Everyday I wake up next to the man that I married. He is a Muslim and I am a follower of Jesus. When we decided to get married, neither of us was practicing our faiths, so it was an easy decision. In fact, our faiths looked quite similar in many ways and he had convinced me that they were indeed very similar.
Married – cross-culturally
Married 1 Peter 3:1-2
Even though I knew I had married a Muslim, his decision to start practicing (just one year after getting married) came as a huge surprise to me. It totally upset the balance that we had as two people, each living out our faiths in a very nominal way. Along with anger at him for changing (as we all do!!), I also felt a growing resentment towards this religion that was stealing my loving, caring husband and replacing him with someone who was so focused on rules, regulations and merciless rituals. Our romantic relationship took a serious turn for the worse.
The fact that he keeps the rules affects my life a lot. For example, if we have to be somewhere at a certain time (especially it is something for me, it seems), he’ll want to wait just a little longer before leaving so that he can get the next prayer in. During Ramadan it is especially challenging because he will basically not touch me all day – and definitely will not kiss me. This is hard for me, not because I want to kiss him all day (or maybe I do! 
), but because I see marriage as an open, living, breathing expression of love and commitment to each other. Sometimes, physical expression is needed to say what words cannot. I do think that he errs on the side of caution, especially during Ramadan, in hopes that he will make up for all the other days of the year that he is not following everything to the letter. I have to rely on God’s grace and wisdom to know how to respond to some of these things that my husband throws at me.
Lately, I’ve been grappling with how I will respond when he wants our daughter to start praying. This probably won’t happen for a while, but I fear the day that it does. I try to put things into perspective by weighing what is actually right and wrong. There is nothing wrong with washing, definitely nothing wrong with praying, or even praying at a certain time (this tradition, I believe, actually came from the Christian church a long, long time ago). The problem I will have is with our daughter having to state that Mohammed is a prophet and denying the divinity of Jesus. I keep praying that my husband will come to know Christ before this becomes an issue.
At the same time, there are many things that I can take from Islam and transfer to my own faith. Their view of God, His omnipotence, His omnipresence, and His sovereignty, is very core to how they see God. (If we could just throw in the knowledge of God’s love for us all, that would be great!!). I’ve learned to treat our Scriptures with more reverence. The goal I strive for is to find a balance between knowing God as a holy, pure and powerful God as well as knowing Him personally, as my Saviour, my friend and the One who loves me more than I could ever imagine!
Ironically, it was this sudden fervour of his that drove me back to my roots – my relationship with Jesus. Surprisingly, I am actually from a Christian family, grew up attending Sunday School , DVBS, Bible Camp, and even Bible College. I was a leader in my church and looked up to by many people, as a role model in the faith. What was the problem? In one short word … Pride. I never thought it could happen to me… I was firmly against marrying a non-believer but put in the right circumstances we are capable of anything.
Within a couple months of his awakened faith, I was invited to my friend’s church at Christmas. I went only because I thought it was the least I could do, being a nominal Christian and all. God had plans for me though. I don’t remember what the message was that day, but it made me want to return. So I did. The next Sunday, the message was about God’s all-encompassing love and His forgiveness, no matter how deep the sin. I sat in the front row with my dear friend. I wept. God had taken my heart of stone and softened it – miraculously; instantly. Words really cannot explain what happened in this short moment.
Here I am today, a follower of Jesus. There are many verses that encourage me, one that I think of almost every day is this one: “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” (1 Peter 3:1-2, NIV). I am challenged to look at my marriage, not as a mistake, but as a sign of God’s forgiveness, grace and love.
Prayer Requests for (Christian) women married to Muslim men:
- - That our love for Jesus would grow daily, through time in the Word and on our knees.
- - That we would be led by Spirit in how we live and share Christ – choosing words carefully.
- - That we would be well connected to a church body – and sought to be understood and supported.
- - Unity, wisdom and discernment in child-rearing.
- - A deep steadfastness in the knowledge of God’s love, knowing that God loves our husbands even more than we do.
- - The courage to stand in prayer for our beloved husbands. God has allowed us to become married (whether by disobedience or subsequent conversion) and will give us what we need to live as an example of Jesus in our homes, so that our beloveds would meet Jesus.
- - Pray against fear – the future is unknown and that can be very scary for a woman married to a Muslim – pray for increased faith and trust that He who holds our lives has good plans for them.
Editors Note: we have the offer of a Christian women wanting to help other women married to Muslim men. Feel free to leave comments and questions below in the comment section for now. We can always start a Marriage forum if we get enough replies.
Recommended Viewing:
Magdalena - the movie
DVD: MAGDALENA: Released From Shame (Dec 2008)
One woman caught in adultery; another, rejected and ignored because of her promiscuous lifestyle … (by the ‘Jesus Film’ producers) DVD Length: 80 minutes.
Description: Watching with amazement, Mary learned from Jesus a new way to look at people. He also radically transformed her life by healing her from demon possession–releasing her from shame. Mary Magdalene acts as both narrator and participant in “Magdalena: Released From Shame,” as she traces through the story of lives that have come into contact with this man, Jesus, and have been powerfully released from shame. Order today. A must for all women!
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ISLAM is the only religion on earth.. which urge people to worship ONE GOD who created whole universe and whatever exist in it…
ISLAM is the only religion which follows the teachings of All the prophets,, who called people to worship one GOD..
All the prophets From ADAM to .. Noh, Ebrahaam, Moses, David, Jesu and Muhamed all brought the same message that is to ” Worship one true GOD ” and not to make equal partners to him..
But unfortunately..
The message brought by Jesus (pbuh) was completely miswritten by POUL, who even opposed the Jesus at his presence.. It is very sad,, The Good Deciples of Jesus followed him correctly could not over power the POUL, who plotted agains to Jesus with Romans and later became the write of many pages on BIBLE.
Oh my christian brothers,,
If you can read what really Jesus (son of mary ) brought to you… you will be a follower of all prophets.. Unfortunately you are following POUL who was really against to the teachings and Jesus and who changed the BIBLE with own hands.
Christianity is a personal relationship with God as He has chosen to reveal Himself, not a religion. In religion, man seeks God but in Christianity God is asking you to open your heart so He would come in. The initiative is God’s. Please don’t close up on Him.
“Christianity is a personal relationship with God”
yeah. riiiiight. Which is why you choose to pray to him through Jesus, alayhi’ salaam, right? In Islam, we pray directly to God for safety, forgiveness, help, etc.
jesus is god
I have found this website that I wanted to share with everybody, it explains what muslims really believe about Jesus.
It is a must read!!!
http://www.harunyahya.com/books/faith/Jesus_prophet/not_a_son01.php
where does it say in the Islamic book that God allows muslims to have four wives? I would like to know the context and understand the situation that was going on at that time. Thanks.
I am an American Christian woman married to a Pakistani Muslim. I am so lucky to have such a supporting church family, family and friends. We have been together for 3 years, he is religious as I am. MUslims and Christians can get married in God’s eyes. He doesn’t forbid it, but he doesn’t encourage it. Except in my case. I am so happy to live a Christian life with a man from a different religion and different culture that is so misunderstood and falsely accused of wrong doings by the West (esp. America). Because the culture is so influenced by islam it is easily confused to mix the two up. Even my my husband does at times. He says something (belief, judgement,…) based on what he thinks is from God, but then learns to find out that its his culture. I have done the exact same thing with my own wrongly outspoken beliefs. But what we do is learn and adapt and become stronger in our own faiths and in our relationship. I have had “Christian” boyfriends in the past. I will never again. I have had AMerican boyfriends in the past and really happy to say, I will never again. My situation is not uncommon, but only posts that our posted are about abuse, homicide and militant organizations that are so wrongly accused of being from Islam. But the islamic religion doesn’t allow the followers to question or disagree with other “muslims”. I have about 2,000 muslim friends among me who will not questions Gadhafi’s actions, not because they agree, but because they fear to do so for being such devoted followers of their God. I have learned a lot from them. As my husband has from me.
Laura, I will be very surprised if you are not living in a Western country. May you continue to have the support of your church family, family and friends. My prayer is that the light of Jesus will shine on your husband so that the Truth will set him free.
Western China, far from Beijing, Shanghai and Hong Kong.
Actually, we are not to be unequally yoked. Paul explained clearly to us that we are not to marry anyone outside of our faith. When we let our hearts get involved in a relationship and forget about what God commands us to do, we can easily get distracted and disobey Him. I am not suggesting a divorce but there are many problems in marrying someone outside the faith. Perhaps you can lead him to saving faith in Christ our Lord. Pray for him and ask God to draw him away from islam.
May God bless you and your family.
Shalom,
Words, while they may sound endering, are just that…words. It is what is in the heart that God sees.
In Christ
Doug
lol
The right move is not only take divorce from muslim person but educate other people belong to any religion that do not allow MUSLIM religion in their country.
Why Muslims are expect everything in Non -muslim country any non-muslim can expect every thing in MUSLIM countries.
Muslim religion is good but the EVIL IS IN THE HEART OF PERSONS WHO DONOT FOLLOW PROPERLY WHAT IS WRITTEN IN QURAN.
If any muslim deny JESUS this is not becuse of holy QURAN or Muslim religion this is becuse of evil IMAMS who do not teach good things to muslims.
LORD JESUS and MOTHER MARY AND JOHN this all the prophets are given so respect in HOLY QURAN that if u read quran then only u understand
Please read QURAN 3:30 TO 3:55.
JESUS WILL RETURN ON JUDGEMENT DAY THAT IS WRITTEN IN QURAN .
IT IS NOT WRITEEN THAT MOHAMMED WILL RETURN ON JUDGEMENT DAY .
i agree with you iman but one point “Jesus is not dead Allah taken him to the sky, one day he will come back down. Just a fun fact ”
this is not fun fact this is written in QURAN ” JESUS WILL RETURN BACK IN JUDGMENT DAY “.
Pls read 3:20 to 3:55 of HOLY QURAN anyone have any doubt will remove .
My husband talks about how Jesus never died. The whole christianity belief is based on the fact that God sacrificed his son for our sins making him, the way, the truth and the light for all. It is his covenent with everyone, no longer is it for the decedents of Abraham. THis is something that we both have to understand and accept from the other religion. To deny that he died is to deny our faith. But interesting how similar are the religions. Jesus is coming back. For all we need to be prepared.
I have a dear Muslim friend who adamantly denies that Jesus died on the cross. When he sayas that, it is like a dagger piercing my heart. Every year at Easter we talk about this and he has never changed his viewpoint, because this is what the Quran says. But the bottomline is that both the Quran and the Bible cannot be right. Now the Muslims opt to accuse the Christians of changing the Bible. But have you noticed the agony of Jesus in the events building up to his arrest and crucifixion?
There is only one solution to know the Truth. Read the Bible. Read the Quran. Ask God for Guidance- and He will show you the Truth…
I did that three years ago and it changed my life…
Could separate fact from fiction- and it’s right before your eyes…
We depend on third party interpretations from priests and imams, which cloud our judgement… We choose to believe what pleases us… We justify our beliefs based on hearsay…
Break free and seek the Truth, Firsthand!
God Bless!
Dear Askin
When I read the Injil, I read the words recorded that Jesus said: “I am the Truth, the Way and the Life, nobody comes to the Father except through me”. I had an encounter with Jesus when I was 18 years old, so these words resonate in my heart. If a person has not had an encounter with Jesus, these will just be empty words. These words of Jesus also confirms to me what is written elsewhere in the Bible: “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him – but God has revealed it to us by his Spirit”.
I agree with you in one way, but I think in the last analysis the answer is not found merely in a book. Jesus invited us: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Do that and you will have an encounter with Jesus.
Salaam.
Hi Laura,
Yes, God the Father sacrificed His only Son Jesus making Him The Way, The Truth and The Life. The New Covenant includes everyone and that means world wide. Abraham’s children includes the Jews and Muslims alike, all who put their trust in the seed of Abraham, the Son of promise , who is Jesus.
Hope your husband finds The Way, The Truth and The Life. Many Muslims have experienced the new birth after the Lord appeared to them in visions or dreams. So be encouraged and be faithful to your husand in praying for him.
Blessings, Joan
God bless you,
Dear Nicole and any readers of this article,
I don’t want to say Christianity or Islam is the way to go because I don’t know or even feel I am on the right path to Heaven. What I want to say is you can be a Christian and not believe in the Trinity concept. Maybe the Quran is a false work from a false profit, but is the “Holy Bible” corrupted? It is said that GOD will protect “his” book. Maybe the Quran is true, but Muhammad swayed from GOD’s teachings. Is it wrong to go to hold your day of rest on Sunday? Biblically speaking, no, but it is wrong to believe it is the LORD’s day. Unless by “LORD’s day”, you mean the day you set aside for him?
Another thing I would like to question is for the so-called Christians, if you think you are Christian, why follow so many pagan rituals?
Well of course the Bible is corrupted. There is so much violence and abuse in the Old Testament, and the Gospels contradict each other (e.g. did Jesus, alayhi’ salaam defend himself or not when tried by the Pharisees?)
Do you have any proof that Rasulullah, peace be upon him, swayed from God’s teachings?
I think a person’s faith is very important, it is the reason why we do the things we do. You cannot understand a person, as in know them, until you know their religion. Especially when planning the rest of your lives together. I will never leave my husband for him being a muslim, but I will so quickly if he ever puts up a barrier between me and Christ. The Holy Bible tells us that God is love, there are many things that are written in the Quran that goes against that statement. I try to do what is right by God and if my husband tells me to something that goest against that I will leave.
I just want to make it clear that religion is not something to take lightly and for someone to leave their wife or husband it isn’t because of an organized church but something that is part of them.
Iman, I’m sorry, but I must correct you. A Muslim man can marry a Christian or Jewish woman. Only a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim man. I don’t want anyone to be confused about the status of their marriage.
Bettina is absolutely correct. I just wanted to reiterate so that people don’t start thinking their marriages are “invalid.” Truly, a marriage built on “forced/coerced” conversion at the time of marriage is more invalid than an interfaith marriage where both faiths are acknowledged and respected. According to Islam a Muslim man CAN marry a Christian or a Jewish woman. Forcing conversion at the time of marriage is unIslamic (there is no compulsion in religion) and the belief that that this type of “mixed” marriage is not allowed is only a personal or cultural practice that has no basis in the Qur’an. For some reason, it is readily accepted that a Muslim woman cannot marry one of another faith, but truly in my reading of the Qur’an I never saw a distinction made between ‘rules for men’ and ‘rules for women.’ Mainstream Islam does teach, though, that a Muslim man may marry a Christian or Jewish woman and a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim.
What is so great about enduring an immature husband? Women really need to get out of the “I show my love by putting up with all kinds of nonsense from a man” rut, thinking it’s the same as showing obedience or love for God. I left an immature, abusive man for a kind, loving, sweet and gentle man who is easy to love/easy to understand. What a great decision! I wish I’d made it sooner.
I would seriously injure and (if necessary) kill a man who was violent to my daughter(s). Why don’t you (and your daughter’s father!) go to your son-in-law’s house and put the fear of Hell-on-earth into him? I would literally drag my daughter(s) out of that situation – yes – and chain them in my house, if necessary, for their own safety. What will you do when your daughter gets pregnant??? Leave your grandchild in a dangerous home? I think it’s time for some really tough love.
No one should stay in a violent relationship!
This is message for both Muslims and Christians and Jews. Especially to the Muslims
Muslims believe in one God and Last Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)
Quran says you can marry meaning Muslim men can marry People of Book ( Christians and Jews only ) provided that there are chaste(pious) and believe in one God and Last Day.
Today, Christian women may be good at heart but they do not believe in oneness of God. They believe in Trinity which is Shirk and a major non-believer practice.
Same goes for Jews.
Therefore, Muslim man cannot marry Christian woman whatsoever. Despite what many muslim females proclaim. It is a complete falsehood.
Muslim man should and must marry only Muslim woman. That’s simply as that
Sorry, Muhammad Ali, but this is just your personal opinion. The official position of Islam is this: a Muslim man can marry a Christian or Jewish woman. Muhammad (pbuh) himself was married to Christians and Jews. The Quran also states that Muslim men can marry women of “the People of the Book”. The Trinity is not a new invention….it was firmly in place hundreds of years before Muhammad (pbuh) was born. As for Jews, Jews believe in One God only, always have, always will.
You’re not really throwing Christianity away. You’re just accepting a different religion. Christianity is not thrown away by Islam because Christianity is a part of Islam. There is just some things that were added on the Christianity to make it Christianity.
No we are not accepting a different religion. I do not accept my husband’s religion.
Having faith in that Jesus is our saviour is Christianity. This is no where in Islam and was not added to Islam. This was before Islam.
Wives and husbands stay strong in your faith and with your walk with Jesus. Be loving, understanding and patient.
I have been dating a Muslim guy for over 6 months now, I am Christian Orthodox and really religious. I was in the UK, where he lives, now I came back to my country, but we haven’t broken up. We love each other very much and we both want to be together and get married one day. The problem is I cannot accept his religion, every day I feel I betray my Lord. I do not know what to do. We are both 25 years old and we think our relationship is unique, this is why we are trying to preserve it. I would leave my country for him if he was Christian, but now I am afraid to risk everything, I am afraid he will change in the future, not to mention that in no way do I want my future children to become muslims. Now he is not religious at all, he doesn’t pray and he drinks alcohol, but he is from Saudi where Islam was born and I believe deep inside he is religious and one day he will start practising and his behaviour will change. I want him to believe in Jesus the Son of God, but I don’t want to ask him to convert, as this would mean I do not accept who he really is and I don’t love him much. I want a miracle to happen, I want him to be saved in the name of Christ. Please help me… I don’t want to lose him… I need advice on what I can do so that we don’t break up.
Helen, my heart goes out to you – torn between your heart and your mind. Nobody can really resolve this dilemma, but yourself. One thing we must not forget as Westerners, there is no individualism in Islam. The umma (community) is central in Islammic rites. The moment your boyfriend marries you, he draws the attention of the umma and you are right then everything changes somehow.
You also mention that he is using alcohol. That is not a good thing in any culture, because alcohol is a drug (changes the mood and is addictive), it is an analgesic and perhaps less well know, it is a poison. It affects the nervous system and causes changes that the person him/herslef doesn’t perceive until it is too late.
You know what is the right thing to do, but you want to be convinced otherwise. There will be many of those, but I appeal to you, listen to your head.
I will pray for you. God bless you.
Thank you very much for your quick reply. I hope God will help me in this difficult situation. My boyfriend is a really nice person, he drinks from time to time and not very often and our relationship has been perfect so far. However, I am afraid that if I marry him my belief and my attachment to Christianity will become weaker and I don’t want something like that to happen. May Jesus Christ help me.
Helen, have you seen the film “Not without my Daughter”? It’s a film which should be seen by any woman who is not Muslim, contemplating marriage with a Muslim man. Unfortunately, it is far from a unique story.
I have watched the movie and even though I think it is a bit exaggerating, still I think it can make all these girls who date or consider to marry a muslim man, rethink about taking such a risky decision. What I would like to point out after a lot of research through the internet about mixed marriages or relationships with muslim men, is that western women (me among them) have the tendency to judge some behaviours or actions as really romantic, whereas in reality they can show us the true intentions of these men. For example, my boyfriend often says “I want you forever, I want this mind and this body only for me”… To some girls this may seem really romantic and sweet, however the way he says it shows his intention to a full possession on me. My boyfriend doesn’t want me to convert and he agrees our children (if we ever have) to be raised in both religions. In my opinion, this is impossible. How can my children be baptised, have christian names, take the Holy Communion and also be taken to the mosque or have muslim names? How is it possible that I will teach them that Jesus was sacrificed on the Cross for humans and then was Risen from death whereas his father will teach them that nothing of these happened and Jesus is just a prophete?I am afraid that he will not allow me to take the children to the church and he will hit me if I do it, as this is what his religion asks. I love him, I know I do, but I don’t know if it’s him that I love or another face that he is showing in order to convience him to marry him. He treats me like a princess but I don’t know if this will remain after marriage. And of course you don’t know if a Christian man will be the same after marriage, however even if he is not, there will not be other problems such as the raising of the kids or taking you to his country and not letting you go. After all these thoughts, I have decided to break up with my boyfriend soon. I am sad that I was not strong in my faith and my belief in Jesus when I met my boyfriend, however I am happy that my Lord opened my eyes before it was too late. I will always ask for His forgiveness, but also thank Him for protecting me from a huge mistake.
Helen, I think you just made one of the most difficult decisions of your life! Keep your eyes on Jesus and He will walk this road with you. Please read Philippians 4:6-7. I will continue to pray for you.
Things are getting more complicated than expected… I told him that I want to break up with him, but I didn’t mention his religion. He already feels the prejudice against him as he is from Saudi Arabia and I didn’t want to hurt him. I told him I’m not going back to the UK because of family problems, even though deep inside I don’t accept his religion. I want to live a christian life, I want my children to be Christians, I am so sure about this… However, I am sure we love each other and maybe I will never find this love again. After I told him I want to break up with him, he opened his heart to me and he proposed me!!! He wants to marry me! I feel so emotional, I know I love him, our relationship was perfect in every level… However, I don’t understand why this is happening… Is this a Satan’s effort to lose my belief and get lost? Or is it God’s test to see if I am going to choose Him or love? I feel desperate and most importantly I am all alone in this… Maybe I should talk to him honestly and tell him I don’t want to marry a Muslim guy, so he will understand I don’t accept who he really is and then disappear… But I am afraid I will hurt him or I will reveal what I was thinking all these 7 months and I was refusing whenever he asked me. Or maybe I accept him the way he is, but I am afraid to admit it because of the consequences, such as my family’s disapproval. I don’t know what to do, I’m just praying and asking God to take me out of this dead-end…
Hi Helen, I shall be praying for you.
While reading all these comments today, one thing has been uppermost in my thoughts: do we love these men ENOUGH to share our faith? If you break up with the man that you love and he leaves, without knowing your convictions, what will his eternal destiny be?
Do you care enough to tell him the truth? Do you care enough to risk losing him, for the sake of his finding eternal life? Only the truth can set both of you free.
Well, I’m going to be bold and pray for a good outcome for both of you – at the end of the day, fix your eyes on the blood shed by Christ for you both. Fast, pray, seek God’s favour for you both. Then go ahead and share your living faith with your boyfriend, be honest, lay all your cards on the table, and whether he goes or stays, let God do the rest. But do make it clear that you care enough about him to stick to your convictions.
May God be glorified in your decision, dear sister in Christ.
Dear Hope,
Thank you so much for your reply. I need to say something that I didn’t before. During our relationship I always talked to him about Jesus, we had so many discussions and conflicts about our religions and I even clearly told him that his religion is totally wrong about Jesus and that he doesn’t have bright eyes to see that Jesus is the only Light and the only Truth. I taught him a lot of things about Christianity. However, once he told me that if he converts to another religion, this will take years as he needs to search and study first, another time he said he will never convert to Christianity.
However, your reply made me think and I believe you are right. I need to explain him honestly why my religion is so important to me and why I want to end this beautiful relationship. Maybe if he truly loves me, he will read the Bible and maybe God will show him a sign… I will pray for my boyfriend, because he is a good person, but I cannot enter into a marriage where for my whole life I will argue with him about religious matters or I will be praying to Jesus to show him the right path.. Maybe I am selfish or I don’t love him much, but I think this is the best.
Oh, I shall pray for you both. Go ahead and be totally truthful! Do proceed with gentleness and the love of Christ – this has more to do with your relationship with our Creator than merely a religion or an attempt to convert him to a religion. ( And remember that for your boyfriend to convert to Christianity spells potential persecution and even death to him, in Saudi Arabia, so it’s a major step – he would have to be prepared to lay his life on the line – or face never going home again).
At the end of the day, our eternal destiny is what our goal should be – if we indeed seek the kingdom of God and His righteousness, we have the promise that everything else will be added to us.
your bigotry is amazing. You make it seem as though Muslims are dangerous. I think your comment reflects what this site is about: otherizing Muslims in order to convince Christians to try and convert them. My proof? Your bigoted comment hasn’t been removed. You sound quite stupid. I don’t like being reffered to as though I’m some kind of animal.
Bettina, marry who you love. not for religious differences. I’m an” Islamic Christian” and my husband is a Christian who believes in the Trinity…NON Denomination.. I believe in all 3 books.. and at the same time believe in Jesus, but not as a trinity…. but as the one who was crucified.. died.. and risen. as Far as GOD…. it does not matter to me if we call him Jehovah…ALLAH…Adonai….Elohim…{etc} .. we all believe what ever GOD reveals to us. and ALL of US just serve 1 GOD. congratulation on your marriage.
Kumeka, I think you have the wrong question. The question is not, What do you believe in? The crucial aspect is, if you have had a life changing encounter with Jesus? Out of such an encounter grows a relationship. A well known example in the Bible is of the Samaritan woman at the well. She was not accepted by society because of her lifestyle, but her encounter with Jesus gave new meaning to her life and she discovered her true value as a person. Read the whole incident in the Gospel according to John chapter 4 in the Bible.
I am dating a married muslim man and God willing we are getting married in 5 months. I am a chiristian and he is muslim. He has given me 3 conditions 1 is that we have no sex till we marry and 2 that I convert to islam and the third he says he will let me know at the appropriate time. I am currently working for an airlie and in a way scared and excited that I am getting married. Should I or should I not and is it true that muslim women are not allowed to work.
Don’t do it. How can you marry this guy and having to share him with at least one more wife for the rest of your life? Isn’t this killing you? I am dating a muslim guy and if we ever got married it’t ME who would put a condition on him not to marry another woman.
Apart from that, how are you gonna leave Jesus Christ who is the only truth and the only light and convert to islam? Do you know what islam means, what rights gives to women and to men and what it teaches to people? It teaches the fear of God, it urges a fast that make them crazy about food at the end of the day, read the quran and you will feel the fear. Nothing cannot be compared to Christianity and the spirit of love and peace it creates to believers. Additionally, I would like to suggest you should read the following article which shows the rights of women in Saudi http://www.meforum.org/520/us-department-of-state-marriage-to-saudis.
Even though I don’t know where your boyfriend is from, the law in Saudi is the quran, so you will have a clue on how they treat women. Download the movie “Never without my daughter”, do a research on the internet and you will see how many differences their background has and what problems this can cause. I love a muslim guy too, so I can understand you, but I would never share the man I love and I would never abandon my Jesus Christ the Son of God and the only true faith.
Hi Helen,
I do believe that Jesus is the son of God and I believe that God is the Alpha and Omega.He
is the I AM and I have no intention of changing that,, you are with a muslim and you understand. I love my man so much and yes I have seen the movie and it scared the living daylights out of me. I am from Central Africa and he is from WEst Africa. I love my man so much and it is not easy but accept to be the second wife.
MEforum? You realize that site is run by Daniel Pipes, one of the most vitrolic anti Muslim bigots in the country who has used racist slurs and supported fascists in the past, right? Not all Muslims are like the government of Saudi Arabia, in fact many of us oppose it. Get a clue.
The government of Saudi applies the quran,maybe in a more conservative way than other muslim countries, however they apply whatever is taught in islam.
If the Saudi Government applies the Qur’an correctly, then why does it oppress women, not tolerate other faiths, and kill apostates? The Qur’an does not call for any of that. Read Surah Al Nisa, Surah al Kaffirun, and Quran verse 2:256.
I meant to say I am currently working for an airline
Hi Juliet
You don’t say which country you are living in or where you will be living. This would have a great bearing on what sort of life you would live after marriage. Many Muslim women I know do not work, but some do, and the customs are changing in many countries. But this could be the least of your worries. Getting married is often not the exiting thing people expect. It takes a lot of commitment and giving up of your own selfish wants for the other person. And in your case it looks like it would mean giving up of some of your religious beliefs and practices. You don’t yet know what the 3rd condition is, so you cannot agree to it. Is your boyfriend prepared to give up anything for you? Would he be faithful to you even when the romance wears off? Would he let you make some decisions about your lifestyle and bringing up of children? You seem to be saying he is married to someone else. Is he treating his current wife with the respect she deserves if he is dating you? How would you feel if that were you? Have you asked God what is the right and holy course of action for you in your situation? Even if you do not have sex with someone, the relationships still needs to be pure, Matthew 5 verse 27-32 explains about adultery and divorce. We cannot just change our minds about our husband or wife because we are attracted to another person. That is where the commitment and determination come in. And if we do sin in our hearts we can come to God and receive forgiveness through trusting in Jesus Christ. And he will show us the direction for our lives as we listen to his voice. I hope this helps – matters of the heart are often painful, but Jesus can give us the strength we need if we ask him.
Love Paula
Hi Paula
He is from West Africa and works in Central Africa where I live. He has 3 children and with a beautiful woman ad he loves them dearly.I have known him for 7 years now and most of his family are in my country.I have accepted to be his second wife but honestly am scared and nervous , I do love him and I know he loves me to, yet I am worried that he will make me stop work etc etc I cant see myself as a full time housewife.
Hi Paula,
Honestly I do understand where you are coming from with your views and I thank God for them beceause you have touched on everything that I am stressing over.My family are devout christians and that has been my up bringing, now if we get married where will the wedding take place? and who will marry us, then the children and the islam faith. I have gotten to understand it that is the islam faith and I have no problem with it so long as he does not force me to change.I am a free spirit and love to travel yet I feel all that will change.I do not want to leave him because I love him and he is so good to my family and he buried my father in an honourable way. What I love about him is the way he also loves his wife and children, crazy I know and trust me when I say Inever saw myself in a polygamous marriage.But such is life.How do you advise I handle this….situation.
Hi Juliet – it’s a priviledge to speak with you about such a personal issue.
We all need love in our lives, and we can get that love form a number of sources. I feel very loved by the brothers and sisters in the church that I am part of. And our biological family, like parents and brothers and sisters can give us love and security. And above all there is the security of being a child of God. He is such a loving father and wants beyond all else, an intimate relationship with each of us.
We don’t have to have a sexual relationship, or a marriage, to have love relationships. I know many single, celebrate people who have a wonderful exciting life because they are part of the family of God. But I know most of us want to be married – it is natural. I have been blessed by a marriage to the same man for 34 years, so I have not experienced the pressures of singleness.
I do pray that you will find a group of strong believers in the Lord Jesus in your country / culture who will be able to help you think and pray about these issues. Find people that believe in the Bible, particularly what the New Testament has to say about relationships and marriage and the family. Find people who will love you , pray with you, rejoice with you and cry with you.
I pray God will bless and guide you and your boyfriend, who He also loves very much. He sounds like a very nice and decent sort of man. Many Muslim men I have met are very considerate, polite and kind and respectful towards women ( I know that some are not). Some men who ‘call’ themselves ‘Christian’, are not in fact following Christ and his ways, or committed to Him. They are living their own immoral selfish, drunken way. It ‘is’ possible to find a loving, moral, decent, respectful Christian man – I know I have found and married one!
Paula
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Who do you love more? This married man who gives you conditions or Jesus who will always love you no matter if you choose to leave him.
I pray that you choose to stay with Jesus, he will give you more than what any man can give you in this life. You say that you love him because how he loves his wife. Well that is not you.
Emily, this is specifically for you.
Emily, reading you and your story, I’d like to encourage you and acknowledge the love and grace with which you write. The Lord Jesus said “by their fruits you will know them”. And in your love and gentle manner, it’s quite evident who your Father is.
As I read your story, I couldn’t but help believe that in your specific case, your marriage was put in place by the Lord Himself and that all things will work together for good for you (as per Romans 8:28). Your husband is merely searching. – perhaps in the wrong places, but still, he has to work out his own salvation, so it’s good that he’s going right into his background and religious roots – as a place to start. In this way, he can one day give an educated answer as to what he believes and why – and I truly believe he will have an AWESOME testimony, to the glory of God!
Bearing in mind that neither of you were in a committed relationship with GOD when you met and married, look how far you’ve come… truly the hand of the Living God is upon your life.
That verse from 1 Peter is indeed for you – and the Lord will be faithful. You will have the desires of your heart and will ultimately rejoice in the goodness and mercy of our Creator.
The “law” brings death but the Spirit brings life.
Am I qualified to comment in your case? I believe I am. I have the most amazing testimony. I’m reluctant to post it here as it’s long and complicated. But briefly, after a period of separating myself to the Lord for more than 7 years, not being in (or seeking) any relationship with a man, I innocently responded to an article entitled “Dear Allah” – a sarcastic, tongue-in-cheek letter to God by an agnostic, an ex-muslim.
A most unpredictable and amazing chain of events followed. Never in my life have I faced greater internal conflict, have fasted for so long, prayed as intently, laid myself down to the Living God’s perfect will – only to come to the…
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A most unpredictable and amazing chain of events followed. Never in my life have I faced greater internal conflict, have fasted for so long, prayed as intently, laid myself down to the Living God’s perfect will – only to come to the inevitable conclusion that a marriage union had been decreed by the Lord Himself. The problem? I was the “perfect” Christian woman – was God truly asking me to enter into a life relationship with an atheist / agnostic?.
Oh, I shall never be quick to judge anyone ever again.
Only God knows the heart. Only God knows the heart of an Arab who would wander into the desert to die and meet with God – “not the God of religion but the God who saw everything”, he once said.
1 Peter 3:1-4 was specifically given to me, before we even set eyes on each other (in fact, we were on different continents at the time).
They say God is a God of coincidences. The number of coincidences has been STAGGERING. And entwined around each coincidence, has been the Word of God.
So… to any other woman reading this message to Emily, and who is out there married to… or even considering marrying a man who is not a believer in Jesus Christ, I have only one question and one suggestion:
IS THIS RELATIONSHIP LEADING CLOSER TO JESUS – OR AWAY FROM HIM? There’s the test, and, if you’re honest, the Living God will definitely give you the answers you’ve been searching for. Remember, the word asks us not to be unequally yoked. Where is the balance of power in this relationship? Do you put God first? Nothing you do will succeed unless you FIRST “seek the kingdom of God – and His righteousness.”
Emily, I have NO doubt that you are in God’s perfect will and I stand in agreement with you for your husband’s total and glorious salvation.
Look, if you don’t want future problems, DON’T MARRY OUTSIDE YOUR RELIGION!. It’s as simple as that. I don’t know why people go into such marriages with their eyes wide open then years later turn around and complain about things having changed. Well, here’s newsflash; PEOPLE CHANGE.
I know a lot of people who are either in or were raised in such circumstances. It ALWAYS becomes an problem in future no matter how open minded either party are to begin with. It’s the children I always feel sorry for, from personal experience. You might think you’re in love and love conquers all and all that crap, but sooner or later reality will set in and you’ll start regretting why you got married in the first place.
I’m dating a muslim man, and I’m christian, he wants to marrie me, hes telling me that our religions are the same only a few things are different, i told him i want to keep my faight in god and still want to read my bible and he said nooooooo, suddenly he told me that he was devorce and had 3 kids, i said ok, no problem, them his wife called me, told me that his still married and shes expecting another child, when i confronted him told me that hes divorce from the muslim church but not from court, that he could marry me.. am confused, I love him but at this point i dont know if hes saying the true, if hes not devorce from court can he marrie again. I need help. to make the correct decision. he doesnt practice his faight very well we had sex…and thats not suppose to happend we wanted to know if am good in bed before marrige.
Emily Elizabeth
I have come a long way in life and want to ask you an important question: Can anybody build a relationship with someone else where there is no trust? What do you mean when you say that you love this man? This does not sound like an arranged marraige so I want to ask, does he love you? How will you know he loves you? What will the future hold where there are so many uncertainties?
Do you have Christian friends with whom you can discuss this relationship and pray about it together?
God bless, I pray for you.
Pieter
He tells me all the time he loves me, that only god knows how much he loves me, but he lied to me.he’s married and has 3 kids and especting another baby, and i know that becauce hes wife called me. i cant trust him anymore.he told me he didnt have sex for 2 years and how is she pregnant. i dont understand.and why she is so mad at him, he had to do something bad to her. and as you said What will the future hold where there are so many uncertainties?
I have christian friends a lot put this is personall matter, am praying a lot belive me.
God bless you
thank you
Emily Elizabeth, deeds speak louder than words. There are men who say nice things to a lady to make her feel special and how much he loves her just to have sex with her. True love is serving, making personal sacrifices. If he is not doing that towards his wife with whom he has children, how will he do it twards you?
Christian friends are there to stand with you in times of personal crises. There ust be two or three that you can trust with this personal matter and pray together?
The peace of Jesus that surpasses all understanding be with you.
you trust him ? If he is married and has kids, then forget him. he is lying to his wife and to you and in the future he will do more lies. if he does this no wow just wait, you could find out one day he has another lover.
“Muslim church” Are you making this up as a slur against Muslims?
Don’t be quick to judge her, she just obviously doesn’t know it’s called a mosque. What happened to tolerance .
I have been married for 25 years to a muslim i became a christian within the marriage..(1 cor: 7:13 is in the context of my marriage) Prior to this i had no knowledge whatsoever of either faiths. As a christian God is very clear that we should not be unequally yoked (2 cor 6:14) and acting in disobedience will only forfeit God’s blessing. My marriage was not in a mosque, after becoming a christian he asked me to marry him there but i refused. This is out of God’s will, Love can be blind and sometimes it’s not easy we do have to sometimes make sacrifices in order to continue on God’s path. I encourage you to read His word it is a lamp unto your path (ps 109:105) and grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Saviour (2 Peter 3:18),
ask Him (if you havn’t already)for forgiveness for having sex before marriage {1 John 1:9) and after approach his throne boldly and ask for His wisdom in this situation {James 1:5}. He is with you Always,
cont……………. in reply to Emily Elizabeth
Please use common sense and wisdom. I realize that after you’ve slept with a man, you lose your perspective and it’s difficult to see him straight. He’s already proved to you that he has no respect for your right to make a decision based on the truth. He has proved to you that he will be dishonest with you and disrespectful of you in very serious areas of life. He has stolen your rights already. Want him to continue this? Years of this will take a toll on you. You need to be more protective of yourself. Remember to have self respect and love yourself enough to tell this guy to move on and leave you alone. Get support from your friends while you still have some. His people will smile in your face, but you’ll know years down the road that you were only an outsider, when it comes down to it. Need me to tell you what will happen if you have children with him and you can’t agree with his religion that tells him he can do all kinds of things you can’t imagine at this point? Learn more about Islam. You’ll be more grateful for Christianity.
Caring about you … Thank you for really caring and sharing your heart. PtL for true wisdom from you.
Christians at first were true to their Creator, but shaytan took control of their church and falsely raised Jesus, peace be upon him, to a level of divinity and they worshipped him making him equal with God(Allah). This in fact breaks the first commandment of God given to Moses, peace be upon him. Only God(Allah) alone shall be worshipped and any other form of worship for any other beings equals to worship of shaytan(satan). Therefore Christians of today belong to a satanic cult because they worship shaytan instead of God(Allah). They are therefore led astray towards the gates of hell. They have denied the teachings of Jesus, peace be upon him, where he always referred to himself as the son of man which is the old English term meaning “human” and he only taught to worship and pray to God and to God alone. Never once in the bible does he say to pray to him. Therefore Jesus, peace be upon him, is a true Muslim prophet born of the Virgin Mary by God’s grace, all glory be to Him. Save yourselves and turn to Islam. Embrace the truth. Unite. Read the Quran and do not make your efforts futile by continuing to worship God’s creation, for Jesus, peace be upon him, was created by God. Jesus, peace be upon him, will never receive those who pray to him or worship him but instead will say that he never knew them. He never died on the cross but he was raised up to heaven. The only way to God is through God alone. He has no partners, no equals, no sons or daughters, He is all-supreme, all-encompassing, all-powerful, all-merciful and all-forgiving, only He can forgive you of your sins. Do not fall for satan’s traps, he has pulled the wool over your eyes. Pray to God alone and ask Him to guide you to the truth that shall set you free. Have courage and cultivate true faith.
Asalaam Aleikum and welcome to Islam. Worship only God(Allah), all glory be to Him.
Mattah,
Your theory is all wrong from the beginning. Christians don’t worship other than God. We worship one and only true God who has three ways to appear, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Christianity is monotheistic religion as Islam and Jewism. So don’t mix them in your mind that christians worship more gods or whatever.
Secondly, you say Christians do not follow the word of Jesus. We follow every word of it and this is our heritage in Church. Islam changed everything that Jesus said, take for example ‘The one with no sins let him throw the first stone’. In Islam people are tortured and killed for their sins,instead for having the time to ask for forgiveness.
Third, you said Jesus didn’t die on the cross. How do you know this? The crucifixion is a historical event and it happened publicly in front of so many witnesses. It is historically proven and Jesus said I will die and in 3 days will be risen to life again. Do you think he was a lier?
Last, be careful my friend. You believe in the quran who one person told you that Gabriel revealed it to him. You have no proof it is God’s relevation. Islam is a human-created religion, God is fair, he treats men and women the same, He is love, not fear. Open your eyes. Your religion has many mysteries which you are not able to explain,whereas in Christianity there is an answer for everything. Even the expression “Son of Man” and “Son of God” have a specific meaning which muslims are not able to understand. You need the light of God to understand the trinity and unfortunately without it, all muslims are blind.Jesus didn’t say I am God because nobody would believe him.they would think he is crazy. Whereas those who had the “light” believed to Him. Others understood what He said but didn’t like it and they killed Him. If he was a prophete then islam would have been born at the age of Jesus,not 700 years later. Doesn’t this ring a bell to you? Be careful, it’s not Christians who worship satan. We worship ONE…
…AND ONLY GOD. Instead muslims follow the rules of a pedophile sex maniac who used women only as sex objects. Open your eyes, read, search and truth will be revealed to you personally.
May God enlighten all muslims and send them His Holy Spirit.
We don’t follow a pedophile and sex maniac. Your claims are ridiculous. The Old Testament prophets had young wives. Are they pedophiles? Historians and Christian scholars agree that Joseph married the Virgin Mary, may Allah be pleased with her, when he was 90 and she was 12. Is he a pedophile? Back then, people lived shorter lives and girls reached the age of puberty/mental maturity earlier, so it was socially acceptable. Back then, young girls would be forced to marry men they didn’t like, men who abused them and demanded dowry. Islam turned things around. Muhammad, peace be upon him, did not want to marry Ayesha in the first place, one of his Companions suggested he do so fearing that he would die soon and leave no legacy. Muhammad, peace be upon him, and Abu Bakr asked Ayesha for Muhammad’s permission to marry her, contrary to the abusive practices of the time. Muhammad was not a sex-maniac/pedophile. In fact, Ayesha lived with her parents until she reached the age of puberty, after which she went to live with Muhammad, peace be upon him. Would a pedophile have waited so many years? The definition of a pedophile is one who habitually has sex with pre-pubescent children. Therefore, Muhammad, peace be upon him, is not a pedophile. Ayesha was not treated as a sex object. In fact, he taught Ayesha much about Islam, and trained her to be a scholar. She became so learned that after he died, she continued to spread Islam. She was more learned then any of the male Islamic scholars, who would often come to her for help. Would Ayesha, may Allah be pleased with her, be such a successful woman if Muhammad, peace be upon him, had viewed her as a mere sex object? Muhammad was not a sex maniac. Muslim women wear hijab (some wear niqab) so that men will pay attention to their minds/personalities, not their bodies. Would a sex maniac call for such modesty?
I would suggest you look up Muhaddith.org Islamic videos on youtube. They do one specifically about this topic.
I think Helen had said enough on this idea. but i just wanted to also mention that Jesus is the way, the truth, and the light. THROUGH him, may we have a deep relationship with our God, such as in prayer. He was sacrificed so that we all can. My muslim friends say “Why would God allow this to happen?” and I would reply “Exactly, its pretty amazing”
Emily Elizabeth,
Let me be blunt. I was Muslim for YEARS. I read & prayed all about it. The men can be charming & quiet. And then, you MARRY. They go “Jekyll and Hyde”. That means you marry a doctor and a beast. I don’t know how old you are, but you should please, please wake up! There will be many other “surprises” in your future, if you marry him.
Wow. More stereotypes.
Emily Elizabeth
I agree with Bettina, i am married to a muslim for 25 years and a christian for 15 years.
and this marriage is very difficult, it doesn’t get easier…. He did destroy my Bible 2 times, and i had to read and pray in secret . Your boyfriend has already lied to you and already telling you you can”t read your Bible, and your not married yet. Don’t be blinded this relationship already has a rocky foundation with lies and deceit and conditions. Let Go!
I like how you didn’t leave any names our sources. Your story seems SOOOO reliable. Please forget the fact that most Muslims don’t even engage in female circumcision. Those who do are usually Muslims living in Africa, following the African pagan traditions that call for female circumcision, as there is no Islamic precedent for female circumcision.
People are allowed to apostasize from islam. In fact, the ahadith say only to kill apostates (or anyone for that matter) if they try to kill you.
“His love is not determined by our actions”
So I could be a serial murderer AND a pedophilic rapist and still go to heaven?
So what your’re saying is because those “Muslims” do not follow Islam, Islam is not to blame, right? Therefore it is perfectly acceptable that they remain Muslim, right?
Islam does not call for “fear” or “terror”. Are you delusional?
Wow. Your spelling and grammar are impressive. Anyway, Islam teaches that there was Adam and eve, and that men love and respect their wives. In fact, Surah al Nisa teaches men that they have rights over their wives AND their wives have rights over them. Also, Islam doesn’t really say anything about what religion the children must be. Islam doesn’t call for forcing the religion onto others as seen in Surah al Kaffirun and Qur’an 2:256 (“There is no compulsion in religion”). Islam also doesn’t say a man MUST marry 4 wives. Surah al Nisa, verse 3 says that a man can marry up to 4 wives, BUT if he cannot treat them equally and be good to all four of them, then he MUST marry only 1 wife. Islam is the only religion that teaches you MUST marry one wife. Can you bring me a single verse in the Bible that calls for monogamy? No, you can’t. But there are multiple precedents for polygamy as seen in the lives of the Old Testament prophets. Lastly, Islam doesn’t teach that Muhammad, peace be upon him, is greater than God. In fact, during prayer we say “I bear witness that there is no god but God, and that Muhammad is his SLAVE and his messenger”, so I’m not sure where you get your crazy ideas from. Lastly Islam is not a political religion, any more than Judaism is (google “halacha law”), and Islam doesn’t call for war against the West. Most Muslims do not hate the West. In fact, Iranians love Americans. Candle light vigils were held in Iran for the victims of 9/11. Pew polls (go to their site) indicate that Lebanese Muslims do not hate Americans. The same goes for Egyptian Muslims, and Muslims in many other countries. However, Muslims are opposed to the actions of the U.S. government. The U.S. in 1953 overthrew Iran’s democratically elected prime minister and installed a dictator. After the Iranian Revolution, the U.S. government gave Iraq supplies and encouraged it to invade Iran. The U.S. supplied weapons to militants who later formed the Taliban who terrorized…
i suggest you read it too. The Ten Commandments say not to worship anyone but God and not to worship any earthly form. Jesus, alayhi’ salaam, lived on Earth. Therefore, we cannot worship him.
So I can stay Muslim and go to heaven, according to Christianity? Sweet!
I answered the lie about Rasulullah, peace be upon him, being a pervert to another commenter on this article.
Those of you who are still filled with hate or fear about Muslims, consider this:
Achtiname of Muhammad:
“This is a message from Muhammad ibn Abdullah, as a covenant to those who adopt Christianity, near and far, we are with them. Verily I, the servants, the helpers, and my followers defend them, because Christians are my citizens; and by Allah! I hold out against anything that displeases them. No compulsion is to be on them. Neither are their judges to be removed from their jobs nor their monks from their monasteries. No one is to destroy a house of their religion, to damage it, or to carry anything from it to the Muslims’ houses. Should anyone take any of these, he would spoil God’s covenant and disobey His Prophet. Verily, they are my allies and have my secure charter against all that they hate. No one is to force them to travel or to oblige them to fight. The Muslims are to fight for them. IF A FEMALE CHRISTIAN IS MARRIED TO A MUSLIM, IT IS NOT TO TAKE PLACE WITHOUT HER APPROVAL. SHE IS NOT TO BE PREVENTED FROM VISITING HER CHURCH TO PRAY. Their churches are to be respected. They are neither to be prevented from repairing them nor the sacredness of their covenants. No one of the nation (Muslims) is to disobey the covenant till the Last Day (end of the world).”
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“This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of THOSE WHO WERE GIVEN THE SCRIPTURE is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste WOMEN FROM THOSE WHO WERE GIVEN THE SCRIPTURE BEFORE YOU, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith – his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers.”- Qur’an 5:5
(note: this verse doesn’t say that Muslim women can’t marry…
men of other faiths, so it is permissible.)
SKhan, you are trying so hard to defend Islam… But do you know that the god of Islam does not give the absolute guaranty of Heaven for good Muslims? On the other hand the God of the Christians died on the Cross for all men so they have the guaranty of salvation if they accept Him as their Lord and savior. If I was you I would think about it. Any of us can die the next minute… I know where I am going if I died. Thank you Jesus.
Another fool head “god died on the cross” so let me ask you this. so suppose your god really did died on the cross. While he was dying who was running the universe. Under whose control was everything in? Scratching my head.
I taught VBS, counseled at church camp, was the daugther to two Sunday school teachers, played Christmas music NONSTOP starting the day after Thanksgiving, etc.
All this is works……. it’s all about a relationship with jesus ……..
A wise friend once told me “the more you study the truth, the more discerning you will become of anything false”. I have no desire to study the Coran, i have no need i know The Truth dying on the And The Truth gives me wisdom, grace, strength, joy. love, and so much more. I am not going to doubt Him..He is where my faith lies.
I have been married 30 years to a muslim and have known the Lord 20 years. After seeking the Lord (shortly after i became a christian) on the marriage and whether to go or not He told me
I am free to go and free to stay whatever i choose He is with me”.and He is faithful. So we do have choices that is our freedom in Christ..and you chose to convert to Islam. However, muslims havn’t been given that freedom, islam doesn’t allow a muslim woman to convert to christianity .. if she does it would bring great persecution upon her. I thank God for my freedom in Christ and His grace.
You should never have to ask this question. If you guys truly love eachother then make it work.
I have been married to my man my muslim man for almost 20 years. Its been tough but its been worth it. I love him more now than the day I married him. I have not converted nor have I ever said I would and he has never pressed me to convert.
His family has met me, and i have been backhome with him to know where he comes from. If he wanted me to convert and insisted he would not be with me, nor would we have j2 children together. Maybe we are the modern family from different cultures and religion, but somehow we make it work.
Why haven’t you read the Quran yet. I have, and in some ways i know more about his religion than he does. but just because I’ve read it, doesn’t mean I have studied it, nor have I converted. Each religion is flawed. Islam happenes to be a religion of respect and understanding.
I was raised a catholic and many of my friends have not agreed with my choices, but they are mine.My own family has not embraced my marriage either. Everyone has choices.
I have made mine.
you ladies are funny….too funny. my husband is muslim and I am christian…somehow our marriage works. 2 children later and we are still happy after almost 20 years but we love eachother and our marriage must have been for a reason from God.
We have choices…we made ours and we deal with it. and we make it work.
TOOOOOO funny and you call yourself an Imam. I am married to a muslim man. I have not converted nor have I ever said I would. After 19 years together I have never heard anything funnier than you. hahahaha lol and I think I have hurt you now. Islam is a religion of respect and you are not respecting us.
OMG is this a dating site………..lol
omg I gues your husband doesn’t love you at all. If he did hewouldn’t be doing those things to you. Islam does not preach that.lolhahaha too funny
Skhan, i want u to tell me wats in kaba? who is allah? Is it a name of a god specifically or is it a translation of God in arabic? Y do u go 4 pilgrimage in macca?
Salaam Alaykum Hauwa.
Allah in arabic is the combination of two words “Al” meaning “the” and “ilah” meaning “thing worthy of worship”. “ilah” shares the same root as the Hebrew word “elah”/”El” and the Aramaic word “Alah” (used by Jesus, peace be upon him), which also mean “thing worthy of worship”. Therefore, “Allah” means “The Only Thing Worthy of Worship”. The pilgrimmage to Makkah involves us Muslims purifying ourselves and preparing ourselves for a trek through the desert. This trek through the desert humbles us, showing us how Merciful God is by providing us so much in our normal lives. It shows us how simple we can live, despite the fact that we own so many things. We run 7 times between the hills of As Safa and Al Marwa, representing Hagar, mother of Ishmael, wife of Abraham, running in search of water for her son. As for why Hajj is so important, it symbolizes the oneness of humanity, the equality mankind has under Islam. To quote a Muslim website: “Every year more than two million Muslims, from 70 different countries, travel to Makkah and Medina with the purpose of undertaking the great obligation of Hajj. It is an exemplary example of equality and unity when the pilgrims gather together for Hajj. Muslims who belong to different nations, cultures, social and economical status are all dressed in two pieces of unsown cloth. All perform the same rites. There is no difference of rich and poor, all stand in front of their Lord in submission and humility.
Hajj provides a unique opportunity for Muslims to meet each other, understand each other, increase in love, get closer, improve and resolve relationships. It is from the blessings of Allah during Hajj that one is in continuous opportunity to gain good deeds by treating one’s Muslim brethren in the best way. And aid the poor and needy, which is also from the means of achieving great rewards from Allah.”
All of our sins are forgiven if we do the Hajj (pilgrimmage). God rewards…
(cont.) us for making this tremendous effort to worship him. What’s in the Kaaba? There are youtube videos of that. There isn’t much except for Qur’anic inscriptions on the walls. Some Muslims go inside the Kaaba to pray. There is a guard at the entrance, since there are so many people.
To Skhan: Hi, how are you? It sounds like you really love and strive hard for God, putting in a lot of effort.
“God rewards us for making this tremendous effort to worship him.”
That sums up the difference between the two of us. For us, God does the work, HE has already made the effort, HE has paid the price. All we need is to believe Him and receive salvation and eternal life “For it is by grace that you are saved, through faith… it is the gift of faith, not by works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
You see, it’s important for GOD to get the glory. So He has done it all… We simply need to be humble enough to accept. In the Bible, we are told how all our righteous acts are as filthy rags before Almighty God. (Isaiah 64:6) So we can exert as much effort as we like, it will never be good enough. But in His love and mercy, He has made a way for us.
Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father but through me.” (John 14:6).
When I was in the New Age Movement, I studied many religions… I also explored the idea that Jesus might be just a righteous man. But those words challenged me… I had to make a choice… I pray God will lead you Himself, teach you Himself. You obviously love God, allow Him to do the work within you.
Take care.
Really? Because I’m pretty sure that if God created the universe, He sustains it. And since we are dependent on him, if He died, then why do we still exist. Plus, I find it odd that you are saying that the universe, something 15,000,000,000 years old was created by a man who lived and supposedly died 2000 years ago.
Hi Skhan,
Nice to see you back.
Is anything too difficult for God?
But for us to understand the ways in which He chooses to work is like a cat attempting to understand a course in mechanical engineering!
Take care.
Hi, the last two comments are truly very positive – however, lets remember that the most crucial thing in our lives is a RELATIONSHIP with the Living God. If we have this relationship, and walk in the Spirit, do let’s not deprive the men we love from the joy of knowing the love of God. So we all need to fix our eyes on eternal things, as well as our earthly love relationships. Indeed, if we have experienced such joy and freedom personally, isn’t it cruel not to share it with those we love? Are we guilty of keeping such liberty and freedom and peace to ourselves?
This doesn’t mean trying to convert anyone from one religion to another… it’s deeper than that. It’s helping bring our loved ones in line with their eternal destiny.
What are your thoughts on this?
relationships only work when 2 people want it too….my 20 year marriage to my muslim man works because we make it work!!!!
Dear Ann,
I absolutely understand your point and it is what my boyfriend is trying to persuade me about, that if we can make it work, then our different faiths will not be a problem. However, I will ask you one simple thing about marriage and forget about other problems. Jesus blessed the wedding, the Church does not recognize the civil marriage and when your marriage is not done in the Church you are supposed to commit adultery in the eyes of God. I am Christian Orthodox and the wedding is a mystery (=sacrament) where the Holy Spirit blesses the couple into the union in front of God. How can this union be blessed if it is not made in the Church, in front of God? My boyfriend wants to marry me, he has proposed to me, but I want my marriage to be blessed, I want my union with a man to be through the Church, through the body of Jesus Christ.
Let alone other problems such as the raising of children. Do you think you will not be responsible in front of God if you have raised your children as muslims and your children have not accepted the truth in their heart about Christ, the son of God? Of course you will be…
People make mistakes, me among them. We know exactly what the Word of God is, we know what a sin is, what is good and what is bad, but we are trying to find excuses to ourselves for being disobedient towards God. And if we don’t know exactly what the right thing to do is, we can always consult a priest. The problem is we put our hearts and ours feelings before God and this is a major sin. I have been doing the same for about a year and even though I have tried to escape, I am still trapped in this, using my feelings as an excuse.
May God show us all the right path.
Ann,
Please read Acts 19:2ff. I would that I seek the Holy Spirit in your life.He is the Paraclete, He will show you all you need to do in this situation.
I am praying with you for u to do the right thing.
God bless and Love,
NANA
I had written in the past about my story…how I met a wonderful muslim in the UK, fell deeply for him and wanted to marry him… I went back to my country for a year and then I would go back for him. Some weeks before leaving to the UK a girl contacted me that this past year he had a relationship with this guy! I used to skype with him, communicate all the time, every day and night… I never suspended anything. Neither the other girl that was with him every day… He had promised me he would get baptised and have a christian marriage with him, while he also promised marriage to the other girl who is also muslim. I never expected that from him!
He had managed my absolute trust to him, he never showed any hint of lying, lying comes so naturally for these people….
I had read countless stories on the internet about muslim men having 2 wifes without telling the other or men who try to marry Europeans just to achieve the visa..I never suspended him! He had answers for everything, he was always teaching me, giving me advice and talking about his morals, lying was so natural to him!
I thank God, my true Lord, the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit that He protected me from doing the biggest mistake of my life. He would marry either me or her just to get the visa or maybe both of us… Who knows…
Thank you my Christ, Son of the Real God and please forgive me for loving…
Ann, Liz, I have questions for my future fellow Christian wives who are married to Muslim husbands. My fiance and I have a great relationship, we can almost talk about anything. When it comes to the topic of religion, he goes on and on about stories that he has memorized as if it is the explanation for everything. Also, it is very typical for muslims around here to get so defensive about everything. and it never leads to arguments, because I DO NOT respond to stories or bad attitudes. but how do you guys talk about faith, without your husband becoming defensive or quoting or retelling stories that I obviously do not believe in? or do you just leave that topic alone? All I try to do is bring up is the topic of raising our kids. (We dont have any yet) I totally believe that neither one of us can stop the other from showing them our separate faiths. Knowing that this will probably lead our children to be agnostic or something completely different how have you all handled this?. Also, he’s a few years younger and comes from a culture where men’s adolescents lasts to their 30′s. Are any other women dealing with this? I have come on here waiting for other women to relate to on these subjects and so I just laid them all out here to see if there is some great advice from these women who have been married 15 to 20 years. GREAT! congrats!
Oh, i could write on forever about how wonderfully loving and understanding he is. but its just breaking down those walls that cultures build up around us.
Believe it or not…I happen to be 4 years older than my husband. To be married to a muslim man who is younger than myself is way out of the norm in his culture and religion. Amongst his friends the wives are usually the younger.
And to answer your questions about how to raise the children, I have 2. 2 sons and we both want the best for them. We agreed on only 2. he comes from a huge family of 12 and he saw just how hard it was for his parents to raise them. He discuuses how hard it is to raise a bunch of children with his family who just can’t seem to stop popping children out. I guess my man is just part of the modern muslims. I have had my fare share of meeting muslims who want nothing to do with me because I only have 2 children or I am not a muslim or even if you can believe accuse me of taking their kind of man away from them. hahahahahaha, I just laugh at them. My children have lots of choices…to fast or not…to go to the mosque….to pray….they have the freedom he has…after all he chose to find the person to love than have one chosen for him
Hi Ann, I’m older than my husband too. He had already rejected Islam before he met me. He wanted to find God so badly that he studied the Quran extensively – and decided to reject all religions because of it. He has enough information to publish a book on this – but couldn’t be bothered right now. Like your husband, mine has treated me like a queen – and in return, gets treated like a king. The Lord has given me specific scriptures for him, so I too get angry when people throw verses like “do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever”, as only God knows man’s heart. However, I know that without God’s specific word for my husband, I could not have married him. For the sake of HIS eternal destiny. But we serve an awesome God, who gives His Spirit to lead us – when we are led by God’s Spirit, we are not subject to laws and ordinances – but are totally sold out to His perfect will.
Laura
My husband is always quoting the coran and related stories, however i don’t talk about my faith ever mainly because he doesn’t want to hear and as you say becomes defensive. I, to, like yourself have learnt not to respond to stories and bad attitudes, i pray about the bad attitiudes. As for the children, this is a very delicate subject for the muslim, they expect their children to be like them, from the age of 7 years they learn to pray and go to the Corranic school, and some the mosque, this has been my experience, and i live amongst many muslims and they to send there child. I pray for my children a lot and i have experienced much heart wrenching pain concerning my faith. The Lord told me on one occasion concerning my first child ”to let go off her” everything is in “his hand” and His grace will be sufficient for me”. Indeed our children do belong to God anyway everything we have and own is His,
I did “let go” and “His grace was sufficient” and during that time i experienced a freedom, freedom from fear of the future concerning my kids, knowing all is in God’s hand. He eventually turned everything around for the good. Sometimes The Lord even revealed Himself to my first child through other sources, tv was one, a schoolfriend was another, music was another i also shared ”in secret” when the ”opportunity” came. It doesn’t all depend on me though God is not limited, He’s used other people and that has encouraged me a lot. I believe it is my duty to pray and i do and He Hears and Reacts. After saying all this, i had my first child when i wasn’t a christian within the marriage. You are entering into a marriage and i strongly advise you to find out what your boyfriends feelings are concerning the children before you enter in and if you are planning to marry in the mosque?
{Please read Helen’s post from Dec 28th}
Liz , Precious One,
I will be praying for you….I pray that Our Lord and Savior would open your eyes to see how He loves you and He is so touch by your sorrow and suffering while keeping faith in Him!
Your letter touch my heart…..I was please to suffer with you, carrying your burden till the end. May our Heavenly Father hovers His wings of love over you and your familly.
God bless you
Dear all, Faith (religious) is by all means personal. My question is, when a Muslim brother marries a Christian women, Christians do not react/object. But if a Christian brother marries a Muslim women, they immediately react/object, why? Let us not talk about what H.Bible/Quaran say….as long as both Christian/ Muslim women remain faithful to their husbands and their families, their Personal religious faith should not be questioned or offended. Now, raising children- why a Muslim man insist, the children out of his Christian wife should be raised as Muslim? Why can’t he give them the freedom to choose any religious faith of his/her choice or live without any religious faith? For, God has not created any religion, no one has seen God. We humans created all these things to suit our purpose.
Wow, Liz, it seems as if your are in a muslim culture to have to do things in secret or is this is secret from your husband? I have talked with my husband about our kids and he is quite depressed when I mention about the western culture so influenced by Christianity much more than Islam. He’ll be without his family’s influence or Islamic schools and a few mosque when we raise our children. I feel quite awful to think that this wont be a fair fight and I would feel that if I were to change my desires in raising my children in church. Both of us will be quite heartbroken with our children to be of different faiths. I will raise my children in church every Sunday and he’ll be taking them for prayer every Friday and as long as I stay on the right path myself and be supportive of this, I fully believe that my children will find a relationship with God through the Son. Now, does this go against the verse of wives being submissive to their husbands?
Hi Laura,
A nice scripture is 1 Peter 3:1-4. What do you think?
Has the Lord given you any specific scripture about your husband, by the way?
Dear sister.
Did you ever see a verse in the Bible that might negate a verse of the Quran?? I would include the sharia law in teh Quran too, all is there in the Bible. Keep googling the subjects and you will find the verses.
God is love there is no doubt in that but the prophets tell us how to earn it.
Love of God even in the Bible is tied to keeping commandments
f you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father’s commands and remain in his love. Matthew 15:10
Read the Bible carefully starting from Old testament and count the number of commandments this Muslim brother your husband keeps.
Noticeat in terms of keeping commandments he is more Christian than most but follows Islam.
Belive in 1 God
Prays to unseen God of Abraham, Moses,
Worships Him daily
Not eat pork
No Alcohol
Fear God
Fast
Love parents
Not to look at women
Dress modestly etc so much more
Before Christianity and for centuries back till Prophet Adam thats what people did and thats what God accepted and there wa no Jesus then was there?? But God was ok with that.
The catholics CCC states that Muslims love and worship the true God and so they are saved. Muslims dont say they are saved except for after believing and keeping commandments but look they say it which will give you an idea they know.
CCC 841 The Church’s relationship with the Muslims. “The plan of salvation also includes those who acknowledge the Creator, in the first place amongst whom are the Muslims; these profess to hold the faith of Abraham, and together with us they adore the one, merciful God, mankind’s judge on the last day.”330
Sister, Do not leave the man who worships the unseen God that prophet Jesus worshipped, Islam is the Last testament after the Old and new testament.
Quran confirms the previous testaments but it also says pervious have been corrupted by the toungue. Sister you can even look into what Robert Eisenman has to say about the…
Q, Muslims have a very superficial understanding of sin. God says: “What, then, is the situation? Do we have any advantage? Not at all. We have already accused everyone (both Jews and Greeks) of being under the power of sin, as Scripture says, “Not one person has God’s approval. No one understands. No one searches for God. Everyone has turned away. Together they have become rotten to the core. No one does anything good, not even one person.”
500 Years before the prophet Isaiah said: The LORD is not too weak to save or his ear too deaf to hear. But your wrongs have separated you from your God, and your sins have made him hide his face so that he doesn’t hear you.
It is sad that those who reject the sacrifice that Jesus brought remain under His judgement: “They don’t understand how to receive God’s approval. So they try to set up their own way to get it, and they have not accepted God’s way for receiving his approval. Christ is the fulfillment of Moses’ Teachings so that everyone who has faith may receive God’s approval.” Therefor God’s invitation stands: “Moses writes about receiving God’s approval by following his laws. He says, “The person who obeys laws will live because of the laws he obeys.” However, Scripture says about God’s approval which is based on faith, “Don’t ask yourself who will go up to heaven,” (that is, to bring Christ down). “Don’t ask who will go down into the depths,” (that is, to bring Christ back from the dead). However, what else does it say? “This message is near you. It’s in your mouth and in your heart.” This is the message of faith that we spread. If you declare that Jesus is Lord, and believe that God brought him back to life, you will be saved. By believing you receive God’s approval, and by declaring your faith you are saved. Scripture says, “Whoever believes in him will not be ashamed.”
As you can see, Q, it is not about keeping laws, but puting your trust in what Jesus did for us.
That’s beautifully put, Pieter! That’s it, in a nutshell. The focus should be on our eternity with God, something which can’t be earned – a gift we can either accept or reject. We come to God as we are, He does the perfecting and the saving – the only thing we need to do is believe (accept God’s truth). Indeed, Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father but through me”. Those words were what convicted me to turn from dabbling in the New Age religion. So many people think of Jesus as a prophet, as a “good man”, etc. But He claimed to be God (“Before Abraham was, I AM!”).
lol, superficial? We simply repent to God and perform good deeds to make up for sins. You know, actually contributing something useful to the world.
Brother, “What goes into a man’s mouth does not make him ‘unclean,’ but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him ‘unclean.’” (Mathew 15:11)-Please read all religious books, study history and then talk.
May God bless you
I have married a muslim man and am finding him the most selfish, short-tempered, lazy individual I have ever met. Though I love him, he is impossible to live with and quite crazy. As a Christian woman I would love to be free of him now, but it is not possible. How do I live with this creature?
Hi, the only thing I can think of is to connect with the Holy Spirit and see where to from here. It’s already done, you’re married and who knows what God’s plan for the future is, but God Himself?
Two verses spring to mind: 1 Peter 3:1-4 and 1Corinthians 7:13-14. Please read them, I don’t think space allows me to type them here.
How you handle things now are critical. If you are not in any danger, you indeed have no choice but to stay in the marriage – and the way you conduct yourself will either speak for Christ or against Him.. If there is any abuse, however, you do need to seek help and even leave the marriage (how were you married, what vows did you exchange – if any?).
The most important thing to remember is your eternal destiny – and His, so a lot of prayer is needed. You need to connect with the Lord and seek His wisdom in this difficult matter. Your husband, whom you love, is also a soul Christ died for.
I would like to add my personal knowledge here. Faith is something deep inside us which can be maintained even if we enter an inter-faith marriage. However, as Christians how do we maintain our loyalty to Christianity if we get married to a Muslim or any other unbeliever? I am Orthodox and if I marry the man I love (he is muslim) I will never be allowed to take the Holy Communion, my marriage will not be blessed in the eyes of Christ and I will be committing adultery for the rest of my life. How can someone be a true Christian if he doesn’t follow the rules of Jesus Christ as we inherited from Him through the Apostoles? All Christians who are in love with unbelievers should be really careful, because in the end it is not only about faith, what matters is if we choose Jesus Christ over a man or a woman….
Dear helen so sorry to read of your predicament,i am muslim born in a cristian country england by the way i love the land i was born in !anyway you love a muslim,your afraid to lose your family your religion your idenity, fear not our lord has made provision for you and me.
marry the muslim and tell him of your rights,if he does not except that you have every right to keep your religion tell him your lord has made provision for you and him,tell your love that his children will be bought up as muslim”inshallah” and that your lord has made provision for you and him.
So be happy Helen our lord has made provision for you and me !
Lord made provision for me with His teachings and the Apostoles’ teachings as well. And I shouldn’t marry an non-believer coz my union with him will not be in God’s eyes. This is what I believe as a Christian. My boyfriend believes that our marriage will be in front of God, he doesn’t want me to convert and he doesn’t mind if our children are raised as christians. However, it’s my personal belief that if I marry him I will disobey to my Lord’s rules and one of them is not to marry non Christians.
Helen, i feel for your struggle. I also had to make the decision. Should I marry him or not which was does God prefer? I do believe that God put my fiance in my life for me. I read the Bible for answers and I feel that God strongly encourages us to Love and have a close relationship with him. I have dated Christian men before and relationships i have had with Christians as in friends, family and partners put more strain on my relationship with God than my fiance. And this man I have chosen to marry has only helped me go to God more than ever. I can honestly say that he has made me a better Christian and a person. This is what I want in a relationship and I believe God provided. People have told me before that our marriage wont be in front of God. I think what funny choice of words. Everything is in front of God. He is in everything and as a Christian I believe that God is with us always surrounding us with Love and guidance. I hope you find peace with your difficult decision, keep the word close with you in your time of struggle.
Hi dear Helen,
Helen, if you feel that way, the Lord has convicted you and warned you. This union would have been from the Lord ONLY if you had perfect peace and a specific word from the Lord – and if you had confirmation from other believing friends/family.
In the absence of that, and in the light of the conviction you have that it would be wrong to marry the man you love, while he remains a Muslim, it would indeed be disobeying the Lord to enter into the marriage covenant with him.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path” (Proverbs 3:5-6)
I pray for strength and courage for you – and for salvation for the man you love.
Hi,
My name is Juliana. Im christian dating a turkish muslim guy for like almost 3 years, but 2 years we live separate as Im studing in US and he’s in turkey. We are very madly in love and all this time we are together. My parents and most of friends dont know about this relations as their attitude according to some life experience is very ” bad” to muslims men. We are planning to get married. His parents dont like this idea as they dont believe in our future together. And Im sure that my parents wont like that too. But he doesnt care about somebody’s thoughts even his family’s, he says: its my life, my choice. I wont give up. If they loved me they will accept my choice. We plan to live in Turkey, in any other city from his parents.
Im a little bit confused now. I understand what Im doing, I know its a huge risk, after reading lots of bad stuff about such experience Im of course afraid but somethings inside of me doesnt want me to give up. This love makes me believe that we will be happy together as we both want it so much. He’s saying that he doesnt care about religion and other stuff, he just wants to be with me forever. Once he said he can even become christian if thats what he has to do to be with me. All these and much more stuff makes me feel really loved and I want it to last forever. But Im very much afraid to be disappointed in the future as the most of…
Juliana, I just have a quick question: are you a nominal Christian or do you have a real relationship with Jesus? If you do have a relationship with Jesus then listen to His Word… I wouldn’t do it if I was you. If Jesus won’t be the center in your marriage because your husband is a Muslim then you are taking a huge risk. Islam is an intolerant religion and there is a great risk that you husband will become intolerant to your faith. Put Jesus first into your life and everything will fall into place.
Juliana, There are different things that influence a person when he/she s single or married. I will give you a simple example to illustrae my point.
I know of a guy that was living with a lady for five years. They knew one another quite well by this time. He knew she did not like baking cake; she knew he did not like cake. Then they decided to get married. After the marriage he all of a sudden expected of her to bake him a cake! She was angry with him and asked, Why do you all of a sudden want met to bake you a cake? You don’t even like it. He explained to her that his parents did this. His mother always baked his father a cake. That made a big inpression on him and he up to that day associated it with marriage. Now that he was married that is what he expected to happen. It was in his subconscious mind. He never thought about it, so he would not have been able to discuss it before the time.
Both you and your boyfriend are in the same situation. You do not know what things will come into play once you are married. People who come from the same culture and social standing have difficulty adjusting to one another, but it is ten times worse for people whose backgrounds differ a lot.
I have been married 43 years. Let me tell you that it is not love that makes a marriage work. Love is the fruit of a marriage that works. If both of you are convinced you are meant for one…
Pieter, Thanks so much for your respond and help. I guess you are right about the doubt. Yes I have doubt he will be the same loving and caring after we get married.
I understand that marriage means something more than love. I understand that its much easier to be married to the guy from the same country with the same culture, religin, but even sometime that doesnt work for some people. I never belived that one day I will feel I wanna get married and live my whole life with one person, see him everyday next to me and have a family with. Thats what I felt with my turkish boyfriend. I like him so much, he is my friend, my support, he is the one I feel I wanna see by my side every single day, he is the one I feel I wanna have kids with and start family. He tells me that I mean everything for him. I felt blessed that I met such person and have such strong feelings for him. I get the same loving from him. But.. there is a but.. I have doubts its not gonna be like this after marriage. I’ve read many stories about other women shared their experience. They told about how sweet and nice their husbands were before marriage and how they changed after. It was horrible to read that. Im afraid to be the next victim. We’ve disscussed this with my boyfriend before and he says he is different than other turkish men.
I really want our relations to work out. I have such strong feelings for…
If both of you are convinced you are meant for one another why don’t both of you face your families? If your family meets him and get to know him, they may come to like him. If he loves his family, he would do what pleases them. If he puts aside his family who have cared for him all his life, how easy would it be to put you aside who he has only known for three years.
Why are you are confused, I would rather call it doubt? You must first calrify this situation before you commit yourself into a situation of which you don’t know the outcome.
Jesus Christ be with you.
Juliana, the best way to resolve this, is to take him to meet your family. Don’t stress about how your parents will react. Just visit and enjoy it. Show off your boyfriend. But watch how he reacts to you under this circumstances.
Go with him to visit his parents. Watch how he behaves towards his sisters and mother. Then you will get a good idea how he will treat you.
Jesus be with you.
Hi everyone!
religion is really really something isn’t it?
whoever she/he is married to, despite their own faith.
let us not be bother nor afraid of that differences.
God created us into many nation to know each other, just learn and cherish of every beauty that still left for us.
be thankful everyone that God give you every air to every living being no matter how evil they are.
salam
It is extremely disappointing to see that my comments made with sincere intention is not made to exist. It was said that “your comments await moderation” and subsequently taken off. Please for God’s sake publish the comments and let the reader decide as to what to follow according to his/her depth of understanding. Please don’t omit comments. Please be fair by the readers and allow them the opportunity to decide for themselves without being prejudice.
I showed my film “Magdelana” – to my middle eastern relatives – The Loved it!!!!
The Dead Sea Scrolls ( found by a young muslim boy) clears up a lot of differences in the historical accounts about Torah vs. Qu’ran – the Torah fills all the holes that have been left out in the text authored by M-med.
However VERY few muslims know:
the FOUNDATION upon, which, the 5 pillars of Islam stands –
“The Burden of M-med”
The angel ( who appeared to M-med) said : Do you ACCEPT to Believe ALL that ” the Prophets” have written?
To which M-med replied: YES I Accept this Burden
Therefore: the Burden is on all followers of M-med to read the ProphetS – all the eyewitness accounts as written from Genesis onwards. This would ALSO include ‘ the red-letter words’ of Yahushua
When this burden was given M-med called himself : The messenger. This burden: refers to the Prophetical writings of the Torah AND all the recorded words that Yahushua spoke during his earthy ministry.
This is for the serious followers of M-med – not for those who love to debate.
if you ‘only like to’ debate proving the lack of serious intent as a seeker of Truth
Any contentious commentary will only serve as a witness of your (true) heart’s (ghulfin) desire to all.
((Peace))
Concerning marriage to a Muslim – I have been married to a Muslim for 34 plus years. I am a Christian – unlike the person who shared her story, I was active in my faith when we married AND my husband made a profession of faith in Christ, then we married.
Previously, there was an online support group for non-Muslim women in relationship with Muslim men “Loving a Muslim” – I was the first moderator of this group. There is a “secret” group on Facebook for women like us where we still give support to each other.
interesting issue. it is significant challenge to be a Christian when ones married to a non-believer in your faith. it is dameging to your faith to not be on the same footing in the marriage, and oyur children only have one example to led them to Christ. it must be hard for this woman.
We all fall short in our understanding of God. God loves all of us regardless of our faith, and can reach anyone. Relationship with Christ and trust without fear is so important and I would encourage you to lead your daughter to follow Him and to save God’s Word in her heart beginning now. It’s important that she honor her dad. When and if her dad wants her to go to the Mosque to pray she can go and Jesus will go with her. She can pray in her heart or quietly outloud to Jesus. Only Jesus has risen from the grave and is living now. Your and your daughter’s Christ-like life and prayer for her dad will do much more than arguments.
I have been married to a Muslim for 25 years. The road has been rough like in most marriages but I will have to say mine feels a bit more bumpy. The first thing I would say to anyone thinking about marrying outside of their own faith is to think of your children. Believe me there will be tension over this. I have have been praying for my husband for 25 years and will continue to do so. I pray God softens his heart so he may see the true love of Jesus Christ, and that he does not have to live in fear of God, and that he can have a loving personal relationship with the one true living God. Our relationship is very complicated, but without a doubt I love my husband and will continue to pray for him even with my last breath. Prayers and love to all. God bless
..well said sister.. living with a muslim husband and still live as a good Christian is really challenging.. pray for him.. pray for him.. ur husband will be sanctified thro’ you.. without compromising ur faith, without hurting ur husband becoz he is a muslim, be a good chrisitian wife, I’m sure, he’ll come to Christ.. I swear.. we all pray for u..
Dear SKhan, your post of 11th December 2011 & quote of the Achtiname of Muhammad offers a gracious attitude towards and rights for my Christian brothers & sisters worldwide, many of whom are oppressed, persecuted, imprisoned (on false witness & accusation), threatened & murdered. Why are they treated like this? Simply because they love Jesus Christ, follow Him & worship Him! (Not all who do this to them are Muslims, I readily acknowledge)
Can I therefore ask you to commit yourself from now on to:
1. Declaring this to all Muslims you can worldwide, and defending these rights for all Christians, especially in those countries where they being treated like this?
2. Being an advocate on behalf of Christians who are being so treated, wherever?
May Jesus, who is God, bless you and your family abundantly.
can some one give me a verse where Jesus says “worship Me”
1+1+1= 1??????????????????
Father+son + Holy ghost = 1???
i’ve never heard of something like this. read the bible and you understand that GOD is ONE. Do u mean Moses(peace be upon him), Abraham (peace be upon him) ….and other prophets worshipped Jesus (peace be upon Him)?
how can GOD sacrifice HIS son (so called) for all these sinful people while HE’s The Most Loving, Most Merciful?
really it doesnt make sense.
peace.
To all ladies who are thinking of marrying a Moslem….
It is a well-known fact that Moslems marry Christian women as part of their stealth-jihad. If you marry a Moslem he will insist that your children be raised Moslem, thereby growing their numbers from within the country.
DON’T DO IT !!!
Dear Qaala, here is a response. Sorry that it is so lengthy.
FATHER, SON, AND HOLY SPIRIT: ONE GOD
Clearly the the Holy Bible teaches us that there is only one God. Now let’s consider how that agrees with the mention of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit in seven
places in the Bible.
“Baptizing them in the name (not names) of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit” (Matthew 28:19). It is one name of one God as we have seen.
Of true believers, who have received Christ in their hearts and thus were born again by a new spiritual birth. Christ said: “My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me, and I give them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to me is greater than all, and no man is able to snatch them out of my Father’s hand. I and My Father are one” (John 10:27-30).
“Philip said to Him, ‘Lord, show us the Father, and it is sufficient for us.’ Jesus said to him, ‘Have I been with you so long and yet you have not known Me, Philip? … He who has seen Me has seen the Father … I am in the Father, and the Father in Me … the Father who dwells in Me does the works’” (John 14:8-10).
“But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of Christ dwells in you. Now if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he is…
Sandra.. Bible talk about One God.. but quran mocks Christians as we worship Mary as goddess.. it’s a clear proof that quran is an earthly illusion.. because there was a cult in 7th century arabia called “Maryanyas”, who said if Jesus is God, then his mother Mary is a goddess..!! this is the stupid way of explaining trinity.. We Christians believe in Trinity as One God manifesting Himself in Father, Son and Holy Spirity.. and He created everything on earth with a trinitarian character.. water expressing itself in solid, liquid and gas.. time as past, present & future, etc.. there is no 4th state.. and quran is compiled by successors of Mohamed 100+ years after his death.. what credibility could be given to it??
Qur’an doesn’t include Mary as part of the trinity.
The Qur’an was memorized by the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and his followers. There were notes taken by those who had not memorized it but it was written down later. This was done so because at the time, it was argued that something so Holy could not be written on paper which tears and rots over time. It was a huge contraversy to have it written down but eventually having it written down was won over. As far as the bible goes, to my knowledge, it was not even written until much later either. And I need to see clarification…. there are too many copies of the Bible that say too many different things. Where’s the “credibility” in that??
I would just like to say that as a Christian woman growing up in the Church, and an activie Christian woman, I became a nominal Christian up to the point of meeting my muslim husband. We have been married for 5 years. He use to drink a lot, go clubbing, etc. when I met him. After a year in our marriage, he had gradually changed. Whilst I was what you would call a nominal Christian, my lifestyle was a God-fearing one. He stopped drinking, would make his daily namaaz, fasted during the month of Ramadaan, etc. I found this exemplary and started reading many books including acquiring an English Quran, reading the Hadiths, understanding the 5 Pillars of Islam, etc. He is Turkish and I am South African. We met in South Africa. Last year I decided to give up my executive job and move to Turkey with him. Things have changed. I have given my life to the Lord Jesus Christ in April 2012. I am now at a crossroads. My faith has grown so strong, I am finding my earthly companionship “unequally yoked” even though there is ample justification within both religeons to remain in the marriage. On the Christian side, he is sanctified by me through my faith in Jesus Christ and my salvation. From the side of Islam there is also ample justification for us to remain together. We love each other very much. However, my crossroads is at a point of choosing Jesus Christ over my earthly…
I married a man..we never really talked about our faith..his family is baptist. While over seas the first year of our marriage he coverted to Islam. I am stressed and worried how it is going to effect our marriage. Let alone the two young children we are going to raise together. This is my first marriage and I want it to work. I am confused an worried that it won’t because I am Christian and he is now Muslim.
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I am married to Muslim and I’m a born again christiian and he does not want me to go to church and he is hurting me deeply what to do I’m in trouble
After reading some of these comments, I feel very sad that most of the people commenting do not understand much about “the culture of Islam”. The culture of Islam is slightly different to the practice of Islam.
I’ve been married to a Muslim man and have lived in Arabia for the past 32 years. By mutual consent, our marriage will cease to be in March 2013. Yes, I know it sounds strange, but we both have been planning our divorce for many months–only waiting to get our lives in order before the final step.
Our marriage was a disaster from day one, but we continued on out of pride.He didn’t want his family to know they were “right” when they said it would never work, and I was too ashamed to go back home and have everyone pity me. Yes, we plodded on.
The plodding on damaged our 3 kids and caused us unbearable stress in our everyday lives.
Muslims have an entirely different view of the world than those of us who were raised in a Christian culture. They are fatalistic, and we are hopeful. They blame everything on the will of God (as an excuse to not do anything) and we blame ourselves for not following the right path.
I’ve lives around many women who were or are married to Muslims and I can tell you, all of them have problems.
For me, my husband is a liar, and sees nothing wrong with it. He has no respect for others of other cultures or religions. And he is lazy…
I understand your husband has flaw— maybe major flaws but you cannot say that all Muslims are like that. You are correct in saying that some people do not follow what the religion says well enough. They are a bad representation. Just as I cannot meet a mean Christian/ Jew/ Hindu/ etc and say that all of them are like that. I am sure you or anyone else on this blog would like that. And obviously, through history you can see that when people of different religions get married there are problems. Also, if you can say you know many people who are married to Muslims that have problems you can also then say that you know a lot of Muslims who are married to people of different religions — and they ALL have problems. Same thing, open your mind a little please. And again, some people are just not meant for each other. If this marriage was not something you were happy in then I congradulate you for taking the step and making your life better
Islam allows Muslims marry other non Muslim as long as they worship one god but who in todays society does except Muslims, as for those who have married a Muslim man or are wanting to is to not because he either not practicing and dosent mind in but once he does then there will be complications also if you don’t know about the religion before you marry then your going in blind, as for those who are guessing what Islam is go and read the scripture of the Muslims before you speak without knowledge and not search google, as for Jesus peace be upon who was a messenger who used to eat and drink and was circumcised like any other human being, if you think just because he no father and came from a virgin women that he is the son of god then what about Adam peace be upon him no father or mother hmmmm if anyone had the right to name of son of god it would be him christanity Denise use of rational thinking which why atheism cam about because of Christianity so to everyone u have been given a mind use along with your soul !
Why don’t u christian ladies stick to christian guys seeing that you complain about muslim guys being so “bad” – don’t make sense!
HI.
Thanks for your post. I am in exactly the same position as you, my husband is a devoted muslim. But my sistuation is much worse than yours though. I don’t want to go into much detail but yes, its difficult and I always feel like I’m the only one going through this spiritual battles which which causes marital tension.
Anyway I hope all goes well and that you get wisdom because I don’t have any for my own sistuation even.
Just remember , Joy comes in the morning.
Why don’t you get divorced if you’ve lost trust in your husband or are unfairly treated by him or his family?
Is it because Christianity doesn’t permit divorce even in the 21st century? or that Jesus sees marrying a divorcee akin to adultery?
I am a christian girl from Lebanon, and I’ve been dating a Muslim guy for 10 months, he is perfect and we really love each other, we always talk about the future and of civil marriage but we live in Lebanon and to my parents that’s kinda impossible … neither him or his family has a problem with the children’s thought of being Christians, but my family isn’t accepting the fact that he’s Muslim and the only hope for us lies in his conversion to a christian, and even then I will face problems but problems that can be solved, I don’t know if I have the right to ask him to become a christian, but I really do love him … What should I do? Do I listen to my parents or to my heart? [Shortened for brevity, Admin]