I married a Muslim – do I throw my Christianity away?
Married 1 Peter 3:1-2
Everyday I wake up next to the man that I married. He is a Muslim and I am a follower of Jesus. When we decided to get married, neither of us was practicing our faiths, so it was an easy decision. In fact, our faiths looked quite similar in many ways and he had convinced me that they were indeed very similar.
Even though I knew I had married a Muslim, his decision to start practicing (just one year after getting married) came as a huge surprise to me. It totally upset the balance that we had as two people, each living out our faiths in a very nominal way. Along with anger at him for changing (as we all do!!), I also felt a growing resentment towards this religion that was stealing my loving, caring husband and replacing him with someone who was so focused on rules, regulations and merciless rituals. Our romantic relationship took a serious turn for the worse.
The fact that he keeps the rules affects my life a lot. For example, if we have to be somewhere at a certain time (especially it is something for me, it seems), he’ll want to wait just a little longer before leaving so that he can get the next prayer in. During Ramadan it is especially challenging because he will basically not touch me all day – and definitely will not kiss me. This is hard for me, not because I want to kiss him all day (or maybe I do! 
), but because I see marriage as an open, living, breathing expression of love and commitment to each other. Sometimes, physical expression is needed to say what words cannot. I do think that he errs on the side of caution, especially during Ramadan, in hopes that he will make up for all the other days of the year that he is not following everything to the letter. I have to rely on God’s grace and wisdom to know how to respond to some of these things that my husband throws at me.
Lately, I’ve been grappling with how I will respond when he wants our daughter to start praying. This probably won’t happen for a while, but I fear the day that it does. I try to put things into perspective by weighing what is actually right and wrong. There is nothing wrong with washing, definitely nothing wrong with praying, or even praying at a certain time (this tradition, I believe, actually came from the Christian church a long, long time ago). The problem I will have is with our daughter having to state that Mohammed is a prophet and denying the divinity of Jesus. I keep praying that my husband will come to know Christ before this becomes an issue.
At the same time, there are many things that I can take from Islam and transfer to my own faith. Their view of God, His omnipotence, His omnipresence, and His sovereignty, is very core to how they see God. (If we could just throw in the knowledge of God’s love for us all, that would be great!!). I’ve learned to treat our Scriptures with more reverence. The goal I strive for is to find a balance between knowing God as a holy, pure and powerful God as well as knowing Him personally, as my Saviour, my friend and the One who loves me more than I could ever imagine!
Ironically, it was this sudden fervour of his that drove me back to my roots – my relationship with Jesus. Surprisingly, I am actually from a Christian family, grew up attending Sunday School , DVBS, Bible Camp, and even Bible College. I was a leader in my church and looked up to by many people, as a role model in the faith. What was the problem? In one short word … Pride. I never thought it could happen to me… I was firmly against marrying a non-believer but put in the right circumstances we are capable of anything.
Within a couple months of his awakened faith, I was invited to my friend’s church at Christmas. I went only because I thought it was the least I could do, being a nominal Christian and all. God had plans for me though. I don’t remember what the message was that day, but it made me want to return. So I did. The next Sunday, the message was about God’s all-encompassing love and His forgiveness, no matter how deep the sin. I sat in the front row with my dear friend. I wept. God had taken my heart of stone and softened it – miraculously; instantly. Words really cannot explain what happened in this short moment.
Here I am today, a follower of Jesus. There are many verses that encourage me, one that I think of almost every day is this one: “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” (1 Peter 3:1-2, NIV). I am challenged to look at my marriage, not as a mistake, but as a sign of God’s forgiveness, grace and love.
Prayer Requests for (Christian) women married to Muslim men:
- - That our love for Jesus would grow daily, through time in the Word and on our knees.
- - That we would be led by Spirit in how we live and share Christ – choosing words carefully.
- - That we would be well connected to a church body – and sought to be understood and supported.
- - Unity, wisdom and discernment in child-rearing.
- - A deep steadfastness in the knowledge of God’s love, knowing that God loves our husbands even more than we do.
- - The courage to stand in prayer for our beloved husbands. God has allowed us to become married (whether by disobedience or subsequent conversion) and will give us what we need to live as an example of Jesus in our homes, so that our beloveds would meet Jesus.
- - Pray against fear – the future is unknown and that can be very scary for a woman married to a Muslim – pray for increased faith and trust that He who holds our lives has good plans for them.
Editors Note: we have the offer of a Christian women wanting to help other women married to Muslim men. Feel free to leave comments and questions below in the comment section for now. We can always start a Marriage forum if we get enough replies.
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A friend of mine pointed out to our high school youth group the hazards of dating a non-believer.
You are a believer on the top bunk of bunk beds. Your unbelieving friend is in the bottom bunk. As you pull on each other, will you both end up in the top bunk or the bottom bunk?
This should be all a believer needs to know about dating an unbeliever.
Joe
Hi Joe,
Thanks for your message – yes it is true. We pull at each other. And this message should be all that a believer needs to know, you’re right. The danger comes when we see it as simple and logical… and PRIDE starts to say that we would never play the bunk bed game by dating a non-believer.
I never planned to date a non-believer. I definitely didn’t think I’d marry one. It was in thinking that I would never do it, that I did it. Anyone is capable of making mistakes. Attraction does not diminish when you logically say that you should not date a certain person.
Young people need good solid support when faced with making decisions like this. Flat out condemnation is not usually going to cause a person to turn away from a relationship that is wrong… but love can. And even more powerful is prayer. You don’t have to even tell them you’re praying… God moves in spite of it all!
I hope you are never faced with such a choice (of whether or not to date a non-believer) but if you are, I pray that you would have the strength and support to do the right thing in the eyes of the Lord.
While dating, I actually broke up with my husband for a few months. That was God. But then we saw each other again and didn’t want it to end. That was Self. It’s always a battle.
Thanks for sharing the analogy! It is a good one.
Blessings to you, Joe!
~Emily
are u calling muslims nonbelivers if so your wrong. my experience with my muslim husband and been no different than another beliver, he is for sure a believer.
A lot of women date unbelievers because they feel they aren’t completed without a man. It’s basically a form of female pride, you could say.
I basically don’t date, because I refuse to date anyone who is not a committed Christian man living a spiritual lifestyle – and to be honest, there aren’t many. But I’m waiting on God.
I’d rather never get married than deal with all the heartache that women have to go through who are married to unbelievers. Frankly, it’s not worth it to me. I’d rather be alone with God than with a man who is ungodly and makes my life miserable.
Muslims have no appeal for me – I can’t stand their views towards women and I have no desire to date any of them.
Wow, I thought i was reading my life story….lol As you i married a muslim man. I am a Christian. I also have so much angry now for his religion and him. I am thinking of divorce. I cannot over come the angry i have for him and his religions now after we married, before ther was none. but now that he is here and we married. wowo the angry i have. I have such a hard time being “Christ like” to him. I hate my marriage now. I do not know what to do anymore. I love Jesus and always will, but i do not think i can go on in this marriage.
Hi
bail out of your marriage now….he is out to destroy your faith in Jesus.
i will find you a good christian man to take care of you…i am available and I love the Lord Jesus dearly
for me, it is not a good moved to divorce your husband and marry another one, just be a blessing to your husband so that he will see the truth,nothing is imposible to the lord, keep on reading the bible and the lord will tell you what you must do,rely on him and bear in your mind that he has a purpose of everything….keep on your faith to the Lord Jesus!
the bible tells those married to non-believers that they are to stay in the marriage, that the one who is lost may be witnessed to and may also be saved, the best advice to any women married to a non-believer is that found in 1 Peter chapter 3 – win them without a word, that said after 23 years of marriage to a turkish muslim i am still praying for him – i have been saved for 17 years. i have had a lot of help and support from the loving a muslim group accessed through answering-islam.org
dearly beloved,
your sins, including all mistakes are forgiven and your husbands as well. the fact that he has not come to claim his forgiveness does not negate it. your anger and hatred both for your forgiven sins and his religion will only do you more harm. be sure that the Lord wants you to leave the marriage and be sure to deal with the hatred and anger. God’s grace to you and the others!
Mbah
That is what i experienced, the Forgiveness of our Lord Jesus, it is true that people make mistakes but because he loves us, he will accept us again if we really recommit our life unto him and continue serving him no matter what our situations…tru the grace of our Lord Jesus, my muslim husband allowed me to practice my faith because he saw how really christians are,he was blessed and i do believe that sooner,he will accept the Lord jesus as his Lord and savior. and my whole family will be following Jesus!
sisters in christ, keep on your faith and be a blessing,as
mbah says,deal with your hatred and anger because it will really affect you,LOVE your Husband as the Lord Loves you…
Our situation is soo hard but that will make us more closer to the Lord, let us lift up each other so that we will become strong in our faith..keep in touch her always,read what will make you more closer to the Lord…..God bless!
anyway,im in a place where the muslim faith started,and all around me is a muslim….but Praise the Lord,inside of my house, i can freely practice my faith!
wow i thought i was the only 1 with this problem i have never been baptist but am am a spanish 20yr old girl who has been raised with christians my whole family is christian so i love jesus i married a muslim man 24yr from turkey at the beginning he was not religious at all everything was fine all of a sudden the day of our wedding his fat ass aunt that i hate actually gave me a head scarf u know the type they use i could believe ok i let that slide its been a year and i have grown to not only hate this religion but also my husband and his family he thinks he could controll me and that i should eat for there holiday once i argued with him locked myself in the room and screamed to him I LOVE JESUS !! it just came out of me ive heard they beat women i have let him know that he would get locked up if he ever touches me i think this would end in a divorse
Hi Susie,
Thanks for sharing a bit of your story. I’m sorry to hear that you are having a hard time loving your husband right now. I understand, but do pray that God would show you just how much He loves your husband. I will pray for you that your heart would be softened towards your husband and vice versa. I will also pray for God’s discernment for you.
I do feel I need to comment about the idea that all Muslim men beat their wives… it is not true. I’m sure that some do (as they do in every country and culture), but I have been with my BH (beloved husband) for almost 7 years and he has never even come close to hitting me. He is very gentle and does not see physical force as being a good response to anything.
In His sovereignty, God has allowed your marriage to take place. Your priorities (and mine!!) should be first to seek God’s heart (if you don’t desire that right now, ask God to put that desire in your heart – He will!). Second is to love and respect your husband. While this can be very challenging and look different in every relationship, it is important – see 1 Peter 3:1-2.
Susie, I do pray that God would help you and your BH to find the things that drew you together in the first place. I pray that your relationship would be strengthened and that your BH would see the love of Jesus shining through you!
Feel free to come back and let us know how it is going or if you have specific things we can pray about. God love you, Susie! He wants the very best for you and wants to shower His love and blessings in your life. Keep seeking Him, worshiping Him and loving Him with all your soul, mind and strength!
Much love,
Emily
susie dear, me too,im a christian but i married a muslim…..i don’t want to justify the sin that i commited by marrying a non muslim, but thru that, i really experienced how the Lord forgives me and how he loves me and my children and my husband too…I do believe that the lord has a plan for each in everyone of us, sometimes we don’t understand it but,he put you where you are to become a blessing to your husband so that he will come to know Jesus christ …if you are in a difficult situation right now, go to the Lord, never never give up, that is your ministry and your calling, pray hard and he will answer you…divorse is not the answer, as the Lord promise,your husband and your kids are sanctified, they are separated, so continue serving the Lord Jesus,show the Love of the Lord to them, and ask the Lord what you should do….
im so happy to see this site that i can share also with somebody … im your sister susie,cry out to the Lord, i know how you feel but stand up and keep you faith in Jesus christ burning…
you are not alone susie, we are with you as a sister,let us pray for each other..
Susie, I think you were too immature to be married in the first place. Second, you should divorce in order to get on with your life and your husband with his. The whole falicy that Muslim men beat their wives is crazy. It happens across all races, creeds, social and economic classes. My ex-husband was a Christian and delighted nothing more than beating me whenever he could. It was because of his personality and how he viewed women based on what he saw at home with his own father. A person like that will never be happy and never be able to have a healthy relationship. You most definately need to move on and marry someone of your own faith.
Hi Cindy,
Thanks for sharing here about the struggle you are having right now. I understand.
Sometimes, the anger I feel towards my husband at times has me wondering how I ever loved him in the first place!! The one thing that has helped me to stay positive is that the battle we wage is not against our husbands as people… but against the evil forces of Islam that we can not see. Ephesians 6:12 (New Living Translation) says this,”For we are not fighting against people made of flesh and blood, but against the evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against those mighty powers of darkness who rule this world, and against wicked spirits in the heavenly realms.”
So this means that when the spirit of legalism grips my beloved husband, I need to see that it is not HIM but the Evil One working through and in him. This is not to say that I don’t hold him responsible for his actions (I definitely do!!), but for those things that just don’t make sense in my grace-filled paradigm, I have to remember where the battle is.
Most Christians, when they read this verse, do not think of a battle waging in their own home, in their marriage, in the one relationship that is supposed to be safe and secure. This makes it even harder for people not in our situation to understand.
I believe this battle is going on 24/7 – sometimes we have more strength, but trust me, when God is moving, Satan is counter-attacking. I’ve seen it time and time again. Even as I share through the ministry at 30-Days, I sense a stronger battle. I would not be surprised if my hubby, who hasn’t pulled out his prayer mat in weeks, pulls it out today, in an attempt to be a better Muslim.
Cindy, you (and I and any other believer in this situation) need to be especially well connected to the body of Christ. Are you connected to a church or a body of believers? Being connected does not have to imply that you go to church on Sunday (though being part of a church is a wonderful blessing if you are able to attend). Do you have someone, a female friend, you can meet with regularly to pray and intercede, not only for your husband, but for the strength of your own faith?
A wise friend once shared with me that the most important thing is not to focus on saving my husband — that is the work of the Holy Spirit. My most important task is to stay well connected to the true source of Life, Truth and Love – our Lord Jesus. This is hard. I struggle daily with this part. It does not happen naturally. But the key is that I need to keep struggling and challenging myself to stay in the Word and to be on my knees (at least figuratively, though bending every once in a while does a soul good!).
Cindy, I encourage you to keep pressing on. I’d love to hear more from you and welcome a response to my words here. You are so precious to God and He loves your beloved husband even more than you do! His desire for your husband’s salvation is stronger than yours. And HE IS ABLE!
I will pray for you and ask that you do the same for me and other women in our situation. We are not alone. God loves you and wants to walk with you through this difficult time. If you haven’t done this already, meditate on 1 Peter 3:1-2 – these are verses that have inspired me and encouraged me. God is sovereign – if He wanted to, He could have prevented us from marrying the men we did, but He didn’t. He has amazing plans to use us in the lives of our beloveds.
Cindy, I truly look forward to hearing from you again! And anyone else out there who is thinking they are totally alone – you’re not! And this website is a great way to connect with others who are struggling as well.
(This ended up being much longer than I anticipated… but I’m very passionate about the Hope that Christ has given us!!)
** Note: Abuse is a real thing and should not be tolerated in any relationship. If your husband is abusing you, you need to get help. God does not want us to be abused, nor does He ask us to tolerate it for His sake within the marriage context.
As a Muslim im surprise that you people actually got married to a Muslim and didint convert while doing so.
This show only one thing. The person you married is not a proper Muslim as he or she did not uphold the rule of Muslim marriage. In my opinion, it’s better to get a divorce as it will only drag him or her (the Muslim) to the hell fire as the marriage is not legal in Allah’s eyes.
Thus it dosent really matter if you divorce or not as in his eyes, you people haven’t got married just yet. I just dont know what culture you are from but nevertheless Islam rules is Islam rules there is no exceptions . For thousands of years it has been the same. The quran has never been edited nor touch.
Islam has only 1 book and one holy book only. We used to follow the bible(the real jesus) after his time is up. It’s all about the quran.
I’m sorry to get away from the topic, but i hope it helps you realise something about Islam that is often overlooked.
In your case, i am sorry. As long as you did not convert to Islam during marriage to a Muslim man or women it’s never accepted in Allah’s eyes.
If before the marriage the Muslim man or women said it is okay to practice each other faith and live in one house. It just show how much he lacks of basic knowledge about his Islam. Thus i am happy that he or she finally repent and hopefully you people do not argue as god has plan for everybody.We just follow it and have good faith that god gives us the good things in life and after life.
I want to share something deep and i know many will not understand but for those who does im happy for you.
Allah has written your whole life plan before you even got born, we follow that plan, we have no rights what so ever in it. We could pray to change something, but in the plan he already written and knows that you will pray to him about that something. That’s why we call him the all mighty as he has no features, no face no form nothing. But he’s there. There must be a force greater that creates his earth. A human can never create the sky the space or a life. It’s extremely logical that something stronger that is needed to create this universe.
It is nothing deep really. I got no issues with Christians or other faith. As long as they do not say something that is not true about Islam its okay. The media is the root to all evil, they brand us as being terrorist becasue that’s all they got to bring us down. If you really find out, who is behind all the media you will know why that’s happening.
I pray and hope you guys settle your matter quickly as you don’t want to pull each other to hell do you ? Resolve it as soon as possible.
I hope my post do not hurt any one, it might be tough on some people but fact is facts and i don’t wish to hide the truth. I wish you all the best and best of health and faith.
Regards,
Iman
It is so hard to find a good Muslim man that I do not believe that non-Muslim women (especially Christian women) should marry Muslim men. I think this is because of the brainwashing by Christianity and the effect of Christianity in the USA. The Prophet Muhammad (swt) married a Christian woman and a Jewish woman and that was fine for them, however, I don’t understand in the present day why a so-called Christian woman would marry a Muslim man, whether he was practicing or not since there was the possiblity that he would reenter his faith at some point during the marriage.
Islam has only 1 book and one holy book only. We used to follow the bible(the real jesus) after his time is up. It’s all about the quran.
I mean jesus. Not the real Jesus, in Islam we also believed in one Nabi Isa (Jesus) . Here’s something we believe too.
Jesus is not dead Allah taken him to the sky, one day he will come back down. Just a fun fact.
Anyhow i wish all the best in faith and life.
(and sorry for the typo)
Thank you all for your commenting back to me. It is in God’s hands now. There are alot of differances between us besides religion, there is culture,age. I give it to God .
thank you for this add, becouse i want advice, i have a boyfriend muslim and im christian. Im stay in house my boyfriend, but i dont understand what he want, before im happy to our relationship, but now i dont know what he want, becouse my boyfriend not have time for me as of now, everyday he go outside and come back early in the morning. Everytime he tell to me, dont think to much about me, becouse i love you. You dont understand anything. He tell me before, he want to marry with me. Why now he change,i dont know if give only for me challenge or not love me. Please i want advice, becouse i dont know what i do. I love to much my boyfriend. I want to now only why he make for me this. Im only in the house im not go outside. I take care of him. I want only to know what i do. Thanks.
Clare, love and marriage must be built on mutual respect. It is hard to see any respect from him for you. However, I do not see the way he acts toward you in person. His actions you describe tell me that he has very little respect for you.
Why do you stay at his house? Is this necessary? Are you alone with him there or is this his parents house?
What do you love about your boyfriend? What does he love about you? Do you love HIM?…or just some things about him? And ask these questions of him about you. So many men want girls for only one thing.
There is a very true saying that is important to remember.
Girls play at sex to get love.
Guys play at love to get sex.
These two motivations in a relationship will lead to much heartache in the future.
Are you familiar with the term “unequally yoked”?
joe
Hi Clare,
I have to say that I agree with Joe. Living with and/or being married to a person who does not respect you or treat you well is not good. Your email is a bit vague – can you answer the questions that Joe asked?
Relationships are tough at the best of times and take two people working at them equally as hard to be good.
It would be good to hear more from you!
Prayerfully,
Emily
HOLA CLARA,ME LLAMO LA ATENCION TU INQUIETUD POR ESO TRATARE DE RESPONDERLE.SI ALLAH LO PERMITE,EN PRIMER LUGAR LO MOJOR PARA USTED ES APRENDER UN POCO DEL ISLAM,DE ESE MODO PODRA DIFERENCIAR MEJOR SI SU NIOVIO ASI COMO LE LLAMA ES MUSLIM,LE COMENTARE PARA Q ME ENTIENDA UN POCO,EN PRINCIPIO EN EL ISLAM NO HAY NOVIASGOS,NO INTIMIDAD,NI ESTAR A SOLAS EL HOMBRE CON UNA MUJER NI A LA INVERZA,POR LO QUE COENTA DE ESA PERSONA PODRIA SOLO DECIRLE QUE EN EL MUNDO AHI DE TODO,MUSULMAN SIGNIFICA VIVIR SOMETIDO A LA VOLUNTAD DE ALLAH(DIOS)EL ISLAM ES UN MODO DE VIDA,ESTO QUIERE DECIR QUE EL BUEN MUSLIM CUMPLE CON LOS MANDATOS DE ALLAH Y LAS ENCEÑANSAS DEL PROFETA MOHAMED(SAWAS)ES NECERIA QUE SI LES INTEREZA UN MUSLIM SEPAN DE LA RELIGION DEL ISLAM,PARA QUE QUEDE MAS CLARO TE DOY UN EGEMPLO SIMPLE,SI TIENES UN ELECTRODOMESTICO NUEBO ESTE LLEGA CON UN MANUAL,SI NO LO UTILIZAS COMO DICE EN EL MANUAL NO FUNCIONA O SE DAÑA.EL MANUAL(GUIA)DEL MUSULMAN ES EL SAGRADO QURAN Y LAS ENCEÑANZAS DEL PROFETA(SAWAS)SI TU APRENDES UN POCO SABRAS SI ESA PERSONA ES BUEN MUSLIM O SI NO LO ES,NO PODEMOS LO SMUSULMANES ELEGIR LO QUE QUEREMOS Y EL RESTO DE LA LEY DE ALLAH NO CUMPLIRLAS,EL MUSLIM CUMPLE CON TODO EL QURAN Y LAS ENCEÑANZAS DEL PROFETA MOHAMED(SAWAS)EL QUE NO CUMPLE ,ES IPOCRITA NO MUSULMAN Y ESA PERSONA SABE QUE TENDRA UN MAL FIN EL DIA DE JUICIO FINAL…SERIA INTELIGENTE DE TU PARTE QUE ESTUDIES UN POCO LOS MODALES DEL BUEN MUSULMAN.BUSCALO ASI,AHI MUCHO EN GOOGLES,O PON ISLAM HAUSE, TAMBIEN TENDRAS MUCHO PARA LEER Y ESCUHAR AHI,DE ESE MODO PUEDES CORREGIR A TU PROMETIDO PARA Q RERECE AL CAMINO CORRECTO Y SE COMPORTE REALMENTE COMO BUEN MUSULMAN, SERA TU BENEFICIADA COMO MUJER Y MAS AUN SI TU HACEPTAS EL ISLAM.ALLAH QQUIERA Q PUEDAS COMPRENDER LO QUE TRATO DE EXPLICARTE Y PUEDAS APRENDER DEL ISLAM PARA QUE SE AYUDEN ENTRE USTEDES DOS,PERO SI EL PREFIERE SER IPOCRITA(EL ENTIENDE ESA PALABRA QUE SIGNIFICA EN EL ISLAM,) ENTONCES ES MEJOR ALEJARTE DE EL,PERO MI RECOMENDACION ES APRENDE,LEE Y ASI NO SE REPITA UN MAL MOMENTO O PUEDAS SER FELIZ CON EL.”QUE LA PAZ Y LA GUIA DE ALLAH ESTE CON USTEDES”
That good. Cause Islam means , full submission. And if you are a christian and fully submit your self to your god. It’s really an act of faith.
Just remember that, to me it is Allah who have plan everything, from the leave drops from the tree to the snail walking to the great collapse of Lehman Brothers to everything. He has the reasons behind it, only we don’t know and we will know some day.
and for you Cindy, age , culture is not a problem. My prophet Muhammad, first wide is 42 years old when he married her. He is only 20. It’s the love and the time spend with each other that makes it all worth while.
Keep on the faith and everything will be fine.
Regards,
iman
I’m suprised at you Imam. You said Emily is not married before Allah because she was not converted before the marriage and now you say it’s good for Clare, who is not converted to Islam to be abused by her Islamic boyfriend who is married to her? You obviously would want her to marry the boyfirend “unconverted” so long as she submits to the dehumanisation of your Pudah. what does Allah say about this live-in relationship? Christ says its wrong!
Mbah
I mean “boyfriend who is NOT married to her”
Mbah
is it really these muslims guys fault that the Christian religion is relaxed ? i cant see the logic of what im reading here.
it seems like you women where ok when your men said they where muslims but never paritied it, but now that they are priating the religion you have problems with it,
So to a read like myself it would sound true that you don’t love or repect these men for being muslims as you just liked them when they had the Badge,
if you put more effort in understanding and talking to your husbands then you (Emily) put in this site you may find some true common ground.
I’m muslim myself, and im so open minded my mindset merged with the milky way when listening to a scientologist, if you can listen to them you can take on Any type of talk,
But anyways if you want to be stubborn about it carry on a fill a divorce,
and on a off note this website maywell be a cooked up storytime,
I just can’t see someone leaving their husband or wife just because they are following their religion.
that is exactly my stoy, i love my husband, he is a muslam, but my love for jesus is bigger he is my savior, i have a 2 year old son and i always pray for him to accept jesus in his heart, i know there is nothing impossible for jesus, he said ASK and i Will give, so im very faithful i know he will open my husband’s eyes and he will understant that jesus is his savior. he is really nice and let me put on a chistmans tree, he celebrates with me and my family, but im afraid that as he gets older he will start to practice his religion.. i just leave everything on God’s hands.. and i will keep asking and i Will receive
i just wanted to say i married to a muslim woman and i have no religion really. i was grown up christian but i dont beleive in any religion becuz i believe in science. all i have to say is we have a daughter and our life is great. yes her family flipped out but if your sayin that “allah” says dont marry anyone whose not muslim your mistaken. why would god put muslims over me or my daughter or my family or anyone i know not muslim. muslims are not above anyone, neither am i. i hate that muslims say that but say there not prejudice you think your better than everyone yet your messenger was raping a 7 year old girl. god would not let his messenger do that. muhammad was a sick perv who was crazy. if i said god sent me messages would you beleive me no. im not just hating on muslims all religions teach to be prejudice. we need to stop this and let people beleive what they beleive.
Thanks for sharing your story, Elena! I am praying with you for your husband’s salvation. One thing that has been impressed upon more and more, the longer I’m in this relationship is that it is not up to me to “convert” my beloved husband. That is the work of the Holy Spirit. The more time I spend getting fed in the Word and in prayer, listening to Him and sharing my heart with Abba Father, the more His light shines from me into the world.
The more we know God, the more He works through us! Praying that continue to shine bright in your family and with your friends. God is working, all the time!
There are still struggles though, that cannot be denied. And I pray for you during the struggles as well, that your faith would be strong, that you would have the courage to trust God. I’ve been challenged a lot with that lately. I’m overwhelmed by the magnitude of it all, but I’m continually reminded that God is bigger than it all. He can move mountains and I’m asking Him do that that, in my life, in your life. No heart is too far that He can’t reach it!
Thanks for sharing, Elena!
Thanks Emely,this really help us to grow more…am so happy that i found this web site…God is so
This whole website is a crock. I think sects who aggresively seek out to convert people have really big issues and just want to prove that they are right. I think they should let others do as they will. It holds no harm to anybody to have diversity in the world. The way some of these people talk they it seems they want to eradicate the world of anyone who doesn’t think like them or refuses to change to be like them.
The advice on here is so sick. Omitting things about christianity like the son of god relevance in the bible because it would “confuse” muslims. That is highly offensive. The majority of muslims understand exactly what christianity is and what they believe. My husband (who is muslim) knows more about the bible than some christians do.
And… if these women purposely married muslims… they should have researched a bit more into the background of the religion and the culture they were to become attached to. If you don’t like it, leave. The man does not deserve to be detested by practicing his faith. Faith is a very personal thing and if you love someonee you should also respect their decision. As far as children are concerned in mixed marriages it should be left to the child to decide, as long as they are being taught to be good persons it doesnt matter.
I think it is a weak or desperate person who marries someone so different from themselves and doesnt have the intelligence to think about the consequences.
The comments about “evil” being in the husband is bs. Please show it to your husband and see how long he wants to be with you still. You are lying to yourself and lying to him. What kind of marriage is that anyways?
The whole thing makes me sick.
Hi Emily,
I would just try to correct a small misconception that you have about the “loving” part of Allah.
You wrote:
“…Their view of God, His omnipotence, His omnipresence, and His sovereignty, is very core to how they see God. (If we could just throw in the knowledge of God’s love for us all, that would be great!!)…..”
As far as I understand, you tried to imply that Muslims do not think that God loves his creations. That is not correct. One of Allah’s names is Al-Wadud, which means The Most Loving, The Most Affectionate.
There is a saying from our Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) that Allah’s love for us is 70 times more than our mother’s love for us.
The 70 is of course not a rigid number – but rather a symbolic.
Also, in Islam, it has been stressed again and again that Allah is most forgiving and he loves to forgive. No matter how big a sinner you are, as long as you ask for forgiveness honestly (which means that at least at that moment you are determined not to commit those sins again), Allah will pardon you.
Hi Rajib,
I apologize for making such a blanket statement, it was not fair or true. But in Islam, the nature of the love that is expressed by Allah is different than the love expressed by God in Christianity. I encourage you to read the following article: http://www.30-days.net/shop/download/love_god_quran.pdf.
To summarize, the love of God in the Koran is conditional. In order to gain God’s love in Islam, one must obey God. But in the Bible, God’s love is proven to be unconditional. God loves us first so that we might love Him. Even when we sin, the love of Jesus does not fail. This does not give us license to sin, oh no! But it does free us from wondering if we are being “good enough” to be loved by God. The article explains it better than I do – I encourage you to read it!
Again, I apologize for the way that I spoke. It was inappropriate and not fair at all. I do pray that God’s love would fill each and every person who reads these words!
if God’s love in the Bible is so unconditional then why will I go to hell if I reject Jesus as God?
doesn’t that put a condition?
no, hell is the consequence of blatant rejection.
hi Emily,
I wonder what kind of Islam your husband is following.
From the Islam that I have studied, that too from mystics in the deserts of Yemen, there is nothing in this religion that prevents a husband from not showing love and affection towards his family. Infact we are encouraged to show affection and eat away our anger.
our prophet said “The best of you is the one who is best with his family”. Unfortunately your husband’s Islam is a dry version of Islam that stems from Wahabism or its offshoots.
in centrality Islam’s message is love of God… existence is nothing other than a manifestation of God’s attributes and all of his attributes ultimately point out to 4 basic ones
The Omnipotent, The All-Wise, The Benevolent, The Gracious
and these 4 ultimately boil down to 1… “The Love” al-Wudood.
we believe in prophets as manifesation of these attributes. especially of the attribute of “The Gracious”
hence our love for them is intertwined with our love of God.
because for every action of mercy that we see in them we see God’s mercy and for every action of love in them we see God’s love… hence the more we know them, the more we know God and the more we love them the more we love God.
Jesus is a great prophet of God and we love him dearly…and our love for him is not an indebtedly or guilt love as Christians might have.
a love that roots from the idea of “oh we are eternally and inherently sinful and nothing can redeem us of our eternal sins except an eternal sacrifice”
for Muslims this is inconceivable
we believe God is ALL forgiving.
and a question for you would be; If forgiveness demands sacrifice and redemption then can we really call God merciful or forgiving?????
if my neighbor owes me a 1000 $ and then the next day he comes to me saying He’s sorry and he’s broke
i can do three things
1. demand him to pay 1000$ back
2. demand him to pay just a portion of it back
3. tell him it’s okay… since you genuinly feel sorry i forgive you and I still love you.
obviously the 3rd is forgivness… 1st and 2nd aren’t Forgiveness and they are not Mercy
if God was so merciful then why did he make us all inherently sinful?
why can’t he simply forgive us if we go to him broken heartedly in acceptance of our short-comings?
why does he have put himself in flesh and then sacrifice himself for our sins?
why is it that the prophets of the OT or rather all the prophets prior to Jesus would find the trinitarian doctrine heretical?
how do you reconcile with such diametrically opposing doctrinal differences between the Prophets of the OT and Paul’s interpretation of his inspiration of what Jesus said?
on top of that how do you digest modern archeological findings about the Mythraic religion, which was the dominent religion of Rome at the time of Jesus… , that it has startling similarities with Christianity?
how do you digest the fact that they too had a belief in a figure called Mithra who was the son of god, a sun god, and he died on the cross to redeem man of his sins? he had the same number of disciples and then was raised from the dead? and you goto Church on ”SUN”day not SONday
does the thought ever occur to you that Paul or the Romans made up Christianity just to fit in with their already existing religion?
finally, why would you judge Islam based on modern times? shouldn’t you put things in context? have you ever visited a Muslim country or the least studied their history?
should we forget Colonialism, WWI, the formation of tyrannical Muslim states that are supported by foriegn nations? how the populations are opposed to these rulers but these rulers are aided and abetted by countries mainly the US. they squelch dissent , control religious authority and education.
why not read abit on Ottomon dervishes and the Sufi tradition of Islam that the majority of the Muslims still follow instead of focusing on a hand full of people that are shown on the TV and blown out of proportion to make the viewers think as if all Muslims are like those radical lunatics.
why not hear what some of the Muslim scholars in US have to say about Islam… try listening to Hamza Yusuf Hanson for instance, or Abdul Hakim Murad… or Nuh Keller
atleast you build some frame of reference… you’ll find their talks on Youtube
just a few questions I thought you should ask yourself.
Dear Maghi,
you seem to have some nice examples and questions nearly outside Emily’s problem. Let’s follow your examples! your neighbour owes the money to your company but you let him owe so much to teach him that he cannot pay because you have a huge account to draw the debts of all who realise they cant pay. Christ was chosen before the foundation of the worl as the Lamb of God that takes away the sins of the world and revealed at the right time.
you see Maghi85, God’s plan id biger than the human mind and so he reveals it bit by bit progrssively. He used the skin of an animal to cover human nakedness but man did not realise then that He had used the blood to cover his sin. latter he gave animal blood to cover sin leading us to the perfect sacrifice planned before the foundation of the world. when your neighbour realises truely that he cannot pay and does not have the ability to live without getting more debt, he comes in humility not just to get debt relief but to recieve ability to live without debt. of course he will have to struggle but aided to gain financial freedom and then lead others through the same process.
This is so because God created him with a free will. his first parents made the wrong choice leading to generational inherent sinfulness. if this is difficult for you to understand ask those who have studied common medicine. if you get a virus and dont get rid of it, it runs through your linage or is not true in Islam? the death of the offender is God’s decree and we cannot explain why it is so but it seems Muslims even arrogate that to themselves in some of their Law. however our first parents were properly warned – not that the warning would have prevented it, it was bound to happen for God had already chosen the eternal sacrifice then – so for God to justly punish satan, He had to punish man’s sin but take the punishment himself because he loves man.
you see Maghi, Satan is a very powerful counterfitter (I hope the wor exists). Through all ages, he has continued to counterfit God’s plan. the difference that worry you is as I have tried to explain due to progressive revelation. God was progressively revealing his plans through the prophets and some of them did not even understand what they were saying when they spoke that was why they would go back to search “intently” about what they had spoken about salvation.
you see Maghi85, God wants to be known in every culture for it was He who founded culture by confusing the language of the earth. The Roman impositions should not be a problem for any people as God is working at causing the gospel to be entrenched in the mannerism of all peoples. Christians live a life of worship and worship everyday but especially on the first day of the week because of the historical meeting after the resurrection but that is not a rule. Tou may worship on Friday or Saturday if it is more convenient for your culture, it just that the Romans were in power then and so they determined the Calendar. this reply is getting too lenghty but I believe that if you are sincere, these would help you.
Mbah
read the story…i have a few things to pen…first of all it is said that bible and quran are scriptures from allah god whatever u want to call him.bible is said to be only for people of that particular age and quran is for entire humanity.bilble and quran if read properly have many similaritiies.whatever u r going through….why dont u face it with a positive approach rather than have such a pesimistic attitude towards it.why dont u realise that probably ur husband lately realised that not practicing his faith earlier was worng on his side and now he is trying to make up for it….why dont u give him asupporting hand and try to understand his side of story rather than messing up ur marriage….dont forget he is the man u loved and married….a man getting closer to allah is not bad….maybe u r not thinking for his point of view….why dont u lend him a supporoting hand…..and yes to top it all…remmber one thing…muslims definitely bleive that muhammed is the last messenger and he tops the list but do make a not of this…we r not muslims if we dont belive in jesus as a meesenger too.our respect for jesus is totally unquestionable.we have tremendous love for jesus and mary and do keep this in mind that allah has also said that the most pious women is no one but “MARY” “MARIAM” AS WE CALL HER.ther are certain misconception in ur mind.talk it out wit ur huband .coz when u dont have knowledge of a certain issue u need to discuss before commenting on it.i advice u have a positive approach to the entire situation…. believ me u will have a wonderful married life.all the best.
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Yours in Christ
Vikram
To be clear, I love my husband dearly and wouldn’t trade him for anyone! I am extremely thankful for him and I do not believe leaving is even an option:
“1 In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives.” 1Peter 3:1-2, NLT
God works with our imperfections, our bad decisions and makes good of them. It has been a tough road, for sure, but God’s presence in our relationship is what makes it work. He is my Redeemer.
-Emily
Praise God, Emily! You are on the right track. God told me I’d learn obedience to Him by obeying my husband, who was difficult to live with the first few years of our marriage. God showed me by James 2:10 and 3:16 that I was guilty before the One True Holy God of every sin that I hated in my husband. That was very upsetting to me, but I received a love for TRUTH from above, and God showed me I was guilty of every sin. The Precious, Perfect blood of the Lamb of God was applied to me, more fully than every before, and I was 100% cleansed by faith as in 1 John 1:9, so I could be filled with God’s Holy Spirit, in His Righteousness, Peace and Joy! All by faith in the Wonderful Gospel of Jesus Christ! So when I submitted to God first with all my heart, soul, mind and body, and then unto my husband as unto the LORD, I could believe all my husband’s sins onto the cross with Jesus, and then my own sins, too, and I could look at my husband as clean and pure as the LORD Jesus Himself! I could honor and obey my husband as unto our LORD, because He is always WORTHY of utmost obedience. Praising, honoring and obeying my husband became an act of worship and faith to our GOD. Even if my husband didn’t turn fully to God, I was still glad to obey as unto the LORD. Eventually, though, he did submit fully to God. Bless the LORD, who is blessed forever more! ALL FOR JESUS! Jeanie
Wow Jeanie what wonderful and true words. You really lifted my spirit up today. I am learning the same thing thru my muslim husband. It is so hard because he is so immature in soooooooo many area’s. But I am praying God helps me to repect my husbands position. What a great testomony you have. We over come by the Blood of the Lamb and the Word of our testomony. Thank you Jesus!
Just keep your faith burning! as the Lord says, commit your way to the Lord:trust in him and he will do this psalms 375(means,roll your way onto the Lord and trust unto him,and He works) just praise the Lord for your familys’salvation…He is bigger than our situation…love you my dear friend..
consider it all joy,my brethren,when you encounter variuos trials,knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance and let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete,lacking in nothing.But if any of you lacks wisdom,let him ask God,who gives to all men in generously and with out reproach,and it will be given to him.But let him ask in faith without any doubting,for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea driven and tossed by the wind…james 1:2-6
Jesus is the only way the truth and the life,no man comes unto the father except tru him, the day will come that he will reveal himself to everybody and proved that what we are serving is the true God!
this message is for IMAN.. I have a lot of respect for your religion (Islam), but I also respect all peoples’ religions… BUT… do you actually believe that God, the all mighty, the all wonderful, the all loving and caring, will actually throw someone in eternal fire (basically contradicting everything He is) just because that person fell in love with someone of the opposite religion, when that other person was also created by the SAME God???!! Our mentality is nowhere on the level of Allah’s, and an act like that seems to be something the mentality of a human being would come up with, selfishness… God is Love… and when 2 people fall in love, it is an act from God, since God does have everyone’s lives written out.. AND if God does have everyone’s lives written out and 2 people of the opposite religion got married, lived, and died together, then isn’t that God basically saying that its ok!!!! I don’t believe that God (the all loving and caring) will look at two people HAPPILY inlove and say “NO, you two are NOT allowed to love each other”
P.S since Both religions are focused on the SAME God, and both are a positive guide to life, then what is the big deal for the two to be together.. when one goes to the Church and one goes to the Mosque, they’re going for the same reason.. just different ways to practice their love for God (same idea)…. NO harm in that what so ever… people need to be more open minded.. God is probably laughing at our ignorance. God is too great to draw an image of him, BUT we can place him in a particular group???
just some food for thought……… no disrespect to anyone or their religion… I have read much of the Bible and the Qur’an and have much respect for both but slowly became disgusted with the human behavior and closed minded people… peace to alllllllllllll for we are ALL God’s people…
Upon reading the many replies to letters, I notice that the writers use small letters when mentioning God, Jesus. This is disrespectful towards the Almighty. I’m sure it’s not done on purpose by any of
the writers, but God/Jesus is awesome and deserves this respect.
Dom Wynne
While I do not aspire to become Muslim, as a Catholic/Christian I do admire some of the Muslim
religious teachings, yet, there is much lacking in this belief compared to Christianity. Since nothing is IMPOSSIBLE with God, and He sent prophets to earth time and time again to warn the people of their sinful behaviour. Because the people were stubborn and turned to false gods, God decided he would send his Beloved Son, Jesus through the Immaculate Heart of Mary by the working of The Holy Spirit
through Mary’s virginal birth when the Angel Gabriel appeared to Her. Didn’t this same Angel Gabriel appear to Mohammed? Man continued to sin, and God’s only Begotten Son preached the message from His Heavenly Father, appointed the twelve apostles to carry out His message, but the so-called religious plotted agains’t JESUS, and He did die on the cross to redeem all sinners. Nothing is IMPOSSIBLE WIth GOD ! He loves the ordinary people rather than the learned. A Great Friend to Have
It does not matter what religon your mate comes from,it is wheather you love them.Would you be with a chirstian that hates you or a muslim that loves you?You are not loving that persons religon you are loving them.
The space allotted for comments and replies is too narrow. However, I’m back again to continue where I left off. If two people love one another, no matter what religion, as long as they respect each other, there is no place in a marriage, or partnership for violence, jealousy, resentments, suspicions, etc, etc, for this would not be true love in the sight of God. Love is a wonderful gift from God, and parents should not interfere with a marriage, advice yes, but good advice since they, the parents have lived throough lifes experiences. Parents should not have rows in front of their children, but have theirsay in private without yelling and shouting. Children need to feel secure in the home. Look around society to see the result of broken homes due to the selfhness of parents. There should be no such thing as ‘partners’ because this was not in God’s plans for marriage, it’s not a business, but a commitment that is blessed by God. Yes, God/Jesus is a true friend whom we will all meet one day.
I agree with what Rays said above. We must respect others, no matter whatever religion our convictions are. Interfaith dialogue is also helpful if we are open minded, and respect each other.
For all three of ‘Abrahamic’ religions Judaism, Christianity and Islam considered human race are from one parent – i.e Adam and Eve. Therefore we are counsins and brothers in that sense.
My story goes a bit differently. I married a Muslim, as a Christian who had only ever missed church on 3 or 4 Sunday’s since birth (not exaggerating). I questioned whether our relationship was right in God’s eyes, but it caused both of us to become more religious, and we both loved and respected each other, so it seemed good. I prayed and prayed that he would come to Christ. Then our son was born. We had previously agreed to teach our son about both faiths with him being allowed to choose when he was of age. This broke my heart, though, as it did my husbands, because we both truly felt it wasn’t a choice of culture, but of salvation.
For this reason, I set out to prove Islam wrong. I researched and researched, looking for the evil in Muhammed, and what his true motives were, because the Qu’ran could not be from God!
When my research turned away from propaganda sites set on painting Islam as ugly and Satanic, and turned to actual valid Islamic sources, I was so surprised by what I found.
For months I read everything I could on Islam and Christianity…from “The Case for Christ” to “Prophet Muhammed: A Mercy to the World.” And again and again, it was Christianity which came up short! This was NOT what I wanted to find. Christianity was my life, I taught VBS, counseled at church camp, was the daugther to two Sunday school teachers, played Christmas music NONSTOP starting the day after Thanksgiving, etc. (alright, so Christmas music doesn’t make you religious….but still)
But it happened. I found Muhammed to be a true prophet of God. The Qu’ran is revelation from God, and the Bible holds wisdom and inspiration from God, but ultimately, it’s a book written by man. What’s more, were the Bible to be 100% accurate, it still never paints the picture of the trinity that the Christian church is based on today. It broke my heart to find that I’ve spent my life following man made doctrine, but now alhumdu lilah I’ve found the direct path to God.
Now I view my marriage as truly from God. I always suspected…and wrongly assumed my husband would be the one to benefit by “seeing the light.” God is much greater than we could ever imagine, though, and although it was hard for me to come to terms with the truth I had found, I was and will always be grateful to God for leading me past the propaganda and media portrayal to the true beauty of a relationship with God through the revelation sent to Muhammad (pbuh).
I do not feel I have “denied” Christ. I feel I’m finally following the monotheism he truly preached. I feel Jesus would be proud of me for seeing past my comfortable circumstances and become even more like Jesus. I loved teaching Bible School, and still wish to spread the love of God, although this time I hope to do it by teaching at the Islamic School I plan on sending my son to.
i did a 180, and I’ve been where you ladies are, and I know what you will think of my decision. Do your research, though. Read Christian sources on Christianity and Islamic sources on Islam. What you find may surprise you.
May God bless you all.
Ma’alsalamah
Necole, read your Bible and you will know the truth!
Jesus is the only way the truth and the life,no man comes unto the father except tru him…the Bible comes first so, read it and ask the Holy spirit to reveal to you what’s the truth! God bless!!!
Thank you for your concern, ylrihs. As I said, I’ve been on the other side of things and know the feeling of wanting to “save” Muslims. But that being said, I have read the Bible, cover to cover. Now whenever I read the Bible it’s glaringly obvious to me that Jesus continually talked about the oneness of God, and the greatness and goodness of the Father – he never talked about himself in such respects, quite the contrary!
If Jesus prayed to God, and Jesus IS God…..? What? If Jesus is the ultimate intermediary between we sinners and God, and Jesus IS God, …we’re using God to get to God, which just doesn’t make sense. And finally if Jesus IS God, and Jesus was crucified on the cross…God was crucified. I don’t know about you, but I cannot say that comfortably. If you truly believe in the trinity, then anytime you talk about Jesus, ultimately you could substitute it with the word God. But that does not work! God did not die, God did not eat, God did not cry, and God was certainly not born….if you can sit comfortably with these statements (omitting the ‘not’) then I commend you for your faith in the incomprehensible. I, though, choose to put my faith in the logical monotheism that gives God the due respect as well as views Jesus in a very favorable light as a great prophet and MAN of God.
Even if no man comes to the father, but through Jesus, I’d like to believe I’m still covered. The verse doesn’t state that no one comes to the father but by believing Jesus is divine and ultimately is one with the father….
Again, I thank you for your kindness and concern. I think I’m beyond the point of ever seeing the truth in Christianity again, though. I’ve often thought, “if something happens to my husband, what would become of my newfound Muslim faith?” Obviously, it’d be so much easier to go back to Christianity. Easier due to family support, and easier because obviously remarriage would be easier to accomplish with a Christian man (not a lot of Muslims where I live). But even if my husband were not in the picture, I can no longer accept the idea of a triune man-God-spirit, and a necessary human/God sacrifice in order for me to be saved. Christianity made sense to me when it was all that I knew…because there are many truths in it….but now that I’ve been exposed to TRUE monotheism (i’ve studied Judaism, as well) i cannot turn away.
Sorry for rambling on and on. I’ve just come to terms with all of this myself, and my family doesn’t yet know. I’ve got a long, hard road ahead of me, but were I to put pleasing man (i.e. my family/the rest of society) above pleasing God, then I would truly be lost.
I suggest reading the Qu’ran, I know you’re not searching, but at least familiarize yourself with what the people you are praying for truly believe. You may be surprised.
God Bless you, as well.
HI,
Greetings in the name of Jesus christ!
God the father send his son Jesus Christ to show us the way. He came here on earth to show us how we will glorify the father aboved. He suffered,He was tempted by satan,and the time that he is near to be crusified,he prayed until he sweat with blood,and he said,not my will but your will be done,it all turns to God.Jesus christ did everything what the Fathers’ will….God the father,the son and the holy spirit is one because they have the one purpose..that is what we call trinity, and God the father gave all the authority to the Son Jesus christ here on earth that who ever recieves Jesus Christ as his Lord and savior,he will have eternal life. He he has the power to forgive sins,and who can forgive sin? God, so they are one…he is I Am!
let me tell you about Jesus christ,in islam,he is only viewed as a prophet,only a prophet…Mohammed is bigger than him inspite of all the miracles that he did,He was born in a vergin,when he was still young,he preached,when he was baptised by john,the heavens were opened and a he saw the spirit of God descending as a dove coming upon him and behold a voice out of the heavens,saying, This is my beloved son whom i am will pleased (mathew 3:16-17), he was tempted,but refused to give in, he raised up the dead,he heals,feeds a thousand with a small basket of bread and fish, he was stoned crusified and died and after 3 days,he rise and went to the father( read mathew 27 about the miracle happened when he draw his last breath)…all this thing shows who he is…
who else we will follow….are you going to deny the teaching of a man who did all these things to an ordinary man who did not do any miracles in his life…….. I know necole that you are still searching,i know that the Lord Jesus is talking in your heart, he died because of you, He loves you so much and he don’t want you to go away from him..listen to your heart,turn to the lord Jesus and ask the Holy spirit to work into your heart.
in our situation, it is really very hard, it is easy to give up and compromise or turn away totally from the Lord Jesus, but at the end….are you assured where you will be going?Did islam assured you that you will go to heaven if you will die? ask from your heart, don’t lie to yourself, do you have peace and Joy in your situation right now?
Hi Nicole,
I have sat on this for a while, but just wanted to write a note and thank you for sharing your heart and journey with us here. I really do believe we are on a journey and we learn as we go. I too considered Islam very seriously for a while, but could not see how sin was atoned for. I found no assurance of complete and total forgiveness in Islam. I see, in the Muslims I know, a need to do good for the sake of tipping the scale. While I strive to live a godly life, I know that no matter how much I mess up, I have complete and total forgiveness through Jesus Christ, my Lord, my Savior.
When I read the Old Testament and see the countless prophecies of One who would come to fulfill the Law and then hear the story of Jesus, a man without sin who became that atonement, I know in my heart that He is the one I want to follow. (The book of Isaiah is especially powerful and accurate!).
I appreciate your story and pray that God would continue to reveal Himself to you in very real and powerful ways… not only you, but everyone who visits this site (myself included!!). God desires us to want to know Him more, to spend all our days seeking to know Him more and have Him more and more involved in our lives. What an amazing God we serve!
Blessings to you and your family!
~Emily
I only came upon this blog subject now, but would like to point out something really crucial in the whole discussion.
The issue is not which religion is right and which is wrong. Am I correct in saying that in religion the focus is on what we can/ must do to please God? There are different ways of doing this and who is to say which way is correct.
When Emily got married she was nominally involved in the Christian religion, but then something happened to her. She had an encounter with God which caused her to become a follower of Jesus. The Christian faith is all about having a relationship with the living God.
Emily cannot just leave her husband because his religious ways are burdensome to her. She wants to please THE love of her life and therefore asks what Jesus wants her to do. He is one for relationships therefore He will not just say divorce the husband. She can trust Jesus to be with her on this road and enable her to do the right thing.
Emily’s heart desire is that her husband must also have an encounter with Jesus and enter into a life changing relationship with Him (sorry for picking on you, but I think you will understand). God bless you in this endeavour Emily. You are a blessing to me.
Yes and amen. Thanks Pieter. You’ve said it well.
~Emily
I meant to reply long ago, but got involved in other things.
I want to thank you for your kind reply. I respect your faith in Christianity, just as I respect all Christians. Some truly have a relationship with God and long to live Godly lives. I believe that God’s plan is bigger than me, and I believe that he knows our hearts and will know who to accept into Heaven, regardless of what title one chose for their walk with Him. With that being said, as you can see in my other posts, I truly do think that Islam is the “straight path” and a direct link to God. I trust that God has a plan for your family, and for mine, that He will reveal over time.
I would love to welcome you as my sister in Islam, but I know that your journey is your own and respect your decisions.
God Bless You and Yours!
Ma’alsalamah,
Nicole
Upon reading all the comments here and knowing I care about all people regardless of race, creed and religion, I know I am blessed in believing in Jesus Christ, the Son of God , and nothing is im- possible with Him. Jesus loves Muslims, Jews, Hindus and all others who do not believe in His Sacred Name, but respect Him as a Prophet! God was wonderful in that His angel appeared to poor
shepherds to announce the good News to the world of the birth of His beloved Son born in a stable in Bethlehem. The three Kings, following the star, came later. Jesus called the twelve apostles, poor unlearned fishermen to spread the news of His being The Son of God. It was the learned and so called wise religious leaders in the ‘old laws’ at that time, who contadictedChrist’s word, and He warned them time and time again for their ignorance. The Bible is the one and only true source of the Word of God. God/Christ so loved the poor and had great pity and Mercy on all sinners.
a reading from the Gospel according to Matthew21:33-43
Jesus said to the chief priests and the elders of the people, ‘Listen to another parable’. There was a man, a landowner, who planted a vineyard; he fenced it round, dug a winepressin it and built a tower; then he leased it to the tenants and went abroad. When vintage time drew near he sent his servants to the tenants to collect his produce.(God’s Prophets). But the tenants seized his servants, thrashed one and killed another and stoned a third. Next he sent more servants (Prophets), this time a larger number, and they dealt with them the same way. Finally he sent his son (Jesus) to them. ‘They will have reverance on my son’ he said. But when the tenants saw the son, they said to each other, ‘This is the heir, Come on, let us kill him and take over his inheritance’ So they seized him and threw him out of the vineyard and killed him. Now when the owner of the vineyard comes, what will he do to those tenants? They answered, He will bring those wretches to a wretched end, and lease the vineyard to other tenants who will deliver produce to him when the season arrives’ Jusus said to them, ‘Have you never read in the scriptures: ‘It was the Stone rejected by the builders that became the corner-stone. This was the Lord’s doing and it is wonderful to see. ‘I tell you then, that the Kingdom of God will be taken from you and given to people who will produce its fruit’ The Gospel of the Lord.
for Nicole… it seems to me that there’s things in both religions that just don’t make sense… like what you said about Christianity, “we’re using God to get to God, which just doesn’t make sense”.. which IS confusing, DEPENDING on how you look at it… I’ve heard from others about how things in Islam don’t make sense either, like how one must be completely clean physically in order to pray, since many people believe that praying is a “spiritual” connection between you and God no matter what you look like on the outside… I guess in the end, what I’m trying to say is, follow what you feel comfortable following… just like we all entered this life the same way, I believe we’re all going to leave this life the same way… I believe God judges people on their actions and intentions rather than their beliefs… stay a good person and you’ll be just fine… good luck with your husband and your kids…
Good work will not save people,believing in Jesus Christ does!
John 3:16 for God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son that whosoever BELIEVES in him should not perish but have an eternal life.17 for God did not send the Son into the world to JUDGE the world but that the world should be SAVED tru Him.18 He who BELIEVES on Him is not judged:he who does not believe has been judged already,because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
john3:35-36The Father loves the Son,and has given all things in His hand.He who BELIEVES in the Son has eternal life;but he who does not obey the Son shall not see life,but the wrat of God abides in him.
Christians, don’t be ignorant or go away from the truth! it is true that RELIGION will not save a person,but having a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the Son of God does!…..and If you have a relationship with Him, then we should believe in Him!……What ever we will write in here/advises to other people who are seeking, we will be accountable to God! Take care!
I am a 20-year old former Christian who converted to Islam after reading the Qur’an with an open mind. I am now a devout Muslim. I write this letter to you so that you might consider converting to Islam and becoming a Muslim. Peace be upon he who follows the right path, to those obedient to Allah (God) and His Prophet, to those who believe in Allah’s Oneness and to those who worship Allah.
Truly I call upon you to obey Allah’s command and convert to Islam. Muhammad was sent as Allah’s Messenger to the entire world so that sleeping hearts will be awakened and dark hearts illuminated and so that non-Muslims will have no excuses. Submit to Islam so that you will be safe and immune from His punishment and His wrath. If you disobey Allah and reject His Religion, you will be responsible for your own sins and you will burn in Hell for eternity.
Allah means God. Islam means the peace that results from submission to God. A Muslim means a person who submits to God.
Even when I was a Christian I tried to follow the teachings of Jesus as purely as possible. I have always abhored paganism and idolatry. This is why even as a Christian I rejected pagan holidays such as Xmas, Halloween, Easter, Valentines and others that have no basis in the Bible. At the time, I was studying to become a missionary to the Muslim world, which is why I began reading the Qur’an in order to refute the religion of Islam.
However, it wasn’t until later that I came to realize that the concept of the “Trinity” itself was pagan and that Jesus Christ (peace be upon him) never preached such an idolatrous concept. Jesus, on the other hand, taught Pure Monotheism which is Tawheed (The Oneness of God):
One of the teachers of the Law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, THE LORD IS ONE. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’
[Mark 12:28-30]
In the Bible in Hebrew, it is:
שמע ישראל יהוה אלהינו יהוה אחד
Shema’ Yisrael Adhonoy Aloheinu Adhonoy AHAD (Hear oh Israel, our Lord is God, our Lord is ONE.)
In the Qur’an in Arabic, it is:
قل هو الله أحد
Qul Huwa Allahu AHAD (Say: He, God, is ONE.)
In Islam, the most important concept of all is “Tawheed” (The Oneness of God).
We Muslims believe that the Virgin Mary (peace be upon her) is one of the greatest woman who ever lived. She is the greatest female role model and noble example for all Muslim women as well. The Virgin Mary veiled her hair and dressed modestly. Muslim women still follow this tradition today and veil their hair the same way she did.
God says in the Qur’an:
And (remember) when the angels said: “O Mary! Verily, Allah has chosen you, purified you, and chosen you above the women of all nations.”
[The Qur'an 3:42]
Jesus Christ (peace be upon him) is considered to be amongst the greatest Prophets in Islam. The only difference is we don’t believe he is divine nor do we believe he is the son of God. We believe he is the Messiah born from the Virgin Mary. Just as God created Adam without a father or mother, God created Jesus without a father and said “Be” and he was. We Muslims believe that Jesus (peace be upon him) never died on the cross but that he is still alive in Heaven with God. Once the Antichrist appears, Jesus (peace be upon him) will return to the earth to come slay him. He will be wearing a beautiful saffron robe and water beads will drop from his hair like scattered pearls. When Gog and Magog appears, he will pray to God for the destruction of them. They will all die then the earth will be cleansed like a polish mirror. Jesus (peace be upon him) will then lead the Muslims, marry, live out the rest of his natural life, and finally pass away. He will be buried next to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) until he is resurrected on the Day of Judgment.
P.S
Here is a video of Verses from the Qur’an being recited about Jesus Christ (peace be upon him).
youtube.com/watch?v=20A8tg8ZlJM
May Allah guide you to the Straight Path or may He give you what you deserve.
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Be carefull christian seekers of what you read and believe…..
in 1 john 2:18-29 children,it is the last hour and just as you heard that antichrist is coming,even now many antichrists have arisen;from this we know that it is the last hour;they went out from us,but they were not really of us;for if they had been of us;they would have remained with us;but they went out,in order that they might be shown that they all are not of us.But you have anointing from the Holy One,and you all know.I have not written to you because you do not know the truth, but because no lie is of the truth.Who is the liar but the one who denies that Jesus is the Christ? this is the antichrist,the one who denies the Father and the Son. Whoever denies the Son does not have the father,the one who confesses the Son has the Father also. As for you,let that abide in you which you have heard from the beginning.If what you heard from the beginning abides in you,you also abide in the Son and in the Father. and this is the promise which He himself made to us: eternal life. These things I have written to you concerning those who are trying to deceive you. And as for you,the anointing which you recieved from Him abides in you,and you have no need for anyone to teach you; but as His anointing teaches you about all things and is true and is not a lie,and just as it has taught you, you abide in Him. and now little children, abide in Him, so that when He appears,we may have confidence and not shrinkaway from Him in shame at His coming.
Muslims do not deny that Jesus is the Christ (i.e. anointed one). With regards to the rest of the passage A) I don’t know of any Christian who believes the onlly teacher you need is the holy spirit. I was baptized over 8 years ago…if the holy spirit has been my teacher since then why did it allow me to be led to Islam? and B) I am much more concerned with the actual teachings of Jesus which were monotheistic, glorified God, and did not point to himself as divine, as opposed to those of the author of John. (who we cannot be certain ever actually encountered Jesus (pbuh).)
nicole, do you believe in the Bible?
If yes,I suggest that you read it again but this time pray to the Lord that he will guide you!
If not,well, I pity you!
Hi, David. Insh’allah I am in the process of converting myself, although I have not recited shahada yet. I was just wondering how long you had been a Muslim and if perhaps you had advice to share with a 21 year old who’s trying to find the courage to take this literal ‘leap of faith.’ Also, coming from a Christian background, what did you encounter from friends and family members? My family is extremely religious (Christian), and although I know pleasing God needs to come before pleasing my family, I’m still terrified of what will happen when they find out.
Maybe your experiences were nothing like mine. I’m just seeking advice/encouragement. Whether you have anything more to tell or not, I thank you for sharing the above letter.
Ma’alsalamah
People have been making sooo many good points on Christianity, which draws me closer and closer to it, but then again there’s those who have made such good points on Islam, which slowly draws my attention to that path… Then I start to get confused when I compared the prophets. Jesus never got with any women but Mohammad married several…. Jesus never harmed anyone (nobody can take the life of another, such an act can only be done by God), but Mohammad ordered many people to be killed… Jesus preached His word by showing love for his enemies in order to show them another path/another way/a brighter side to life… Mohammad preached his word by fighting those in disbelief…. can someone correct me if I’m wrong and help me understand all of this so I can pick a path in life and move on with it…????
As one who has just chosen Islam, I don’t know how much of a position I am in to answer your question, but I thought I’d try to help since you’ve yet to receive a reply. It’s true that Jesus (pbuh) never married and was certainly never with a woman out of wedlock. That being said, God never implies that it is a sin to marry in either the Bible or the Qu’ran. Also, it cannot be said that Mohammad (pbuh), was the first prophet to take a wife, or even the first prophet to have more than one wife. The Old Testament even says that Solomon had something like 700 wives! I personally don’t believe this is true, because it also says Solomon (pbuh) worshipped false gods, and I cannot believe that a prophet of God would do such a thing, especially a prophet of God that was granted wisdom. Abraham(pbuh) is another example, he had two wives (Keturah and sarah) as well as a concubine (hagar). These are well accepted facts by Jews and Christians, yet you don’t see anyone arguing about Abraham’s prophethood. What could this be…a double standard? It’s okay for Abraham(pbuh), but not for Mohammad (pbuh)?
It seems the area of wives is not the only area where Mohammed is held to a double standard. Sure, Jesus didn’t fight wars, but did his three year ministry (according to Christianity, some Muslims propose a longer ministry) really lend itself to such tactics? Hmm, let’s go back to Abraham, Abraham formed an army! Abraham even fought an offensive (as opposed to defensive) war, and God was pleased with him! So, Abraham can fight wars, but Mohammad cannot? Mohammad was coming from an area dominated by polytheism, Jesus was preaching to his own people (i.e. Jews) and was just elaborating/correcting what they already believed. Mohammad was placed in a different situation, thus, he had to respond in a different way. If you need more examples, you can look into David (pbuh). And if God is all love without consequences for misdeeds, what are Christians to do with the story of Noah?
While I may be arguing for the prophethood of Mohammad, I’m not saying Jesus wasn’t great! There is so much beauty in the teachings and actions of Jesus and I DO consider myself a follower of Christ, as do all Muslims. If all prophets must be compared to Jesus to obtain a stamp of approval, though, we are left with, well, basically no one.
To gain a better understanding of the prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and his character I suggest reading “The Prophet Muhammad a Mercy to the World” by Imam Muhammad Al-Husainy. It’s not the most in depth reference, but that’s why I was able to get through it.
If you’re interested in the history of Christianity and how Jesus’ (pbuh) own words pointed to the monotheism found in Islam, I suggest you read “MisGod’ed” by Dr, Laurence B. Brown. I’m currently reading his follow-up book “God’ed” which presents a case for the divine origins of the Qu’ran as well as a case for Muhammad’s prophethood.
If you research and come to another conclusion, I’d be interested to hear your case. From one looking for the truth to another, God bless and I pray you’ll find the right path.
“If all prophets must be compared to Jesus to obtain a stamp of approval, though, we are left with, well, basically no one”, Nicole….. If your basically saying Jesus is above all, I wonder sometimes why we’d need another prophet after we’ve already seen the greatest… Sure Abraham did many of the same things Mohammad did, but Abraham was not the final prophet, which means he never got to witness the teachings and inspiration of Jesus. Jesus showed a better way to live and Mohammad goes back to the way of Abraham?
Try to understand your hubby why he is behave as he is.
Must be something that he really believe in.
Probe deeper and please open up your heart.
For marriage to work,there must be give and take .
Try to work it out.
Everything has a purpouse.
Your married to him must be destiny..and have purpose
Think of your children.
If you still love them ,pray to Allah and ask for guidence.
Hi i need advice my boyfriend is a Muslim we are together a year now but after 6 months he asked me if he could have a second wife but a month after i accepted it and week after i told him to break up wth her which he did(they were having problems) now he’s found someone else he claims that he loves her and wants to be with her and me what should i do?
Sasha,
If you have followed the responses even in this series alone and you think with your head before your heart (I dont mean any insult but some people think with their heart, at least, before their head), then you ought to know what to do. In brief, your boy-friend (whatever you mean by that)’s religion or “Faith” allows him to have you and any three other women at one time. This means that he is at liberty to divorce any or all at any point and choose another set of not more than four women. Contrarily, that same “Faith” does not not permit you to as much as show your face to any other man – so you ought to be “masquraded” (veiled). I read that you may now show only your face (without the ears) in some places. The choice is yours.
However, and most importantly Sasha, it looks to me as if you have been living with a man who is not married to you and that’s wrong globally. God’s grace Sasha. Christ loves you!
Hiall first of all Islam is not religion ,the korish or the Arbic war History in the name of religion as well as there expand themselves by force or by marrege many wives haveing many childern in onec at time and all must be muslim. Apolitico religion seeking power and against the weast. there is no love in muslim love is one spacialy for marrege there is no many love for marrege ,God created for one Adame one Eve not many Eve ,so islam is out of the oreder of nature. muammed has power than Allah ,ISLAM IS totaly false and fabrication . is there any one love FALS?
PRAYER FOR CHRISTIANS MEN AND WOMEN
SAY THE FOLLOWING TONIGHT OR AT ANY TIME……….you may start with O LORD….. or O CREATOR OF MY…….
O Lord / Creator of my mind, body and soul, I thank you for giving me this opportunity to call upon you today and help me ask You in a way that is most pleasing to You and make this a unique experience for me, the sweetness of which I have never had before, please help me and accept my request O lord / Creator of Mankind and the Universe
O Lord / Creator of my mind, body and soul, if there is a way of life which you love over all other ways of life in this universe then please direct me towards it, show me the truth as truth and render me help towards that and make it very easy for me to understand. Show me falsehood as falsehood and help me to avoid that with the greatest of ease. I plead with you today for help and understanding with your infinite knowledge and mercy on these matters.
O Lord / Creator of my mind, body and soul, Forgive me for my past present and future sins and wrong doings that I may have committed, whether it was committed knowingly or unknowingly by me.
O Most Merciful of those who show mercy, shower your Special Mercies on me and my family and friends.
O Lord / Creator of my mind, body and soul, you have not Created this universe aimlessly, you are with blemishes, so save and protest,, me, my family and friends from all Major Calamities, Disaster, Miseries, illness’s and sorrow and grief and save and protect us from the Evils of this world and the hereafter
O Lord / O Creator, save and protect me and my family and friends from sudden major and minor illness, car accident, terrorist bombings, rape, murder, kidnapping, drowning, burning, plagues and poisoning. and something falling on me and that we fall of something.
HERE MENTION/ASK FOR WHATEVER YOU WISH, NEED and DESIRE FOR NOW AND YOUR FUTURE…………………
THEN END WITH………………………Amen / Ameen
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