asking you to open your heart so He would come in. The initiative is God’s. Please don’t close up on Him.
“Christianity is a personal relationship with God”
yeah. riiiiight. Which is why you choose to pray to him through Jesus, alayhi’ salaam, right? In Islam, we pray directly to God for safety, forgiveness, help, etc.
I have found this website that I wanted to share with everybody, it explains what muslims really believe about Jesus.
It is a must read!!!
http://www.harunyahya.com/books/faith/Jesus_prophet/not_a_son01.php
Hi Laura,
Yes, God the Father sacrificed His only Son Jesus making Him The Way, The Truth and The Life. The New Covenant includes everyone and that means world wide. Abraham’s children includes the Jews and Muslims alike, all who put their trust in the seed of Abraham, the Son of promise , who is Jesus.
Hope your husband finds The Way, The Truth and The Life. Many Muslims have experienced the new birth after the Lord appeared to them in visions or dreams. So be encouraged and be faithful to your husand in praying for him.
Blessings, Joan
God bless you,
This is message for both Muslims and Christians and Jews. Especially to the Muslims
Muslims believe in one God and Last Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)
Quran says you can marry meaning Muslim men can marry People of Book ( Christians and Jews only ) provided that there are chaste(pious) and believe in one God and Last Day.
Today, Christian women may be good at heart but they do not believe in oneness of God. They believe in Trinity which is Shirk and a major non-believer practice.
Same goes for Jews.
Therefore, Muslim man cannot marry Christian woman whatsoever. Despite what many muslim females proclaim. It is a complete falsehood.
Muslim man should and must marry only Muslim woman. That’s simply as that
Sorry, Muhammad Ali, but this is just your personal opinion. The official position of Islam is this: a Muslim man can marry a Christian or Jewish woman. Muhammad (pbuh) himself was married to Christians and Jews. The Quran also states that Muslim men can marry women of “the People of the Book”. The Trinity is not a new invention….it was firmly in place hundreds of years before Muhammad (pbuh) was born. As for Jews, Jews believe in One God only, always have, always will.
You’re not really throwing Christianity away. You’re just accepting a different religion. Christianity is not thrown away by Islam because Christianity is a part of Islam. There is just some things that were added on the Christianity to make it Christianity.
No we are not accepting a different religion. I do not accept my husband’s religion.
Having faith in that Jesus is our saviour is Christianity. This is no where in Islam and was not added to Islam. This was before Islam.
Wives and husbands stay strong in your faith and with your walk with Jesus. Be loving, understanding and patient.
I have been dating a Muslim guy for over 6 months now, I am Christian Orthodox and really religious. I was in the UK, where he lives, now I came back to my country, but we haven’t broken up. We love each other very much and we both want to be together and get married one day. The problem is I cannot accept his religion, every day I feel I betray my Lord. I do not know what to do. We are both 25 years old and we think our relationship is unique, this is why we are trying to preserve it. I would leave my country for him if he was Christian, but now I am afraid to risk everything, I am afraid he will change in the future, not to mention that in no way do I want my future children to become muslims. Now he is not religious at all, he doesn’t pray and he drinks alcohol, but he is from Saudi where Islam was born and I believe deep inside he is religious and one day he will start practising and his behaviour will change. I want him to believe in Jesus the Son of God, but I don’t want to ask him to convert, as this would mean I do not accept who he really is and I don’t love him much. I want a miracle to happen, I want him to be saved in the name of Christ. Please help me… I don’t want to lose him… I need advice on what I can do so that we don’t break up.
Helen, my heart goes out to you – torn between your heart and your mind. Nobody can really resolve this dilemma, but yourself. One thing we must not forget as Westerners, there is no individualism in Islam. The umma (community) is central in Islammic rites. The moment your boyfriend marries you, he draws the attention of the umma and you are right then everything changes somehow.
You also mention that he is using alcohol. That is not a good thing in any culture, because alcohol is a drug (changes the mood and is addictive), it is an analgesic and perhaps less well know, it is a poison. It affects the nervous system and causes changes that the person him/herslef doesn’t perceive until it is too late.
You know what is the right thing to do, but you want to be convinced otherwise. There will be many of those, but I appeal to you, listen to your head.
I will pray for you. God bless you.
Thank you very much for your quick reply. I hope God will help me in this difficult situation. My boyfriend is a really nice person, he drinks from time to time and not very often and our relationship has been perfect so far. However, I am afraid that if I marry him my belief and my attachment to Christianity will become weaker and I don’t want something like that to happen. May Jesus Christ help me.
Helen, have you seen the film “Not without my Daughter”? It’s a film which should be seen by any woman who is not Muslim, contemplating marriage with a Muslim man. Unfortunately, it is far from a unique story.
I have watched the movie and even though I think it is a bit exaggerating, still I think it can make all these girls who date or consider to marry a muslim man, rethink about taking such a risky decision. What I would like to point out after a lot of research through the internet about mixed marriages or relationships with muslim men, is that western women (me among them) have the tendency to judge some behaviours or actions as really romantic, whereas in reality they can show us the true intentions of these men. For example, my boyfriend often says “I want you forever, I want this mind and this body only for me”… To some girls this may seem really romantic and sweet, however the way he says it shows his intention to a full possession on me. My boyfriend doesn’t want me to convert and he agrees our children (if we ever have) to be raised in both religions. In my opinion, this is impossible. How can my children be baptised, have christian names, take the Holy Communion and also be taken to the mosque or have muslim names? How is it possible that I will teach them that Jesus was sacrificed on the Cross for humans and then was Risen from death whereas his father will teach them that nothing of these happened and Jesus is just a prophete?I am afraid that he will not allow me to take the children to the church and he will hit me if I do it, as this is what his religion asks. I love him, I know I do, but I don’t know if it’s him that I love or another face that he is showing in order to convience him to marry him. He treats me like a princess but I don’t know if this will remain after marriage. And of course you don’t know if a Christian man will be the same after marriage, however even if he is not, there will not be other problems such as the raising of the kids or taking you to his country and not letting you go. After all these thoughts, I have decided to break up with my boyfriend soon. I am sad that I was not strong in my faith and my belief in Jesus when I met my boyfriend, however I am happy that my Lord opened my eyes before it was too late. I will always ask for His forgiveness, but also thank Him for protecting me from a huge mistake.
Helen, I think you just made one of the most difficult decisions of your life! Keep your eyes on Jesus and He will walk this road with you. Please read Philippians 4:6-7. I will continue to pray for you.
Things are getting more complicated than expected… I told him that I want to break up with him, but I didn’t mention his religion. He already feels the prejudice against him as he is from Saudi Arabia and I didn’t want to hurt him. I told him I’m not going back to the UK because of family problems, even though deep inside I don’t accept his religion. I want to live a christian life, I want my children to be Christians, I am so sure about this… However, I am sure we love each other and maybe I will never find this love again. After I told him I want to break up with him, he opened his heart to me and he proposed me!!! He wants to marry me! I feel so emotional, I know I love him, our relationship was perfect in every level… However, I don’t understand why this is happening… Is this a Satan’s effort to lose my belief and get lost? Or is it God’s test to see if I am going to choose Him or love? I feel desperate and most importantly I am all alone in this… Maybe I should talk to him honestly and tell him I don’t want to marry a Muslim guy, so he will understand I don’t accept who he really is and then disappear… But I am afraid I will hurt him or I will reveal what I was thinking all these 7 months and I was refusing whenever he asked me. Or maybe I accept him the way he is, but I am afraid to admit it because of the consequences, such as my family’s disapproval. I don’t know what to do, I’m just praying and asking God to take me out of this dead-end…
Hi Helen, I shall be praying for you.
While reading all these comments today, one thing has been uppermost in my thoughts: do we love these men ENOUGH to share our faith? If you break up with the man that you love and he leaves, without knowing your convictions, what will his eternal destiny be?
Do you care enough to tell him the truth? Do you care enough to risk losing him, for the sake of his finding eternal life? Only the truth can set both of you free.
Well, I’m going to be bold and pray for a good outcome for both of you – at the end of the day, fix your eyes on the blood shed by Christ for you both. Fast, pray, seek God’s favour for you both. Then go ahead and share your living faith with your boyfriend, be honest, lay all your cards on the table, and whether he goes or stays, let God do the rest. But do make it clear that you care enough about him to stick to your convictions.
May God be glorified in your decision, dear sister in Christ.
Dear Hope,
Thank you so much for your reply. I need to say something that I didn’t before. During our relationship I always talked to him about Jesus, we had so many discussions and conflicts about our religions and I even clearly told him that his religion is totally wrong about Jesus and that he doesn’t have bright eyes to see that Jesus is the only Light and the only Truth. I taught him a lot of things about Christianity. However, once he told me that if he converts to another religion, this will take years as he needs to search and study first, another time he said he will never convert to Christianity.
However, your reply made me think and I believe you are right. I need to explain him honestly why my religion is so important to me and why I want to end this beautiful relationship. Maybe if he truly loves me, he will read the Bible and maybe God will show him a sign… I will pray for my boyfriend, because he is a good person, but I cannot enter into a marriage where for my whole life I will argue with him about religious matters or I will be praying to Jesus to show him the right path.. Maybe I am selfish or I don’t love him much, but I think this is the best.
Oh, I shall pray for you both. Go ahead and be totally truthful! Do proceed with gentleness and the love of Christ – this has more to do with your relationship with our Creator than merely a religion or an attempt to convert him to a religion. ( And remember that for your boyfriend to convert to Christianity spells potential persecution and even death to him, in Saudi Arabia, so it’s a major step – he would have to be prepared to lay his life on the line – or face never going home again).
At the end of the day, our eternal destiny is what our goal should be – if we indeed seek the kingdom of God and His righteousness, we have the promise that everything else will be added to us.
your bigotry is amazing. You make it seem as though Muslims are dangerous. I think your comment reflects what this site is about: otherizing Muslims in order to convince Christians to try and convert them. My proof? Your bigoted comment hasn’t been removed. You sound quite stupid. I don’t like being reffered to as though I’m some kind of animal.
Bettina, marry who you love. not for religious differences. I’m an” Islamic Christian” and my husband is a Christian who believes in the Trinity…NON Denomination.. I believe in all 3 books.. and at the same time believe in Jesus, but not as a trinity…. but as the one who was crucified.. died.. and risen. as Far as GOD…. it does not matter to me if we call him Jehovah…ALLAH…Adonai….Elohim…{etc} .. we all believe what ever GOD reveals to us. and ALL of US just serve 1 GOD. congratulation on your marriage.
Kumeka, I think you have the wrong question. The question is not, What do you believe in? The crucial aspect is, if you have had a life changing encounter with Jesus? Out of such an encounter grows a relationship. A well known example in the Bible is of the Samaritan woman at the well. She was not accepted by society because of her lifestyle, but her encounter with Jesus gave new meaning to her life and she discovered her true value as a person. Read the whole incident in the Gospel according to John chapter 4 in the Bible.
I am dating a married muslim man and God willing we are getting married in 5 months. I am a chiristian and he is muslim. He has given me 3 conditions 1 is that we have no sex till we marry and 2 that I convert to islam and the third he says he will let me know at the appropriate time. I am currently working for an airlie and in a way scared and excited that I am getting married. Should I or should I not and is it true that muslim women are not allowed to work.
Don’t do it. How can you marry this guy and having to share him with at least one more wife for the rest of your life? Isn’t this killing you? I am dating a muslim guy and if we ever got married it’t ME who would put a condition on him not to marry another woman.
Apart from that, how are you gonna leave Jesus Christ who is the only truth and the only light and convert to islam? Do you know what islam means, what rights gives to women and to men and what it teaches to people? It teaches the fear of God, it urges a fast that make them crazy about food at the end of the day, read the quran and you will feel the fear. Nothing cannot be compared to Christianity and the spirit of love and peace it creates to believers. Additionally, I would like to suggest you should read the following article which shows the rights of women in Saudi http://www.meforum.org/520/us-department-of-state-marriage-to-saudis.
Even though I don’t know where your boyfriend is from, the law in Saudi is the quran, so you will have a clue on how they treat women. Download the movie “Never without my daughter”, do a research on the internet and you will see how many differences their background has and what problems this can cause. I love a muslim guy too, so I can understand you, but I would never share the man I love and I would never abandon my Jesus Christ the Son of God and the only true faith.
Hi Helen,
I do believe that Jesus is the son of God and I believe that God is the Alpha and Omega.He
is the I AM and I have no intention of changing that,, you are with a muslim and you understand. I love my man so much and yes I have seen the movie and it scared the living daylights out of me. I am from Central Africa and he is from WEst Africa. I love my man so much and it is not easy but accept to be the second wife.
MEforum? You realize that site is run by Daniel Pipes, one of the most vitrolic anti Muslim bigots in the country who has used racist slurs and supported fascists in the past, right? Not all Muslims are like the government of Saudi Arabia, in fact many of us oppose it. Get a clue.
The government of Saudi applies the quran,maybe in a more conservative way than other muslim countries, however they apply whatever is taught in islam.
If the Saudi Government applies the Qur’an correctly, then why does it oppress women, not tolerate other faiths, and kill apostates? The Qur’an does not call for any of that. Read Surah Al Nisa, Surah al Kaffirun, and Quran verse 2:256.
I meant to say I am currently working for an airline
Hi Juliet
You don’t say which country you are living in or where you will be living. This would have a great bearing on what sort of life you would live after marriage. Many Muslim women I know do not work, but some do, and the customs are changing in many countries. But this could be the least of your worries. Getting married is often not the exiting thing people expect. It takes a lot of commitment and giving up of your own selfish wants for the other person. And in your case it looks like it would mean giving up of some of your religious beliefs and practices. You don’t yet know what the 3rd condition is, so you cannot agree to it. Is your boyfriend prepared to give up anything for you? Would he be faithful to you even when the romance wears off? Would he let you make some decisions about your lifestyle and bringing up of children? You seem to be saying he is married to someone else. Is he treating his current wife with the respect she deserves if he is dating you? How would you feel if that were you? Have you asked God what is the right and holy course of action for you in your situation? Even if you do not have sex with someone, the relationships still needs to be pure, Matthew 5 verse 27-32 explains about adultery and divorce. We cannot just change our minds about our husband or wife because we are attracted to another person. That is where the commitment and determination come in. And if we do sin in our hearts we can come to God and receive forgiveness through trusting in Jesus Christ. And he will show us the direction for our lives as we listen to his voice. I hope this helps – matters of the heart are often painful, but Jesus can give us the strength we need if we ask him.
Love Paula
Hi Paula
He is from West Africa and works in Central Africa where I live. He has 3 children and with a beautiful woman ad he loves them dearly.I have known him for 7 years now and most of his family are in my country.I have accepted to be his second wife but honestly am scared and nervous , I do love him and I know he loves me to, yet I am worried that he will make me stop work etc etc I cant see myself as a full time housewife.
Hi Paula,
Honestly I do understand where you are coming from with your views and I thank God for them beceause you have touched on everything that I am stressing over.My family are devout christians and that has been my up bringing, now if we get married where will the wedding take place? and who will marry us, then the children and the islam faith. I have gotten to understand it that is the islam faith and I have no problem with it so long as he does not force me to change.I am a free spirit and love to travel yet I feel all that will change.I do not want to leave him because I love him and he is so good to my family and he buried my father in an honourable way. What I love about him is the way he also loves his wife and children, crazy I know and trust me when I say Inever saw myself in a polygamous marriage.But such is life.How do you advise I handle this….situation.
Hi Juliet – it’s a priviledge to speak with you about such a personal issue.
We all need love in our lives, and we can get that love form a number of sources. I feel very loved by the brothers and sisters in the church that I am part of. And our biological family, like parents and brothers and sisters can give us love and security. And above all there is the security of being a child of God. He is such a loving father and wants beyond all else, an intimate relationship with each of us.
We don’t have to have a sexual relationship, or a marriage, to have love relationships. I know many single, celebrate people who have a wonderful exciting life because they are part of the family of God. But I know most of us want to be married – it is natural. I have been blessed by a marriage to the same man for 34 years, so I have not experienced the pressures of singleness.
I do pray that you will find a group of strong believers in the Lord Jesus in your country / culture who will be able to help you think and pray about these issues. Find people that believe in the Bible, particularly what the New Testament has to say about relationships and marriage and the family. Find people who will love you , pray with you, rejoice with you and cry with you.
I pray God will bless and guide you and your boyfriend, who He also loves very much. He sounds like a very nice and decent sort of man. Many Muslim men I have met are very considerate, polite and kind and respectful towards women ( I know that some are not). Some men who ‘call’ themselves ‘Christian’, are not in fact following Christ and his ways, or committed to Him. They are living their own immoral selfish, drunken way. It ‘is’ possible to find a loving, moral, decent, respectful Christian man – I know I have found and married one!
Paula
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Who do you love more? This married man who gives you conditions or Jesus who will always love you no matter if you choose to leave him.
I pray that you choose to stay with Jesus, he will give you more than what any man can give you in this life. You say that you love him because how he loves his wife. Well that is not you.
Emily, this is specifically for you.
Emily, reading you and your story, I’d like to encourage you and acknowledge the love and grace with which you write. The Lord Jesus said “by their fruits you will know them”. And in your love and gentle manner, it’s quite evident who your Father is.
As I read your story, I couldn’t but help believe that in your specific case, your marriage was put in place by the Lord Himself and that all things will work together for good for you (as per Romans 8:28). Your husband is merely searching. – perhaps in the wrong places, but still, he has to work out his own salvation, so it’s good that he’s going right into his background and religious roots – as a place to start. In this way, he can one day give an educated answer as to what he believes and why – and I truly believe he will have an AWESOME testimony, to the glory of God!
Bearing in mind that neither of you were in a committed relationship with GOD when you met and married, look how far you’ve come… truly the hand of the Living God is upon your life.
That verse from 1 Peter is indeed for you – and the Lord will be faithful. You will have the desires of your heart and will ultimately rejoice in the goodness and mercy of our Creator.
The “law” brings death but the Spirit brings life.
Am I qualified to comment in your case? I believe I am. I have the most amazing testimony. I’m reluctant to post it here as it’s long and complicated. But briefly, after a period of separating myself to the Lord for more than 7 years, not being in (or seeking) any relationship with a man, I innocently responded to an article entitled “Dear Allah” – a sarcastic, tongue-in-cheek letter to God by an agnostic, an ex-muslim.
A most unpredictable and amazing chain of events followed. Never in my life have I faced greater internal conflict, have fasted for so long, prayed as intently, laid myself down to the Living God’s perfect will – only to come to the…
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A most unpredictable and amazing chain of events followed. Never in my life have I faced greater internal conflict, have fasted for so long, prayed as intently, laid myself down to the Living God’s perfect will – only to come to the inevitable conclusion that a marriage union had been decreed by the Lord Himself. The problem? I was the “perfect” Christian woman – was God truly asking me to enter into a life relationship with an atheist / agnostic?.
Oh, I shall never be quick to judge anyone ever again.
Only God knows the heart. Only God knows the heart of an Arab who would wander into the desert to die and meet with God – “not the God of religion but the God who saw everything”, he once said.
1 Peter 3:1-4 was specifically given to me, before we even set eyes on each other (in fact, we were on different continents at the time).
They say God is a God of coincidences. The number of coincidences has been STAGGERING. And entwined around each coincidence, has been the Word of God.
So… to any other woman reading this message to Emily, and who is out there married to… or even considering marrying a man who is not a believer in Jesus Christ, I have only one question and one suggestion:
IS THIS RELATIONSHIP LEADING CLOSER TO JESUS – OR AWAY FROM HIM? There’s the test, and, if you’re honest, the Living God will definitely give you the answers you’ve been searching for. Remember, the word asks us not to be unequally yoked. Where is the balance of power in this relationship? Do you put God first? Nothing you do will succeed unless you FIRST “seek the kingdom of God – and His righteousness.”
Emily, I have NO doubt that you are in God’s perfect will and I stand in agreement with you for your husband’s total and glorious salvation.
Look, if you don’t want future problems, DON’T MARRY OUTSIDE YOUR RELIGION!. It’s as simple as that. I don’t know why people go into such marriages with their eyes wide open then years later turn around and complain about things having changed. Well, here’s newsflash; PEOPLE CHANGE.
I know a lot of people who are either in or were raised in such circumstances. It ALWAYS becomes an problem in future no matter how open minded either party are to begin with. It’s the children I always feel sorry for, from personal experience. You might think you’re in love and love conquers all and all that crap, but sooner or later reality will set in and you’ll start regretting why you got married in the first place.